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transmasc in its 20's, tired... 18+ to follow

[veryeasilyinfluenced]

Hi, you can call me Wy. I am here to simply talk about my thoughts about the trans community, abuse, and my journey through understanding my intersex variation(s).

Please let me know if you require something to be tagged, and I will update my posts to tag properly.

I am trans masculine, white, intersex, a system, physically disabled, and a past + current survivor of abuse. Please use it/its or they/them pronouns. This blog is not my main.

[noblackwomannocry]

"if you accuse a trans woman of anything I will simply not believe you. by accusing a trans woman of literally anything you will get her harassed by transphobes and that is your fault. and also even if she did the thing by talking about it you're not doing anything about it so it's useless and I hate you."

"what if she's racist? I am a black trans woman and many white trans women are racist."

"you see oversensitive darkie this is exactly why I posted this. she probably has a very human and normal and understandable reason to actively be racist, which is normal for racist people. you can't help if she's racist. unless you are willing to personally put in the work to deprogram her racism why would you want to talk about her being racist? who gave you the authority to do that? what's that? this is actively harmful to you and other people she is being racist to? too bad. by talking about it to warn people or anything kiwifarms will kill her."

[razortouched]

Accountability in the Trans Community Part 3

Followup to my previous two posts, part 1 and part 2.

This post will be giving a real world example of this rhetoric in action. Trigger warning for ssxual assault, abuse apologism, images of physical injuries.

A cis woman on Twitter has made accusations of sexual abuse against a trans woman.

I will disclaim up top that I do not know if the accusations are legitimate. I do not know if abuse occured.

What I'm addressing here is not the validity of the accusations, but rather other responses to it, that mirror the rhetoric in my previous two posts on this subject.

First image: Accusations from Will / wylbite against bunilla / snuffedbunny.

Will is accused of being a TERF due to her making accusations against Bunnila. Her injuries are downplayed and dismissed as too minor to be evidence of the accusations.

Claiming that there is no purpose for a victim to speak up about being raped / who their rapist was. And sure, I'll grant that any individual seeing this doesn't have much they can do about it if they don't know the perpetrator - but this is clearly being used as a way to silence victims. Evidenced by the fact that they frame the victim as only trying to ensure that the perpetrator is socially isolated.

The concept of trying to warn others, or simply that the victim has a inherent right to speak up about their abuse, is completely dismissed.

"The only morally correct thing to do as a victim is to uproot your life and remove yourself as far away as possible, and only privately warn others. If you ever speak about it publicly you're trying to socially murder someone."

Here is some commenting on the situation, likening it to the fact that she was on a real jury for a case of sexual assault against a minor!! She calls the child in this case a "brat" and "lying through her teeth".

Just in case you need a reminder that, yeah, these folks are real people who can participate on real world trials!! And will being their beliefs to the courtroom!! And treat real actual children as lying brats!!

"The moral thing to do is to side with the accused regardless of whether she's guilty of anything".

And there it is! You are morally obligated to side with the accused no matter what!! Even if they are a rapist!! Even if they're done the most heinous thing imaginable!!

None of this hypothetical!! This is the real world with real human consequences!! The people who tout this rhetoric want real human victims to be silent and want real human abusers to be protected at all costs!!

[noblackwomannocry]

as part of the transfem voices project, mousidy felt the need to highlight the voice of a woman who, as a 12 year old boy addicted to loli pornography, molested an 8 year old girl and spent years in the juvenile detention system as a result. this woman is now a 30 year old self-admitted pedophile, enabled by parents (whose support she credits with keeping her alive) who have seemingly coddled her every step of the way, including somehow allowing their child the means to easily access pornography after molesting another child, who now self-flagellates on tumblr about how much she wants to die because people would want her dead just knowing that she is a pedophile. not even based on the fact that she was a 12 year old boy that molested an 8 year old girl.

she loosely connects her story to transmisogyny at the end by going "well idk if I faced transmisogyny before I came out but I did after I'm so scared because transmisogynists would call me a pedophile and they would be right everyone wants me dead I can't be pedojacketed because I have the jacket on :("

great #OwnVoices job, team. knocked it out of the park. hit the showers.

if you are able, consider donating to a group like Survivors of Incest Anonymous, which helps provide a safe space for victims of CSA, including victims of COCSA, to talk about and heal from their experiences.

