You Are Black Women First, Aaron Fans Second
I never thought I'd have to explain misogynoir, colorism, and transphobia to other black women -- until a lot of yall joined Aaron's fandom. Which has been such a trip. From six of us promoting Genius to...a whole bustling tag of activity. Some good, some bad. But I ain't make this long ass post to talk about the good.
I see the last thing I said to @pocketsizedpanther didn't get through that noggin so I'm going to try again. I'm doing it one last time so that you can't say nobody sat you down and tried to be kind. I did. Twice.
As for you? You're old enough to know better, @imperfectlyxangelic. You pushing 50 and online doing this? (As well as much worse. Yall don't even want to know how she talks about Teyana when she switches that button to anonymous in DMs.) How sad.
You're both black women before you're fans. Look in the mirror and remember that.
Colorism's definition is literally "prejudiceย or discrimination against individuals with a dark skin tone, typically among people of the same ethnic or racial group."
It doesn't matter that you've decided Jayme Lawson is your token darkskin. It simply doesn't. Your comments about Teyana and her behaviors (as well as the behaviors of her children) are rooted in inherent biases and colorism. If a white man said half the shit yall say about her and her kids, it'd be racism. Turn off your cognitive dissonance and THINK. Don't double down. Just think.
You are women who are upholding patriarchal standards of beauty and physicality. (Which you shouldn't do because neither one of you fit beauty standards. That's not shade! Beauty standards aren't made with black women in mind.) You don't have to a misogynist to participate in misogynistic narratives.
There's no one way to be a woman or womanly. You are saying that because Teyana does not do A, she is not a woman. Because she does B, she is manly. To be "manly" as a woman is seen as a negative. You're policing her body and upholding patriarchy with your "willful" ignorance
This is a transphobic narrative used by redpilled men and women to 'transvestigate' women. You are implying she is not a real woman because she's got muscles and abs and striking facial features. Or some other stupid ass reason that none of you ever fully explain.
You do not have to be transsexual to be hit with transphobic narratives or transmisogyny. I am linking several articles below to help you better yourselves.
Transmisogyny 101 The Persistent Problem of Colorism The Curse of Internalized Misogyny
As for the Aaron fans who silently watch y'all do things like this without pushing back, I fear that they deserve lashings too. You can whine and cry about somebody filling up the tag with pictures of him with his girlfriend but quiet about shit like this when it come across the dash. You Stevie Wonder when they're using AI to digitally alter images of them together.
People are coming in and seeing shit like #THAT from popular blogs so this fandom already has a reputation. You can't sit and be quiet when you see shit like that. And if you can -- what kind of person are you? I don't want to read no fics from somebody snickering when a black woman get called a talentless cunt. When her kids get called rude trolls. Fuck wrong with yall?
I'll get in the ring with any of y'all tbh. Please argue with me. Please try to excuse blatant bullshit. I'll be here all week.
