Love, Vaen.

Muthahood

[beneaththemooon]

Divine timing doesn’t rush and never misses.

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[theambitiouswoman]

YOU DO NOT HEAL BY UNDERSTANDING YOUR TRAUMA

You heal by feeling safe enough to stop repeating it

Not reverting to your old coping mechanisms anymore is how you break the cycle

You want to understand because understanding gives the illusion of control

When we go through pain our mind kicks into overdrive trying to make sense of it. It’s the mind’s way of saying If I can figure this out, I can prevent it from happening again

Sometimes there isn’t a logical answer that will make the pain go away because it had nothing to do with you. And trying to intellectualize everything can become a way to avoid feeling the things that actually needs to move through the body

We try understanding because it’s less scary than sitting in the unknown. Stop trying to solve everything like a puzzle and instead start soothing the part of us that feels afraid, abandoned, unworthy etc

You don’t need another explanation

You need a hug

A deep breath

A new boundary

Or someone who looks at you and tells you that it wasn’t your fault

Because it wasn’t 🤍

[theambitiouswoman]

Btw it takes only 3-4 days for a new environment or person in your life to start influencing your thoughts, mindset and habits

3–4 days: Emotional/mental influence starts

7–10 days: You start mirroring language, mood, or energy

21+ days: Habits and deeper mindset shifts start embedding

66 days (on average): A new behavior becomes automatic

Choose wisely what (and who) you let around your nervous system

[scorpionlafemme]

This is what some men fail to understand.

[loveletters2myself]

[loveletters2myself]

[scorpionlafemme]

[scorpionlafemme]

[theambitiouswoman]

[vaenbea]

Spring has sprung! I’m not the tidiest gardener, in fact I thoroughly enjoy watching nature just do her thing. I’m just kinda there to say “oh you’re so pretty!”

My nectarine tree has had her first big prune this year after like 6-7 years of just chilling there. Excited to see how she progresses.

And the grape vine tunnel I’ve been working with for 2 years now. There is 2 root systems there but there is 1 that quite overshadows the other. There’s so many wittle gwapes sprouting. They make me so happy.

Oh! and featured by the satellite dish is a blackberry bush that is rather resilient. I have uprooted all of her (so I thought) to transfer, the transfer died but her original root system lives on.

And my tiny little banana tree behind that, that completely died in the winter freeze and somehow has risen these past few days. So, we’ll see.

[vaenbea]

On our walk today…

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[thememedaddy]

[loveletters2myself]

even if you’re in the most healthy relationship, never stop prioritizing yourself. nurture your beauty. treat yourself like the queen you are, so your relationship can keep elevating. because when you know you’re a gem, your person can feel it too. and how you view/treat yourself, is how others will view you too. it’s all energy.

[nourishcolourwellness]

[beneaththemoon4]

That intimate moment between you and the book you have just read the last words of, where you sit there taking in the enormity of what you have just finished.