[sentient-noodle]

(i know, i should've made this post a while ago. and i apologize, i simply was unsure whether i am a right person to ask to make the post. i know this is not a justification, but i was distracted by the people smearing me on here. and i extend my apologies to the person who contacted me, if the final result is disappointing.)

some time ago, a person on this platform has contacted me in regards to what appears to be predatory behavior in a ttrpg community discord server. specifically, the discord server dedicated to ttrpg called "girl frame". most of the screens contained within this post are of the creator who runs the server, named isabelle (known also as anxiousmimicrpgs, thistle and c.m. ruebsaat).

the content below includes: predatory behavior, questonable views on consent, rape fetishization, transphobia, transandrophobia and mention of minors in spaces containing sexual content.

[noblackwomannocry]

the "those 'harmless' long-suffering lonely pedophiles are actively grooming children on the internet" problem: who does youth sexual liberation benefit?

before I get into this here is a screenshot to grab your attention:

this is from the NAMBLA and LGBT Politics section of The International Lesbian and Gay Association’s Suspension from the United Nations, 1993-1994, by Tyler Carson, currently available on outhistory.org. this digital exhibit details how the International Lesbian and Gay Association was expelled from the UN's Economic and Social Council due to the widespread fallout of right-wing news outlets discovering that the North American Man/Boy Love Association, a pedophile advocacy organisation that sought to abolish age of consent laws, was an active part of the ILGA. do any of these points sound familiar?

in light of isuggestforcefem pedophileposting again: it's purposeful that for all that many Woke Pedophile "youthlib" "advocates" talk about youth liberation and child advocacy in tandem with their defence of pedophiles and pedophilia, and for all they are keen to talk about abuse that takes place within the family structure, they never discuss the global epidemic of child abuse via the internet. they advocate for youth liberation on the internet, they encourage children to interact with them while openly out as pedophiles on the internet, and yet there's nary a peep about how easy it is for pedophiles to gain access to children who they happily abuse on the internet and have since the internet's widespread adoption by consumers, nor is there any mention of the physical and mental toll that this takes on child victims of this abuse.

in this post I talk about Tumblr having such a bad CSEM problem in the 2000s to 2010s pre-pornography ban that Apple took the app off the app store. I was groomed by multiple people on this website at that time, specifically adult Homestuck fans because of course they were lol. prior to me using Tumblr I was also a very active ROBLOX child, something that people tend to assume must be anachronistic given old ROBLOX was nowhere near the global player that it was at the time. I thankfully wasn't groomed on there, but I sure knew a whole lot of other kids who were. child safety on ROBLOX is so poor that it has a dedicated Wikipedia page, a Bloomberg feature, and tens to triple digit numbers of lawsuits about how piss poor it is at implementing measures to prevent child grooming across multiple countries. my IRL friends were sexually harassed and coerced by grown men on platforms like kik, like many, many other children.

every website where children gather becomes a platform fondly remembered for fostering children's connections with each other with a big asterisk of "and also lots of us got groomed on there lol." most of us are aware that the adage of "stranger danger" is generally inaccurate given that most children are abused by someone known to them, be it a family member or family friend, but the internet has introduced an entirely new dynamic to the conversation that every pro-pedophile on this website has been eerily silent about.

this is of course because the fact that pedophiles actively and willingly seek out children to abuse on the internet with shocking regularity flies in the face of the "I'm just a humble no-contact minor-attracted person!" image that these people attempt to project. millions of children are abused over the internet every year. pedophiles solicit CSEM from children in exchange for rewards in games. pedophiles send children sexual videos and images (sound familiar?). pedophiles befriend children and then go on to extort them into providing CSEM of themselves by threatening to expose them and their families.

these people are not actually interested in the liberation of children, sexual or non-sexual. as the screenshot above states: the issue is not about allowing children avenues to explore their sexuality. children already do that individually and amongst themselves, and there are many, many people and organisations working towards safe and healthy sex education for children and young people across the globe.

these people are interested in "youth liberation" as a means of gaining sexual access to children for their own gratification. this is not new. I highly recommend looking into pedophile advocacy groups and movements like the pro-pedophile German "new left" (and experiments like purposefully placing children in adoptive homes with pedophiles), French philosophers' petition to get the age of consent abolished in the 70s, and seriously, as linked above, NAMBLA's presence in the International Lesbian and Gay Association and how it led to the association being booted from the United Nations (and how lesbian feminists were key in both criticising NAMBLA and getting them kicked out). please, please, if you are able and willing, if you can deal with the subject matter, take a look at that NAMBLA link there. because again, from the screenshot above

Feminists were also especially skeptical of NAMBLA’s claim that man/boy love was about children’s liberation. Rather, they argued it was about men’s increased sexual access to children.

almost sounds like a parallel of something happening right now... could it be? that'd be crazy...

no it's not lol.

every single talking point they have about sexual liberation related to children is straight up repackaged NAMBLA talking points. the North American Man/Boy Love Association NAMBLA. the "kicked out of every mainstream gay activist space for supporting the sexual exploitation of children" NAMBLA.

do these sound familiar? it's because people on this website use these points in their posts! the article even highlights how NAMBLA bundled youth liberation points that people would generally find reasonable (e.g. critiques of corporal punishment and familial abuse) with beliefs that served solely to allow adult sexual exploitation of children (e.g. "decriminalizing hustling and commercial sexual relationships", which got them into international recognition in the first place, because efforts against sex tourism and cross-country child sexual exploitation were on the rise!)

these people are operating by a tried-and-tested pedophile playbook that has already failed. but they're trying it again anyway.

NOTE: if you read this post and assume it is me thinking that youth liberation does not exist instead of me criticising people who claim to be advocates for youth liberation but just want to have sexual access to children, here is a link that might help.

[resaresavents]

Patricia Taxxon absolutely knows that lolisho is utilized as a tool by predators to normalize their sexual exploitations of children, she simply does not see that as an issue worth being concerned about.

[luxiomahariel]

"youre so aggressive now that youre on t"

no you just dont like that im finally standing up for myself

[veryeasilyinfluenced]

being intersex is so scary, realizing the level of medical neglect and abuse i have been put to is scary, that i might have being surgically reassigned with little resources to help me understand is scary. i cant ask my family, and i hesitate to ask my practitioners

[superkirbylover]

do you have proof punkitt actually knew what floraverse was doing and not just vaguing about old discourse. the shit youre accusing her of isnt to be taken lightly and i dont really see enough proof of her “supporting” floraverse. even if she was friends, friends dont know every discord server they mod or whatever. many people dont know floraverse/members and i didnt until very recently. people are too eager to dogpile trans women for slip ups and misunderstandings so im very suspicious shes actually *harming* people. especially when she blocked you and youre spamming her url tag based on minor complaints and assumptions. if you have proof, i would love to see it and stop supporting her, but people arent going to blindly accept a vague post referencing past fetish art backlash as a reason that she supports a pedo dog fucking cult

hi.

this is her talking down csa victims, the latter being a victim of flora.

here's her liking a post calling me a useful tool for nazis and a danger to trans people.

these are the people supporting her. temtem is IN flora. adorablimp accused faolanwolf is faking his and his family's rape trauma.

here's her admitting she never apologized.

heres her posting proof she is lurking on my profile. this was a joke reply TO ME.

if you're going to tell me that im looking too deep into things or im misinterpreting, i dont want to hear it. get lost. this isnt about transwomen being slandered over nothing. this is about protecting flora and harming victims.

[colorisbyshe]

one of these days i’m gonna make a long post about how prevalent fucked up shipping was even like 10 years ago in fandom and how relieved i am that that sort of behaviour is now called out

and how i wish things had changed sooner because it’s literally so fucking easy to not be a freak and my internet experience would’ve been a lot better as a kid if freaks were ostracized!

