Spring will not silent

Resource and Environmental Economics, Sherlockian

[vidianimu]

Meskipun udah nikah sama Pangeran Angry Bird, You are still my king, bapak 😊 #inirindu #buatbapak #buatmamah

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Nikah di Sukabumi part 1

Assalamualaikum wrwb..

Udah janji mau nulis persiapan menikah tapi ketunda terus karena malesbanget belum nemu mood dan sejuta alasan lainnya. Akhirnya, sekarang bisa ketik dan tidur - tiduran depan laptop untuk menuliskan berbagai macam persiapan yang telah kulalui untuk pernikahanku, yeaay ^^

Jadi alasan ku menulis ini karena beberapa ada yang pengen tahu, terutama menikah di Sukabumi yang masih sedikit banget review vendornya di internet, dan memperkirakan budget buat yang sedang nabung buat persiapan nikah. Pasti bayangan buat menikah adalah habis - habisan ngeluarin uang buat acara mewah yang mungkin hanya 2-3 jam saja. Alhamdulillah, pernikahanku ngga boros tetapi hasilnya tidak mengecewakan,  karena kita memperkirakan dan mengatur budget semaksimal mungkin. Hasilnya berjalan lancar, selamat dan beberapa memuji vendornya :)

Keberkahan pernikahan itu yang paling utama, tidak dicapai dengan merogoh kocek sedalam dalamnya sampai bangkrut atau pinjam sana sini.. 

Kisah tentang pernikahanku sendiri, aku bakal bahas di postingan lain ya. This post only for a whole package of my wedding preparation! Semoga bermanfaat buat temen - temen yang mau menggenap :)

Persiapan ini dimulai sejak saya notavailable dilamar oleh seseorang yang disebut Mr.Grey *dianggamaudisebutinisebenernyahahaha, khitbah atau lamaranku itu 30 Juli 2016 dan pernikahanku tanggal 26 Maret 2017. Jadi, aku puya waktu 7bulan untuk preparation. Alhamdulillah waktu persiapannya cukup dan bisa cari berbagai macam vendor dengan harga sikat miring. Oiya berhubung  acaranya Sukabumi, jadi mungkin akan berbeda dengan lokasi pernikahan yang berbeda pula, beberapa mungkin harus disesuaikan yaa..

So, this is my vendor list :

1. Lokasi

Ada berbagai macam gedung di sukabumi dan harganya bisa dibilang affordable, malah murah sih itungannya, beberapa harga yang aku tahu yaa :

Gedung Islamic Centre : 3,5 juta. Gedung ini lokasinya di deket lapangan merdeka sukabumi. Dulunya gedung ini perpustakaan islam. Tempat nikahnya di lantai 2, bersih dan rapih 

Gedung Qolbun Salim : 3,5 juta, sebelah mesjid agung. Kalau mau akad di mesjid agung ada fee tambahan

Gedung Bhayangkara (dekat secapa polri) : kurang lebih 4 juta. Enaknya disini ada penginapannya looh

Gedung smansa : alternatif kalau mau di daerah baros, 3 jutaan

Gedung King : dekat di terminal sukabumi lama, 6 jutaan

Lokasi pernikahanku di rumah sih, hahaha setelah udah cari lokasi gedung kemana-mana. Kenapa? keluarga besar dan waktu .Suami ku keluarganya dari Medan, teman - temanku dari jabodetabek, teman - teman suamiku jabodetabek + sampit, belum temen-temen bapak yang dari mana-mana juga, kalau mau waktu yang lapang emang di rumah sih :) Sukabumi macet juga T.T

Jadi budget lokasi nikahku 0 karena di lapangan pesantren dekat mesjid. Itung - itung ramein pesantren juga..

