In the mind of a Island girl...

Excuse the excess

[hermajestyimher]

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[thevirgodoll]

you should never fight someone for their healing. it has to be a decision from within. sometimes one must reap to have an epiphany.

as much as you want to help save a person from themselves, you’re only prolonging their healing process further. you're encouraging self sabotage not only for them, but for yourself.

you have to stay in your lane. just as you found your own way to your destination, you have to allow others to do the same.

healing doesn't involve telling others how to heal, but showing others by example what the other side can look like. they have to make their choices on their own.

you are a catalyst for change by changing yourself. stop trying to control everyone around you. rest.

[thehiddenhill]

[serpentstyles]

[hermajestyimher]

Opulent in green

[hermajestyimher]

One archetype of person that I’ve never been able to get along with are the ones who aren’t risk takers. And by risk takers, I don’t mean people who are reckless or impulsive or constantly making decisions without thinking. I mean people who have vision, ambition, and who can see something greater for their lives and are willing to take risks to get there. The kind of person who can’t see what’s on the other side of a lake, but knows that whatever is there is good, and still decides to walk on water to reach it and trusting that along the way there will be opportunities, hope, and new paths that will open up to help them get there.

Taking risks doesn’t mean everything will go smoothly. Things can and will go wrong. But the difference between a real risk taker and someone who’s not is that the risk taker doesn’t crumble when things go sideways. They take it as part of the journey and as something that’s meant to shape them and teach them so that when they get to their destination, they’re stronger and more grounded. Pressure doesn’t break them but it builds them.

The people who aren’t risk takers and who always choose what’s comfortable and familiar, usually stay in the same place their whole lives. They talk about wanting more, but they won’t do what it takes to get it. And what I’ve noticed is that risk takers tend to be the intuitives, the overachievers, the black sheep and generational breakers of their immediate circles who refuse to go along with the system because they know their vision is greater than that. That’s why they’re often lonely. People like that are rare, so naturally the ones who truly align with them are rare too.

When you’re someone who’s curious and ambitious, it’s almost impossible to connect deeply with people who aren’t. The way you see the world, the way you move through life is just different. Some will look at you like you’re crazy for doing what you’re doing. Some will look at you with admiration because they wish they could do the same. And others will look at you with envy or even contempt, because how dare you try to rise above the life they’ve accepted for themselves. That’s where the jealousy, the sabotage, the smear campaigns come from. It’s one of the challenges that risk takers have to deal with.

But even that can teach you something. If you know how to read it and grow through it, those experiences can ground you, sharpen your discernment, and make you even more resilient. It’s part of the price you pay for refusing to live small.

[afro-diety]

i love women, i love femininity.. i love cleavage, the sway of women’s hips, sweet scents, soft skin. i love how we romanticize life, errands for women is get shit done but add coffee and shopping in. also errands may mean maintenance days: waxes, lashes, hair, nails. being a woman is almost poetic, being a woman is like taking the scenic route, being a woman is everything.

[artblackafrica]

Pascale Marthine Tayou (Cameroon), Tug of War, 2013

[succulentsiren]

Transitions don’t need to be painful, you just need to get rid of the need to control everything & the need to have everything go exactly your way. Holding on to things that are meant to be transformed can seriously drain your mental energy — to the point that it can cause you unnecessary suffering and pain. When you cling onto what is meant to be let go of, you delay your blessings. Learn to let life flow. Don’t hold onto what is being called to be released and untangled. Let life unfold itself naturally with no struggle, overthinking or need to know how everything will end up. Trust that everything is being put exactly where it needs to be in order for you to thrive.

[softdaisie]

maybe the purpose of life is to fill it with as many positive things as you can. regardless of how bad life gets, don’t let it steal your personality, your hobbies, your style. after coming home from a bad day at work maybe you need to sit down and read a nice book. after studying non-stop for so long, maybe you should finish that crochet project you’ve been putting off because you’re so busy. maybe we should prioritize the things we love, the things that make us happy, and not just the things we’re forced to do to survive. in this society, a little peace from the outside world is important. don’t give up on the things that make you happy. don’t forget about yourself.

