come in or fuck off, this is loitering.

your local angry bisexual atty.

[valkyriesexual]

What do you think are good sources where people can find reliable, accurate information on domestic violence (statistics, common strategies abusers use, resources etc)?

the national coalition against domestic violence has many wonderful resources including but not limited to: faqs like why do victims stay, signs of abuse, dynamics of abuse, statistics, and resources

the national domestic violence hotline can help someone in an abusive relationship. you can call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788. their website has many wonderful resources as well, including: resources for creating safety plans, the famous power and control wheel which is one of the best tools to help people understand the wide ranging spectrum of abusive tactics that abusers may use, culturally specific resources, and a place to locate local resources.

the national network to end domestic violence (nnedv) has got quite a lot of reports/statistics. a lot. so many reports. reports about how to understand the reports. is it the most accessible website? maybe not. but it's got helpful resources too: FAQs and tips to have an informed conversation about DV

womenslaw.org is a truly exceptional legal resource, with a breakdown of laws by state, information about litigation abuse in particular, and places to go for help.

federal information about domestic violence. statistics for california in particular and places for help in california in particular.

and some books that i keep in my office and re-read regularly:

No Visible Bruises by Rachel Louise Louise Snyder

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (content warning here, some people have expressed objections to the graphic depictions of traumatic events & the way that the author talks about female victims in particular)

Memorial Drive: A Daughter's Memoir by Natasha Trethewey (gorgeously written as well as very illuminating)

See What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Violence by Jess Hill

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[autumnfoxe]

[my-ny]

Steve + text posts pt. 16/?

[borntoruns]

Bruce Springsteen — Dancing in the Dark

[discojams]

oh hello beautiful

[moveslikekeithrichards]

can u believe some people can see a cat & not immediately be filled with absolute unconditional love for that animal. they dont even get the urge to kiss them right on their little baby cat head. thats incomprehensible to me

[karathraces]

she's everything. he's just ken

[bloodycherrytree]

Joan Jett

[happyheidi]

~ ig: serenee.c

[4ng3lgirl]

i will be going to jesses house tonight for a chat😁

[happyheidi]

x - x / x - x 🍃

[hauntedzone]

[wordsforyoungmen]

[valkyriesexual]

so i fucking love shameless (early seasons) and i’m 100% team fiona deserved better than the stupid fucking romantic plotlines she kept being put in, but reading what emma kenney has said about emmy rossum making set an absolute nightmare is having such a negative impact on my rewatch

[sersi]

Pacific Rim (2013) dir. Guillermo Del Toro

[fangirleaconmigo]

Since TWN S1 dropped, people have argued on here nonstop about Jaskier..., is he tough, is he soft, is he sweet, is he feral, (and on and on)

Firstly, the most obvious answer is that people are many things at once. Obviously. These things are not mutually exclusive.

But also. Guys this is all extremely, wildly relative.

Think about it.

To Jaskier's terrifyingly powerful friends (Geralt can kill like ten people at once, Yen burns whole armies) he's just a little wet kitten. He's a precious little package to look after when times get scary.

But compared to other POETS? Other ACADEMICS? Other MINOR NOBLES? he is inSANE.

Imagine him teaching at Oxenfurt. The youths are like HOLY FUCK , this man has walked the entire continent. He has seen five hundred kinds of deadly monsters, and lived to tell. He's survived kidnappings, walked through war zones, he has mementos from like three different historical battles on his walls. His dearest friends (family, really) are people who are sung about in dark cottages like they are demons and world destroyers. HIS BABY NIECE IS LIKE *THE* WORLD DESTROYER TO SOME PEOPLE. He understands war strategy, every single aspect of every faction, and how to survive almost anything.

He would be so intimidating to them.

Then Geralt and Yen come to visit and squish his cheeks like look, it's our soft little baby, we need to check on him because he cannot fend for himself. I hope no one here has hurt his feelings, we have learned that he hates that so we no longer allow it.

And he's like...can I come on this mission?

And they're like idk it's so dangerous for you.

And the students are like ????????

[catilinas]

Franny Choi, Soft Science