2. Make up, decoration and sound system

Banyak banget salon di sukabumi, tp yang terkenal cuma itu - itu aja. Beberapa ada yang bilang pakai salon ini itu, tapi aku sendiri sebenernya agak takut, karena beberapa kali aku jadi pager ayu make upnya tebelnya kebangetan T.T

Alhamdulillah waktu jadi pager ayu pernikahan sepupuku, makeupnya bagus dan boleh request jilbab syar’i meskipunmbanyanyerahterusakumasangsendiri  ada dua option sebenernya salon yang mau kupakai. Ini reviewnya :

a. Listiana Salon

Bu Henny yang punya, katanya udah 2-3 generasi. Ini salon yang dipake sepupuku pas nikah, Ibunya baik, ramah banget. Lokasinya di deket gedung pegadaian warudoyong. Dr odeon akuarium ambil jalan ke bawah arah, ada gang terus masuk aja..

Ini bener - bener rekomen. Affordable tapi hasil make upnya bagus, keluargaku ngg ada yang komen soal make up dan hasil mamaku dan mamak suamiku bagus !! Dan bisa request hijab syar’i Alhamdulillah sekarang mbanya udah belajar banyak model syar’i heheheu

aku pakai salon ini jadinya, harganya dibawah 25 juta. Harga ini dapat berubah kalau mau nambah ini itu dan kalau di gedung ada charge tambahan.

Kontak : Bu Henny : 081563535354

Ini detail makeup, dekorasi, dari listiana salon :

b. Bety Salon

Salon ini ada di perumahan nanggeleng, Bu Bety teman ngaji mamah. Dekorasinya dan baju banyak banget variasinya, lebih bagus daripada salon lain.. kalau ada budget lebih bisa banget pakai dari Bu Bety.. soalnya udah terkenal juga. Harganya sekitar 30jutaan dengan fasilitas yang aku minta kemarin (listnya sama kaya di bu henny). Bisa nambah atau kurang sama kaya salon lainnya

3. Souvenir

Sebelum aku nikah, aku kerja di jakarta,, jadi ada beberpa persiapan yang aku cicil sambil aku kerja. Terimakasih utuk UMI temen kosan sekaligus weekend partner yang udah nemenin keliling jakarta buat caricari heheheu

Untuk souvenir sendiri, ada satu tempat yang udah terkenal banget buat souvenir, aksesoris lamaran atau hantaran.. jeng jeng namanya Alfrianda Souvenir. Aku pesen souvenirnya di Alfrianda yang di Pasar Mester Jatinegara dan ambil pesenannya di gudangnya di Cipinang Pulo dekat penjara.

Rekomen? Banget!!

Variasinya banyak banget dan harganya juga miring..

next post aku share foto2 terkait dan lanjutan tentang souvenir ini yaaa

[dreamingsnowflake2013]

The Real King Jinheung and His Reign

(534 - 576; reign 540 - 576)

Silla (57 BC – 935 AD) was one of the Three Kingdoms of Korea, and one of the world’s longest sustained dynasties. Founded by King Park Hyeokgeose, the dynasty was ruled by three feuding royal families: The Park, Kim and Seok clans, though it was the Gyeongju Kim (김, 金) clan which hold the throne for most of Silla’s 992-year history.

King Jinheung’s last name was Kim and his first name was Sammaekjong (삼맥종) or Simmaekbu (심맥부)

He was born in 534 as the grandson of King Jijeung (지증)

His father was King Galmun (갈문), the younger brother of King Beopheung (법흥) and his mother Lady Ji So, Beopheung’s daughter. This is another example of consanguine marriage where a niece marries her uncle. Thus, Jinheung was a Sacred Bone on both sides. (Jinheung’s father was a mere prince, not an actual king, however, the title is given posthumously to those whose son’s become kings even though they never ascended the throne themselves)

King Galmun acted on behalf of King Beopheung during the final period of his reign, because Beopheung abdicated in the favour of his grandson and nephew Jinheung. However, he died within one year. In reality, it was Lady Jiso who held the power.