[urdreamgirlangel]

[hermajestyimher]

Learning to be compassionate and understanding with myself. Learning to understand that taking moments of rest doesn't make me lazy or unproductive. Learning to extend grace to me whenever I make a mistake and to not internalize the abuse others may try to inflict on me. Learning to be happy and satisfied with who I am and who God designed me to be, I'm perfectly and wonderfully made. Learning to not worry about impressing others and living up to their expectations but only focus on reaching personal milestones for my own satisfaction. I'm learning to love myself and to unlearn any internal toxic monologue that conditions me to be harsh on myself because I'm the only one responsible for ensuring my well-being and loving myself is a duty, not an option.

[hermajestyimher]

They may look down on you for choosing to constantly start over, but I applaud you for never giving up.

[hermajestyimher]

Why yes, I am absolutely obsessed with myself, I'm glad you noticed. Why wouldn't I be? I have to live with and take care of the body I've been given and the only I have and will ever have in this lifetime. Why does me thinking of myself highly bother you? Don't you think that says more about your own insecurities and internalized shame than it does about me? I will continue living and cherishing myself, and I hope that one day you can learn to do the same thing for yourself!

[hermajestyimher]

Become A Master of All Trades

In everything you do, show up in mastery. Limits exist only where your mind chooses to place them. If you decide you are the best in a specific craft, you have no option but to embody the best. If you embody mastery, the world will reflect that back to you.

Every area you choose to enter with enough work, dedication, unwavering commitment, and trust in yourself, you will become a master in that field. Others will recognize your importance. You will command respect and authority. You must be willing to put in the work to hone those skills physically, mentally, and spiritually. But you can do it, because mastery is fundamentally an identity.

The first step is choosing to see yourself as a master, removing all self-limiting beliefs, and aiming for the stars. Even if you fall short, you will still land on the moon, and that will take you far beyond those bound by a constrained and restricted mindset.

[hermajestyimher]

Remember to always keep your options open and to never jump to conclusions. In everything in life: jobs, relationships, places, etc. You have to take people and things for what they show you and as they come. Always ensure that you’re aware you do have other options to fall back on if something doesn’t work out.

Remember, we live in abundance, not scarcity, and the best things in life are actively pursuing us and wanting us. It never ends with just one opportunity, the opportunities are endless and the possibilities countless. Isn’t that wonderful?

[hermajestyimher]

Propaganda I’m not falling for: “medium-ugly men”, “dad bods”, or the idea that “men are visual creatures” who have a right to be with beautiful women and enjoy intimacy to the fullest, while women are expected to only prioritize a man’s personality, ability to provide, and willingness to endure life/intimacy with him. The notion that physical attraction is something only men are entitled to is one of the most insidious manipulations the patriarchy has pushed onto women. It reduces a universal human desire into a gendered expectation and silences women’s right to want—and choose—based on their own desires.

This mindset is deeply rooted in complementarian worldviews that center male comfort while diminishing female autonomy. Women are constantly judged by our appearance, yet men are allowed to be mediocre in looks, effort, and lifestyle without facing the same scrutiny, all while still feeling entitled to beautiful partners. We’re told that men are “visual creatures,” yet many show no regard for their own appearance, their homes, or the way they present themselves. We’re taught that sex is something men do to women, not something both partners are meant to enjoy and participate in equally.

The result? A world full of beautiful, accomplished women being told they’re “too picky” or “superficial”while mediocre men lament loneliness—usually because the stunning woman they want won’t look their way, even though they ignore women who are their actual peers. And somehow, we’re supposed to feel sorry for them—not for the equally single, equally overlooked woman.

I simply refuse to believe these lies. I like my men handsome. Period.