In the beginning, there was missionary...

... this was widely considered a 'bad' move and it wasn't until humans discovered kinks to add to the inclusion of missionary that the wonders of fetish was born. This is an exploration and informational blog to help fellow freaks get their kink without having to have twenty Google tabs open to get a basic grasp on things. All asks welcome. 18+ NO MINORS! 

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BDSM: Isn’t That A Sex Thing?

it’s also a respect thing  it’s also a consent thing  it’s also a love thing  it’s also an honest thing  it’s also a personal expression thing it’s also a communication thing   it’s also an acceptable thing 

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How to: Aftercare your Sub

Ideas and Tips

These tips may vary depending on what your sub likes/enjoys or doesnt like/enjoy.

Try taking these into consideration before anything else:

Always ask how they feel, does anything hurt?

Make sure they know they are safe and you care about them

Simply ask if they need anything, Reassurance? A glass of water? Cuddles?

Respect if your sub needs some space, doesn’t feel like talking, or just wants to sleep

After Care Ideas

• Holding/ Cuddling your sub

• Praising them: ex. ‘You were such a good girl’, ‘You did so well’

• Treating any wounds: ex. from spanking, rope burn, etc.

• Putting a cold/warm wet compress on any welts, cuts, or bruises

• Kissing any welts, cuts or bruises

• Running them a warm bubble bath

• Wrapping them into a warm fluffy blanket

• Massaging them

(w essential oils, sensitive skin lotions)

• Watching their favorite movies, shows

• Listening to their favorite music*

*preferably soft, calm music

• Giving them a treat they enjoy

• Carrying them where ever they might need to go

The Importance of Aftercare

Aftercare is not only very important but essential, for both vanilla and kinky sex.

Sub drop is how a sub might feel depression/anxiety or even considering their self worth after sex, especially BDSM/Hardcore Sex.

It is very important to be there for your sub as well as reassure them that they are safe, and you care for them.

This is also when you tend to any wounds that may have occurred during sex, like welts, bruises, cuts or rope burns.

DO NOT:

Immediately leave your sub alone or unattended to for an extended amount of time after sex! especially after hardcore/rough/bdsm sex scenes.

Leave any wounds received by the sub unattended to

Try to jump into some unrelated activities THAT CAN WAIT, without proper after care; ex. asking them to do chores, get ready to go grocery shopping.

Failure to comply with essential aftercare risks the trust you and your sub share and your subs mental security after sex,

especially after Hardcore/BDSM/Rough Scenes; ex. Rape Play, Bondage, Spanking, Anal Play and many more.

[katrinarae]

It’s not hard

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[subnancy-blog]

This clever rope-cuff allows her to grasp the rope when she struggles so it doesn’t injure her wrists.

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[martysimone]

Cristina Aielli | Heather set | Model Altea

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[subnancy-blog]

This clever rope-cuff allows her to grasp the rope when she struggles so it doesn’t injure her wrists.

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Kitty is drinking so you should send her asks to make her blush

[sinfulsmiths]

Make it colorful. Paint me with your passion. -Mrs. Smith

http://sinfulsmiths.tumblr.com/

[peskywabbitkins]

Pretty candle play @poisondelight666 xxx

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[satan]

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Be a good little pet and listen to your owner.

You don't want to be punished, now do you?💕

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