After her husband’s death she married three times. One of her husbands/lovers was General Yisabu, the father of Princess Sookmyung.

Jinheung succeeded the throne in 540 and became the 24th monarch of the Silla Dynasty when his predecessor King Beopheung, died without a legitimate son. Jinheung was too young to rule the nation, so his mother, Lady Jiso acted as regent for ten years. (Hwarang takes place in 551, the final year of her regency)

His Queen Consort was Sado, the daughter of Park Young Shil (Ban Ryu’s adoptive father).

He also had 6 concubines/consorts, one of which was his half-sister Princess Sookmyung.

However, his most famous concubine was Lady Mishil who then became a concubine of his son, King Jinji, and later of his grandson, King Jinpyeong. She was Queen Sado’s niece.

Jinheung was known to be shrewd politician, great strategist and military general

He tripled the size of Silla’s territory with his military achievements

In 551, he allied with Baekje to attack the northern Korean empire of Goguryeo and conquered the Han river. The kingdoms of Baekje and Silla had agreed to divide the conquered territory equally between them, but in 553, Jinheung allied with Goguryeo and attacked Baekje. In 561, Jinheung sent General Yisabu to conquer Gaya, consolidating Silla’s hold on southeastern Korea.

Jinheung was a patron of Master Woo Reuk, one of the three great musicians of Korean history, who composed music for the gayageum (Korean twelve-stringed zither).

In 576 (during the final year of his life) at the age of 42, IT WAS HE WHO CREATED HWARANG (화랑), so called Flower Youth, an organization for aristocratic youth which developed into a form of knighthood and later played an important role in unifying the Three Kingdoms.

[vidianimu]

manse manse mamanse!!

[hijaberdiary09]

When your heart is hurting

• Pray. • Sit on that prayer mat and pour your heart out until there’s nothing left to share. • Remind yourself that it’s okay to cry. He’s seen you crying in your sleep. There’s nothing left to hide. • Then - Breathe in. • Close your eyes and with a firm intention say, “Oh Allah, I trust that only you can take this pain away from my heart.” • Breathe out and.. • Just Let It All Go.

Tawakkul breaks down barriers you didn’t even see coming your way.

[vidianimu]

again and again

[lomasdope]

I want to inspire people. One day I hope someone looks at me and says “because of you, I didn’t give up.”

(via lomasdope)

[psych2go]

Psychology Quotes

[in-pursuit-of-fitness]

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“Just because you don’t see it, don’t mean it don’t exist”

[eri-cheshire]

And they say: “stop being dramatic.”

[chickenshit]

“Top 10 strangest phenomena of the mind”

[psychology-studyofthesoul-blog]

Not exactly entirely psychology-related, but I thought this was interesting to put this here since it does deal with the mind.

[vidianimu]

waaaaa cuma tau deja vu

[psych2go]

What’s Your True Mental Age? | Psych2Go.net

In psychology, there's your chronological age and mental age. Chronological age refers to your age on the calendar while mental age refers to your reasoning abilities or wisdom if you may. Take this quiz designed by us to find out how old you really are.

[sagescaffeinemania]

This was so on point, tbh it freaked me out.

[vidianimu]

gemeeees

[vidianimu]

menantikan tulisan yang kujanjikan akan kutulis. fighting!

[chibird]

Be kind to yourselves everyone! ^^

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noted!

