Past, Present, and Future Tomarrymort Discord

[tomarrymortdiscord]

New Tomarrymort Discord - Past, Present, and Future!

Who: All shippers of the pairing Harry Potter/Tom Riddle and/or Harry Potter/Voldemort (and all the gray areas in between!) who are at least 18-years-old.

What: An 18+ pro-ship, anti-censorship private tomarrymort Discord server.

Where: Discord private server. Early adopter invite link (limited!)

This server is invite only, so please share the link with your trusted tomarrymort friends!

This initial link will expire within 7 days, at which time we will evaluate how things are going and create new invite links as needed.

Why: We completely understand and respect why many Discord moderators have recently chosen to change their rules to comply with Discord’s new ToS policies. This is not at all about criticizing those decisions, which were extremely difficult for many to make! We support our fellow mods wholeheartedly, and we ask that no one use this new server to bash other servers or their mods, as we acknowledge that it is important that everyone do whatever they feel they need to do to protect their own safety and wellbeing.

That said, we also recognize that a gap has been created for the tomarrymort community in light of Discord’s new policies, and this is our attempt to help fill that gap. It will not be perfect, but we will continue to adjust to meet the needs of the community and uphold our anti-censorship values to the best of our ability.

See our Discord policy here: https://www.tumblr.com/tomarrymortdiscord/796856208854319104/rule-11?source=share

(subject to change as needed)

This is a new group, so please be patient as we grow and figure things out, and don’t hesitate to share your feedback with the mods!

[tomarrymortdiscord]

Rule 11

October 2025 update based on recent changes to Discord’s ToS:

We are strongly pro-ship and believe in preserving a safe, open space for the tomarrymort community. That said, moving forward, please refrain from using the following blocked terms on the server even in reference of what not to say, so that we can continue to operate within Discord’s policies, while still staying true to our anti-censorship values. Examples are provided below as to how to frame things differently.

❌ Blocked terms: shota, shotacon, loli, lolicon, toddlercon, babycon, pedo, pedophilia, cp, child sexual abuse, extreme underage, ephebophilia, hebephilia

✅ Acceptable terms: UA, EUA, Underage

❌ Blocked: Explicit mentions of age if under 18 (e.g., 14 years old)

✅ Acceptable alternatives:

References by book titles (CoS, PoA, GoF, etc.), Xth Year (Fourth year), Calendar years (94-95), By major events (Graveyard Resurrection scene, DoM battle, Hogwarts era, Tom at Wool's, etc.)

You may also use the "United Airlines" format popularized by hp-kinkmeme, where flight length refers to age (e.g., 14 hr. flight on United Airlines), or the United Airlines logo emoji.

Sharing links to fics on ao3 that contain explicit, fictional underage material is expressly allowed. NSFW illustrations that are not obviously underage are also allowed in the server, but moderators may intervene at their discretion if they feel the content violates Discord’s ToS in a way that may endanger the server or anyone in it. Any explicit content involving or appearing to involve actual minors (or requests for/offers of such content) is obviously not allowed, and will result in an immediate ban.

Special thanks to @hpkinkmeme for inspiring this list and methodology of handling Discord’s policies. If you have questions about terms not included on the list, please contact the mod team directly.

Edit 10/11: We have removed "underage" and "grooming" from the blocked terms. The term "Extreme underage" is still blocked.

[tomarrymortdiscord]

Rule 11

October 2025 update based on recent changes to Discord's ToS: We are strongly pro-ship and believe in preserving a safe, open space for the tomarrymort community. That said, moving forward, please refrain from using the following blocked terms on the server even if they are to be used in reference of what not to say, so that we can continue to operate within Discord's policies, while still staying true to our anti-censorship values. Examples will be provided as to how to frame things differently.

Blocked terms: shota, shotacon, loli, lolicon, pedo, pedophilia, cp, csam, csa, child sexual abuse, grooming, underage, ephebophilia, hebephilia

Acceptable terms: UA, EUA

No explicit mentions of age (ex. 14 years old) References by book titles (CoS, PoA, GoF etc.), Xth Year (Fourth year), By major events (PreW1 = Pre 1st Wizarding War), (PreW2 = Pre 2nd Wizarding War), or “Hogwarts-Era” are acceptable. Links to fanfiction websites that depict UA material is explicitly allowed. NSFW Illustrations that are not obviously UA are also allowed, but moderators may intervene at their discretion if they feel the content violates Discord's ToS.

Special thanks to hp kink meme for inspiring this list and methodology of handling discord's policies. If you have questions about the terms not included on the list, please contact the mod team directly.