Trans[Swagtastic] Chat

WHO ARE WE? As a whole, we are people who want to explain our lives to you, answer any questions and curiosity, and ultimately clear up some confusion. We don't stand for the whole trans* community, but we can answer to the best of our reaches. Please...

[letters-to-lgbt-kids]

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Do you need a glass of water, a snack or a nap? 

It can be pretty easy to ignore those basic needs, especially so if you tend to be very hard on yourself or your body. If you don’t like yourself, you may subconciously “punish” yourself by depriving your body of these things. 

If you struggle with that, it can help to regularly check in with yourself as if your body was a baby you’re taking care of. (You can also think of a puppy or a kitten - anything that you would consider adorable and worth protecting). 

This is actually a trick my therapist taught me. It may not work for everyone but it helps me a lot. If a baby is hungry, you wouldn’t say “Stupid weak baby, you weren’t productive today, you don’t deserve a snack” - you would just feed them. If a puppy could barely keep their eyes open, you wouldn’t say “You are bad and ugly, you didn’t earn a nap” - you would just allow them to sleep. 

You don’t need to talk to yourself like that, either. You deserve to take care of yourself, just like a baby or a puppy deserves to be taken care of. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

[littlebabycrybtch]

hey full offense but the ‘use the right pronouns even if the person is horrible!’ statements arent made to coddle horrible ppl, its saying ‘dont view correct pronouns as a fucking privilege that can be taken away once people decide you’ve fucked up enough’, misgendering someone on purpose is transphobic no matter what bc it equates transphobia as a ‘punishment’ for bad people, pronouns are a part of baseline human respect, its that simple

[freegan-life]

Leftists, I want y’all to destroy the idea of “laziness” yesterday

Motivation, patience, and energy are limited resources, especially for people with executive dysfunction, mental disabilities, and physical disabilities.

Next time you want to assume you or someone else is being “lazy”, consider the actual reasons behind why there is not enough in them to do the thing.

Left to their own devices, free people are naturally driven to improve their lives and the lives of others,

Right wing arguments’ foundations depends on the assumption that humans are naturally selfish, evil, and “lazy”, and must be controlled by higher powers and punished when they don’t contribute enough (with the insistence that certain groups of people are more deserving of being controlled and punished than others)

Next time you notice you or someone else is struggling to accomplish something, don’t assume “laziness”, instead ask yourself: am I tired? Depleted of patience? In a bad mood? If I keep pushing myself through this, will it really be worth the distress?

Maybe what you need is rest, someone to talk to, mental health support, or to just be safe, with all your needs being met. Maybe we should eliminate “laziness” as an easy explanation and instead consider our needs first.

[daisypath]

Laziness Does Not Exist

Psychological research is clear: when people procrastinate, there's usually a good reason

I hope you don't mind me adding this article. I think it is relevant and it had a hand in shaping my thoughts on the matter.

[letters-to-lgbt-kids]

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Loving your body doesn’t necessarily mean standing in front of a mirror and thinking “I am so beautiful, my body is perfect and I can’t stop looking at my own reflection because I look so dang good!”. 

Those moments are awesome and I hope you experience them sometimes, you deserve to feel that happy in your skin! But loving your body is more than that. 

Loving your body also means: 

- wearing clothes that keep you warm enough 

- going to bed when you are tired

- taking a water bottle with you because you know hydration is important

- doing a quick “splashing my face with water” thingy because you are too sleepy for a full shower but still want to clean your face 

- drinking a cup of tea when you have a headache because you noticed it makes you feel better 

- eating dinner, even though you don’t feel like it

It’s not just the big feel-good moments or the big self-pampering moments. Every time you take a tiny action to keep your body healthy, especially on days you don’t really feel like it, you are doing an act of love - even if you feel ugly while you do it. 

If you feel ugly, uncomfortable in your body or dysphoric, it may feel impossible to stand in a front of a mirror and like what you see. Instead, try to just notice all the tiny things you do for your body and allow yourself to feel proud of yourself for doing so. It takes strength and bravery to keep doing these acts of love on bad days - you are amazing! 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

[ftmdennisreynolds]

i'm not an artist by any means and tumblr is gonna crunch the image quality of this but i just thought it was important to put out into the world today. wishing everyone a solemn and safe day.

[i-hate-chick-fil-a]

I mad agree with this.

[madameblack]

This reminds me, if y'all haven’t heard of therapyforblackgirls.com please visit if you need a therapist. You can search by mental health need, location/distance, insurance, etc. I believe there are some that provide a sliding scale payment method for those without insurance.

If you’re not quite ready to make the jump, there is a podcast you can listen to as well as articles and links to help answer some of your questions about mental health and/or therapy.

The purpose, as I understand it, is to provide a place where black women can go to find culturally sensitive therapy. Some specialize in family/couples as well.

Take a look.

[imfemalewarrior]

For any black Women following me! 

Taking care of your mental health is another important factor in your overall health. Fighting for good mental health is a fight worth doing, and is just as difficult, if not moreso, than physical fighting. 

-FemaleWarrior, She/They 

[n0kiv]

Especially with everything going on right now. We constantly hear how strong we are and it’s like no we can be tired, emotional, stressed too and we need to take care of our mental health. Here are some free therapy sessions that I’ve seen going around. Please share

[guavajelly]

Also Black minds matter UK!

https://www.blackmindsmatteruk.com/

[loveablewomb1927]

I love this

[nikov]

BREONNA TAYLOR’S CASE IS FINALLY GOING TO BE PLACED IN FRONT OF A GRAND JURY

After almost 200 days since Breonna Taylor was murdered, her case will be presented to a grand jury by Attorney General Daniel Cameron. 

— WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?

It means that it’s time to go harder than ever before for Breonna Taylor. 

