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good morning everyone! i hope you all rested well, or that your day calms as it comes to its close. today, rufen is going to talk about caregivers: it's definition, influence, and tips for caregivers! i am speaking as a regressor myself and what i have found helpful from my caregiver. for those without a caregiver, i would like to add that you do not need a caregiver to regress! don't be discouraged or mislead about it! this may be used as a blueprint for finding a caregiver that provides your needs. i will be making a separate post of activities to do with a caregiver soon!
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what is a caregiver?
* in reference to age/pet regression *
when talking about age/pet regression, there is always a mention of a caregiver. it is a role that can have a strong impact for those who get in a certain headspace.
a caregiver -- described by my definition -- is someone who overlooks a regressor, nurturing and listening to their needs and best providing for them in a way that benefits/assists the regressor, while also setting their own boundaries. a caregiver can often encourage the regressor to be in their headspace and ensures a safe environment and company for the regressor.
there are many regressors who would prefer to have a caregiver, mainly because it is someone who can help them feel comfortable in their headspace. though, many also enjoy the attention and company that is also given alongside it.
every regressor does so in a unique way that best suits their needs and preferences. that being said, the preferences for their caregiver may vary amongst others. while the caregiver role has a universal definition, the way the role is portrayed can be different from person to person.
the spectrum of characteristics of a caregiver is also vast; some regressors may prefer someone to match their energy and present themselves in a hyper manner, while others prefer a soft and gentle mood. of course, a caregiver can also have preferences of the kind of little/pet regressor they'd like to care for.
below, i created a list of the overall duties a caregiver (usually) has:
make sure they eat & drink enough water - sometimes providing these things based on their preferences
make sure they get plentiful rest - bedtime, naps, making sure they are well rested.
make sure they keep up with hygeine & important tasks - brushing teeth, bathing, chores... usually encourages them to complete these.
make sure they are active - playtime, going outside, fun activities!
tips for potential/current caregivers
sometimes, being a caregiver can be a bit more of a hurdle. regressing isn't always a smooth ride and in fact can be messy. here, i have listed some tips that i have found beneficial for me and my own caregiver!
be patient - patience is probably the key component that provides the structure of safety and comfortability, not only for the regressor, but for the caregiver themselves as well. it is okay to get frustrated, tired, or just not know what to do. however, before anything, it is best to maintain as much patience possible.
communicate - directly following patience, communication is also very important. you will have to talk about your boundaries, their needs and boundaries, and how a caregiver can meet them in a comfortable and fair way. also, talk about times you may be busy/unavailable. and, if needed, a caregiver/regressor can talk about their discomforts or differences. without patience, there isn't communication!
be encouraging - not only encourage doing and getting tasks done, but encourage the regressor to be in their headspace. sometimes, it can be helpful to identify signs of stress/discomfort to know when to do this as, for some, it is a way to relieve said emotions. however, you can also encourage them whenever they are feeling just fine!
provide attention - if possible, it's always better to give your regressor your undivided attention when they ask. this shows that they can feel comfortable and trust you as their caregiver. sometimes, they like to show off and seek approval.
learn triggers - speaking as someone who deals with this often, sometimes the regressor may not be fully aware or able to realize that they are feeling a certain way and responding differently because of it. it can be helpful to learn their triggers with them so you know when and how to act best for them. also try to get them to learn themselves if they haven't already!
set boundaries - let the regressor know what you are/are not comfortable about, what you intend to do and how you'll provide, and update when you may not be available or not in a good mood to be a caregiver in the moment. nobody can read minds! this ties back to communication.
have fun! - regressing can be really fun if you want it to be. it usually isn't something that you have to worry about when it comes to making mistakes. it is a learning experience!
thank you for reading my post! i hope some of you find it to be educational and helpful with your regression, or for those who are in a caregiving position.
caregivers: you are much appreciated! thank you for all you do!
be on the lookout for future schooling posts! you are all wonderful, and you are also loved!
