Androgynous moth?
Yes there's been a lot of moth posts but I just like this batch
Abdomen size is leaning male but also a bit chunky, behavior is calm (like a female) but then they move and flutter their wings when disturbed like a male. The male I put next to them ignored them and when placed next to a female they fluttered a bit around her but otherwise did not try to mate with her. Possibly an older tired male or a female that the male just wasn't interested in at that time.