1. GET OFF YOUR LAZY *** AND SIGN THIS THIS AND THIS PETITION

2. DONATE TO BREONNA’S FAMILY IF YOU CAN

3. MAKE SOME CALLS DEMANDING JUSTICE! Numbers are included in THIS Twitter thread.

MORE INFO INCLUDED IN THIS TWITTER THREAD.

It’s time to show everyone that WE CARE ABOUT BREONNA TAYLOR. We want JUSTICE FOR BREONNA TAYLOR. 

______________________

Additional Resources:

• black lives matter carrd • issues in the world carrd • US CITIZENS: vote in your upcoming Presidential election :) 

[gaylor-moon]

WHICH ONE OF YALL MADE THIS 😂😂😂

[hattiefox-deactivated20230606]

OMG

[aleshakills]

Every time I see this post, I remember briefly after I came out to my mother, I had to calmly and rationally explain “Women can like video games and computers too”

[snootyfoxfashion]

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A portion of each sale is donated to a non-profit organization.

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[lately-leo-blog]

what most people think of when they hear the word “tea”:

what my dumb trans ass automatically thinks of instead:

[ithelpstodream]

[glitterz]

Omg rly ??

[ithelpstodream]

yes! really!

translifeline.org

US: [phone]

CANADA: [phone]

Pacific time: 8am to 2am

Mountain time: 9am to 3am

Central time: 10am to 4am

Eastern time: 11am to 5am

Alaska time: 7am to 1am

Hawaii time: 6am to 12am

[aaliyahbreaux]

Okay so I just got off the phone with them. I talked to a trans girl named Aurora & she was super helpful! She gave me a few doctors to talk to & encouraged me to seek therapy instead of just rushing to get my pills. She literally found a trans friendly therapist in my town & I would definitely recommend giving them a call!

[nothappy-nonbinary-forpositivity]

GUYS COME SEE THIS!!!!!! I didn’t know about this, come look!!!!!!

[trans-chat]

Random things that make top surgery recovery easier

A few months before you get surgery, exercise a lot, especially in your core. If you do lots of crunches and/or situps, once you’ve lost a lot of mobility and strength it will be so much easier to sit up and stand up if your abdominal muscles are stronger. 

Bendy straws! It makes drinking beverages so much easier. 

Make sure stuff is in arms’ reach since you won’t be able to reach very far. 

Stay ahead of your pain. Don’t wait until you hurt so much you can hardly move. 

Medicines you are given often give you a dry mouth, so 1. keep lots of water handy 2. get some minty gum because that dry mouth will make it taste like something died in there. Also brush your teeth (duh.) 

Get some stool softener pills. Any sort of narcotic pain killers (like Norco, Vicodin, etc.) will constipate the heck out of you, and milk of magnesia is gross af, just take pills to get the same effects. 

Always wash your hands, it’ll reduce the risk of infection. 

When positioning yourself, make sure your chest is in as little pain as possible, but also make sure you’re not going to make every other part of your body sore as a result. In trying to stop any pressure on my chest whatsoever, I twisted my back around and woke up with a really sore back. 

If you do end up with muscle pains, heating pads are great. If your chest hurts, use cold to treat pain and decrease swelling but only for short periods and with lots of bandages on your chest. 

Get some nice facial wipes because you won’t be able to shower for a week or longer. Also, the night before you get surgery (or whenever the last time you shower before then,) don’t condition your hair. It’s not as healthy, sure, but it’ll keep it from getting too greasy as you won’t be able to wash it for a while. 

Cough drops or some sort of hard candy, also tea with honey is highly recommended, as you’ll probably have a sore throat from the breathing tube they give you under anesthesia. 

If you want to take a non-narcotic pain killer, take tylenol, not an NSAID like advil, because NSAID pills can make bleeding worse. Also, don’t take multivitamins for the week before, as Vitamin E can worsen bleeding. 

Even if you’ve got drains like I did, the first night you sleep, you should put down a towel to sleep on in case you leak from other places under the bandages or surgical vest. This is normal so long as you’re not leaking dark red blood, but then again why stain your sheets when you can avoid it? 

Wear easy-to-move-in and easy-to-remove clothes: no jeans, no t-shirts, stick to button-downs and sweatpants or pajama pants. 

Feel free to add more tips! 

-L

One last thing, shave your armpits because tape WILL get caught in the hair and that’s quite unpleasant.

[jackironsides]

Something I can thought of:

If you’re on a budget, you can get baby wipes instead of facial wipes. Plenty of them will be labelled as ‘sensitive’, too. I find that baby wipes generally cost half as much as facial wipes, and the packets are often bigger.

[enigmaticpink]

Pride pusheens in celebration of pride month!

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[trans-chat]

how do i come to terms with the fact that i'm trans?

It’s a difficult process for everyone. You are not alone! It took my self a good year of conscious contemplation and questioning to come out to my supportive family. Even then, it was a few years before I truly stopped questioning if I had made a mistake.

I definitely suggest trying to partake in a local support group and if you’d like I can help you locate one over private message.

[trans-chat]

So like, my question is what does it mean to be out as a trans person? I know people who like people to know their trans and other people to not? For me personally people always disrespect my pronouns once they find out I'm trans

Being out as a trans person varies person to person. Many individuals prefer to conceal their identity as it can be safer and easier to deal with than the disrespect that may follow telling them.

Personally, I am tend to be quite selective in who I disclose my identity to in the workplace; however, when socially interacting with people I might tell them if it naturally comes up in story.

It’s important to note that I live in Los Angeles and have the privilege of a fairly accepting community. Some individuals are unable to come out, whether seen as their gender or sex, as they don’t have such a privilege.

[julykings]

more self portraits pt. 2 // insta

[i-am-a-fish]

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