[colorisbyshe]

i think the reason why a lot of “anti antis” (which is the dumbest fucking term) are so bold and so much older is because they grew up in fandom spaces where like you COULD just admit to shipping the most god awful shit and chances are the worst ships were extremely popular and normalized

and so their “norm” is fucked up and they just refuse to listen to anyone asking them to change. which is pathetic because like as someone who was part of that fucked up fandom culture and did ship problematic things (as a teen) and consumed awful content… fairly regularly

it took like the smallest bit of perspective to change and just stop doing that. dropping that behaviour and perspective was easy and i’ve never once been tempted to go back because “oh the ship is just TOO good”

but all these people in their late 20s/early 30s are just “in MY days”-ing this and dragging younger people into the same culture so that it may never die, intent on corrupting people the same ways adults probably corrupted them when they were too young on the internet

like the cycle could end so easily end they just don’t want it to

[colorisbyshe]

a small number of people are being weird on this post and saying shit like “it’s children’s job to protect themselves” and shit  like that.

“it’s the children’s job to protect themselves,” shows an inherent misunderstanding of my point. i am saying that the kids do not realize they should be protecting themselves from this content because it is normalized to them. they do not know it’s wrong.

like, even when kids stan shit appropriate for their age (so shows and books MADE FOR PRETEENS AND TEENAGERS), they enter fandoms overrun by adults who are the primary content creators. these adults cultivate child audiences, often befriending them (or even dating them), and influencing them to find certain things hot, attractive, normal, and healthy. and they post cultish shit about how consuming abusive and otherwise fucked up content can be “healing” or “liberating” or even progressive!

and the best case scenario is some teens ship some fucked up shit and feel gross about it as they get older and have to reanalyze what the fuck the intentions of the adults around  them were

worse case scenario? there are kids who in real life have adults grooming them and sexually abusing them, telling them it’s alright, and then they go online and see adults telling them that not only is it okay for adults to have relationships with kids their age–it’s hot and it can be true love. they celebrate this content, write fanfic about it, and cry about how beautiful or sinful it is.

and this isnt a hypothetical. this actually happens.

i am not saying adults can’t stan content made for younger audiences. i am not saying all of your content must be 100% healthy or pure. but i am saying it is adults fucking job to protect children and keep their nasty shit to themselves. if you’re gonna consume and create this shit, don’t defend it. lock it on private twitters or whatever the fuck you gotta do.

ideally, you develop a sense of shame and stop all together when it comes to actually disgusting content, but like… the least you can do is stop fucking lying to yourself, realize you’re doing something pretty fucking weird (and that’s the kindest word i have for it), and try to minimize children’s exposure to it.

the same way you wouldn’t have sex in the street next to an in-session school and say ‘well, it’s the children’s fault if they looked out the window and saw!’ you don’t do that shit with your fucked up incest age gap fic. if you NEED that shit to cope, put it in your diary and don’t create communities centered around creating content like that, especially communities kids (TEENS INCLUDED) can access.

you don’t need communities centered around finding pedophiic incest hot to cope with whatever you went through. you don’t. that isn’t coping. that’s just spreading the trauma.

[noblackwomannocry]

reminder that fantasising about child sexual abuse violates tumblr's user guidelines, is reportable, and often results in account terminations, so you should report it

let's look at the Harm to Minors section of Tumblr's User Guidelines together:

according to the above, content that violates the user guidelines, is reportable, and is ground for content removal and account termination includes the following:

content featuring abuse of a minor, including pictures of real people, illustrations, animations, or text

suggestive or sexual content involving a minor or anyone who appears to be a minor, including pictures of real people, illustrations, animations, or text

content facilitating child sexual abuse, including pictures of real people, illustrations, animations, or text

content promoting child sexual abuse or extortion, including pictures of real people, illustrations, animations, or text

according to tumblr's own user guidelines, the text fantasies that are constantly being shared around on here of the sexual abuse of children are reportable offenses that merit removal from this website & potential termination of the account of the posters. it is not content that this website wants to host and, as far as I am aware, never has been. the earliest version I can find of Tumblr's User/Community Guidelines on their own Github is from 2012 and features this wording:

I recommend that you take a few minutes familiarise yourself with the user guidelines if you haven't already. you can know exactly what this website wants (quite a lot) and does not want (not that much) on it so you can understand the platform you're on and what content is considered acceptable, and consider if you want to use it based on that.

if you see content violating any of the user guidelines, but especially the Harm to Minors one highlighted within this post, please report it. children are an especially vulnerable group and there are children on this website. the fantasies that are shared about child abuse by some users of this platform do not exist in a vacuum.

in a previous post I talked about the mass grooming problem this website had pre-pornography ban. as a child on this website in that era I was groomed by adults who are very similar to those trying to normalise sharing pedophilic fantasies on this website today. those who claim to care about children while sharing these fantasies openly on a platform that prohibits said content and that children use do not care about children. entire websites exist that proudly allow for this sort of content to be shared, and yet these users continue to use Tumblr because they want to violate the boundaries of its users, including children, and believe that platform rules do not apply to them. imagine saying Facebook or Instagram are pedojacketing you because they ban you for talking about how much you want to groom children lol.

helping to ensure minors can enjoy this platform without those who wish to harm them being in their midst helps to provide young people the space to survive & thrive online that they may not otherwise have in real life. it helps. if you come across it, please report it.

[wolftearingoffshirt]

when you really internalize how central self sacrifice is to the patriarchal female gender role you very quickly begin to realize that the prescription on trans men to prioritize the movement over their own needs, self expression, and safety (up to and including pressure to keep sexual abuse secret) isn't much of a deconstruction at all

[therapatical]

I've been considering how to say this for a very, very long time. I noticed a while ago that the intracommunity dynamics within the trans community mirror those I've experienced within the rest of society as well, but wasn't sure how best to put it.

[phosphorusab]

The people who defend using the word ‘theyfab’ against any ‘tme’ person they don’t like (so any trans person who was AFAB or anyone ‘tma’ who disagrees with them) always come up with a different origin story for the word

It’s like a game of telephone or variations of an ancient myth. You also hear it way more often than ‘theymab’, you’ll only find that word on an explicitly 4tran side of the Internet

Theyfab is basically mainstream now because of Sexism, Misogyny and Transphobia. Like congrats, the cissies are calling people theyfabs now

[veryeasilyinfluenced]

Nowhere on the internet is safe for someone like me and I'm completely aware of it 😬

[kkoffin]

rape is stigmatised in theory - the word “rape” is stigmatised. rape is hypothetically stigmatised.

rape is not stigmatised in practice. the minute it actually occurs by every definition in material reality there’s a million excuses and exemptions. everything that isnt “actually” and isn’t “really” rape is totally fine. rape is treated as though killing 90% of a population is fine because isn’t genocide, or planning and preparing 90% of a terror attack is excusable because it didn’t actually hurt anyone

that’s “rape culture”. for anyone who doesn’t get it.

[veryeasilyinfluenced]

Stumbled upon your blog by chance. Just wanted to leave you a message to let you know that you are not alone in your experience with NCCSA and grooming via lolicon material. I know from experience that we can feel extremely isolated online because nobody believes what happened to us, nobody takes us seriously, nobody thinks it's a big deal. But there's a LOT of us. And we're starting to speak up. I'm seeing more people speak up every day. Let's keep being brave and telling the truth about what happened--we'll inspire others to speak up too.

Hi anon, I first want to thank you from the heart for sending this. I cried a little reading your message last night, and wanted to think of my response.

I hear you, in that it often feels like people simply don't want to acknowledge the harm this very real form of abuse has caused us, the numerous victims and survivors of it. It hurts so much when it seems like nobody wants to see our pain, our trauma, for what it is.

You're right too, that as many of us that have lived through things nobody deserves, we are also becoming unafraid of speaking out about we have experienced. We are stronger together, to give kindness to ourselves, and others. I think we should try and strive to build a world we believe in, and to show a light on these things often kept in the dark is one of many ways to do so.