[vidianimu]

Bismillah.. Halo december! 😊 .. Bersyukur sampai di bulan ini, bulan terakhir 2016. Hey, you did a great job for 11th months before !! Yay! . Please be nice for yourself and dont forget to be happy. And praise Allah for everything that you have gotten before! .. اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوْذُبِكَ مِنْ عِلْمٍ لاَ يَنْفَعُ وَمِنْ قَلْبٍ لاَ يَخْشَعُ وَمِنْ دَعْوَةٍ لاَ يُسْتَجَابُ لَهَا ‘’Ya Allah Azza wa Jalla , aku berlindung kepadamu dari ilmu yang tidak bermanfaat, dari hati yang tidak khusyu’, dan dari jiwa yang tidak pernah merasa kenyang, serta dari doa yang tidak dikabulkan.’’ #december #rainbow #alhamdulillah #lastmonthin2016

[vidianimu]

Kupikir hatiku sedikit retak. Dan berusaha tidur dengan hati yg sesak. Kalau kata temanku umi, bisa jadi itu dikarenakan dua persepsi yang berbeda dalam memandang masalah. Jika itu aku: selama itu tidak melanggar akidah, jika perlu didiskusikan.. maka didiskusikan saja sampai ada titik yg baik Jika itu dia: saklek utk ya atau tidak maka itu gpapa.. selama itu tidak melanggar akidah Dan mulailah kembali percikan itu. Aku sudah minta maaf atas kebodohanku melanggar persepsi dia dan sudah kukatakan aku mengerti .. tapi kemudian dia bertanya mengenai penerimaaan (?) Dan kemudian berkata "banyak keinginan". Hatiku, bersabarlah yang baik lain kali, usahakan jangn retak terlalu banyak.. dia pasti tidak berniat seperti itu: '). Kau belum lagi berlayar. Rabbku, sssungguhnya hamba menginginkan kebaikan yang kau berikan kepadaku..

[vidianimu]

Bismillahirahmanirahim

[nhudahasan]

Marriage tips. The best way to argue?

Remember the saying “Don’t go to bed angry”? Well, yesterday I did just that, while he did not come to bed at all.

Falling asleep was an effort. My body was charged by adrenaline and my brain busily counted reasons why, during our argument, I was right.

I was determined to regroup overnight and progress our wicked discussion until his proclamation of defeat. Letting go felt like a sign of neglect.

In the morning I woke up hollow-eyed and drained. My anger was no longer intense but wobbly. But it did not go away completely, making it tempting to give him another run on the ways he had wronged me the day before. Just one more time, with greater resolve and firmness.

But then again, he had a different take on things and was not ready to listen, shutting down and tuning me out. Charged with frustration, we did not speak for a few more hours. Lots of steam and fire and no resolve. Should I just try again? Maybe to make my point well requires just a tad more tenacity.

One partner keeps lecturing and persevering on his or her point, while the other one feels increasingly wary and disconnected. It is a toxic cycle that in many couples. It is so common that it was named with “Woodpecker Syndrome.” One partner is just not willing to give up, continuing toxic conversations and repeating rash lectures.

It does not lead to any constructive dialogue, but a partner affected by the woodpecker syndrome perseveres, as if seeing some invisible “keep going” sign. She becomes a diligent and insensitive lecturer, making forceful monologues that drown in defensive silence. Nothing gets resolved; the relationship deteriorates further. Both partners get exhausted and wary.

This is a communication pattern of ever-diminishing returns. Soon just the mentioning of “let’s talk” makes one want to run or hide. A pattern of talking at someone, not to someone, breeds disconnect and widens the relational rift. It does not matter how well-intended the comments are once they are delivered as a bullet point list of suggestions or a stern monotone monologue with no intermissions. Such a way is doomed to just sink in silence and can’t serve any good purpose.

Loving well means telling it all and being persistent if necessary, right? Not always. Sometimes you are wrong. And being wrong, angry, and stubborn is an annoying combination that never lets you get through to anyone. A scavenger hunt of accusations will never lead to dialogue or connecting.

Sometimes it may be good advice delivered with bad timing. The other person is not ready or incapable of change at the moment. They need more support and empathy and less instruction. As said by Theodore Roosevelt, “Nobody knows how much you know, until they know how much you care.” For a change to take place, it has to be good advice, delivered at an appropriate time, in a sensible manner.

A mixture of warped good intentions and self-righteousness, charged by anger and repetition, will never produce a healthy way to communicate. