10 Things Iâd Tell My Teenage INTP Self
1. Youâll be interested in many things, want to be many things, and thatâs good!
Always go for what interests you. You will always be motivated and inspired that way. Learn many skills, read up on many things. All of them will become useful later, for sure. You will have the advantage of combining skills that people donât usually learn together, and might be able to find your own niche that didnât exist before. You like programming and making music? Maybe you can combine those things and create something new.
2. Everyone will be unsure in life. Expect to change your path in life and to be able to adapt.
You canât choose your major or decide on your future career? Donât worry. Everyone is on the same boat, even your xNTJ friends who seem ultra confident with their 10 year plans. I changed my major 4 times and worked in completely different fields each year for 5 years after I graduated (psych research, fundraiser/social media organizer, musical theatre performer, animator in a game studio, now freelancing many things and creating my own app). My INTJ best friend switched jobs 3 times in 4 years (on his own initiatives) after heâs finished his masterâs. The ENTJ left his civil engineering job (heâs been recruited by this engineering firm since first year uni) to open his own fashion company.
3. You can totally make a comfortable living off being a freelancer in many areas.
Right now my main focus is working on my own app. Iâm also freelancing in animation, illustration, graphic design, UI/UX, acting (mostly ads and musical theatre), singing gigs at various events, video editing and color grading, and occasionally translating books. All of these were skills I picked up as hobbies. I didnât go to an art school. These were my passion, and I decided to make them all my jobs. This path is possible, despite being unconventional. A bonus point is that I can get clients online, which means I can work from anywhere in the world. You do have to be good at what you do, however.
4. Go out to meet people and find opportunities.
Surprisingly, in the working world, everyone wants to help one another. I havenât really experienced jealousy or petty competition. People are more than willing to help with your career or connect you with someone else that could help. They will also tell you about opportunities that you wouldnât be able to find on your own. Go out and find these people and do the same for them. (Read: How to meet new people, How to make any conversation interesting).
5. Find friends you actually like and can connect with as soon as possible.
They exist, and they will totally understand your mind. You just have to be proactive in finding them. It makes a world of difference to be surrounded by people who bring value to your life, to help your grow (as a person and in your career), to encourage creativity and critical thinking, to always stimulate your brain.
6. Be your true, quirky, controversial self when youâre making friends.
You might be slow to warm up and really be who you are around other people. This is a mistake. Youâd want to know as quickly as possible if these people can connect with who you truly are. You might scare off some people, and thatâs good. They will be scared eventually anyway, and you donât want to waste time with them. The people who stay are the ones who appreciate you for being you, and those are the ones you want to keep. (Read: How happy can an INTP really get?)
7. Learn to be confident, assertive, and a little selfish with your own needs.
No one has time to play passive-aggressive, or to repress negative feelings only to explode later. If something annoys you, voice it as soon as possible. If you want to do something thatâs different from the group, tell them. If you need some alone time, decline your friendâs invitation tactfully. (Read: Developing inferior Fe, What is âVictim Modeâ & how to get out of it?, How to say no with no strings attached)
8. Time is your only limit (not society or money or your own mentality).
If you truly want to do what you love and be who you want to be, thereâs always a way. People who failed or give up before they started are the ones who placed limits on themselves. Donât believe people who tell you certain things are not possible because it didnât work for them. Be smart about it.
9. Get life experiences. Travel. Join clubs and activities.
Thereâs so much more to see and learn than you could imagined. The more you experience things that are very different from your comfort zone, the more you grow as a well-rounded person. Itâs easy to take cheap backpacking trips or staying at cheap dorms these days (or even couch surfing). There are also many clubs that you could gain very important skills from. I recommend Toastmasters and Model UN.
10. Read eilamonaâs blog and her glorious INDEX.
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Note: Again, this post was inspired by the intriguing conversations with awesome people on my live chat widget (right on my blog). Itâs become so much more than I expected. Thanks for the brain food!