transcendent whispers

[transcendentwhispers]

[transcendentwhispers]

Are Men Talking Too Much?

I once had a conversation with a friend, Susan (name has been changed), who had done an experiment in a meeting with several colleagues. They were all on the same level in the hierarchy of their organization, but Susan had observed something about gender dynamics in their meetings. Despite men making up less than 50 percent of the members of the meetings, they were taking up far more than 50 percent of the time given to people voicing ideas.

“I began to actively work to fight patriarchy, especially the ideas that had enforced the unbiblical view of my own words’ importance over and above those of women, in a simple way. I gave time to women’s voices, and I found that this practice makes an amazing difference in conversations. Suddenly, I was hearing more insights than my own. I was learning much more about people whom I’d thought I’d known quite well. This was because I was ensuring they had the space and time to fully share their own ideas before I tried to share my own.“

[transcendentwhispers]

People on the margins and in the intersections need to see themselves and their stories in the conversation, but they also need to learn to tell those stories. A common retelling of the book of Esther is through a white male lens: Esther is the winner of a beauty pageant, and the titles of king and queen are filtered through a western understanding of power and some degree of equality if not equity and agency for both king and queen. But when I look at Esther’s story I see racial passing and the implications of a young, disenfranchised woman who has assimilated but not completely lost her culture accepting the opportunity to seek justice for her people in a misogynistic culture. I see how Esther couldn’t have come to her journey if it were not for the prior example of Queen Vashti choosing first to speak out by refusing the king’s demands for what amounts to a lap dance for his friends.

Kathy Khang: Why we stay silent and how to speak up

[transcendentwhispers]

Antiracist ideas are based in the truth that racial groups are equals in all the ways they are different, assimilationist ideas are rooted in the notion that certain racial groups are culturally or behaviorally inferior, and segregationist ideas spring from a belief in genetic racial distinction and fixed hierarchy.

Ibram X. Kendi, How to Be an Antiracist

[larapaulussen]

Warm colours and some vitamin c for the short story illustration in the january issue of @simplethingsmag 🍋🍊 

https://www.instagram.com/larapaulussen/

[cdbaca]

The message of the new righteousness which eschatological faith brings into the world says that in fact the executioners will not finally triumph over their victims. It also says that in the end the victims will not triumph over their executioners. The one will triumph who first died for the victims and then also for the executioners, and in so doing revealed a new righteousness which breaks through the vicious circles of hate and vengeance and which from the lost victims and executioners creates a new mankind with a new humanity.

The Crucified God - Jurgen Moltmann (via cdbaca)

[oldfarmhousefallfeatures]

https://timeandhome

[lilblueorchid]

It seems to be an orange, blue, and green mood. Pleinairpril day 25 to 27! Almost over…… I’m really tired hahah. 

[lilblueorchid]

Last batch coming  today! Pleinapril will be over tonight. Thank you so much for the overwhelming support. <3 

[macrolit]

It’s clear that the books owned the shop rather than the other way about. Everywhere they had run wild and taken possession of their habitat, breeding and multiplying, and clearly lacking any strong hand to keep them down.

The Clocks, Agatha Christie (via macrolit)

[butterlines]

empty street~ 

[fairydropart]

Little comfort 

[emotional-algebra]

“It is never too late to turn on the light. Your ability to break an unhealthy habit or turn off an old tape doesn’t depend on how long it has been running; a shift in perspective doesn’t depend on how long you’ve held on to the old view. When you flip the switch in that attic, it doesn’t matter whether its been dark for ten minutes, ten years or ten decades. The light still illuminates the room and banishes the murkiness, letting you see the things you couldn’t see before. Its never too late to take a moment to look.”

Sharon Salzberg (via emotional-algebra)

[tkkatherineblog]

Inst @johntanner

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat!

[whitepeopletwitter]

[milominderbindered]

[lacetulle]

Paolo Sebastian | The Passage of Spring

[transcendentwhispers]

'So Much Grief': What The Virus Has Taken From My Family

I shed tears daily, writes Kim Triedman. But I wipe them away and hug my husband and make lemon bars for dessert.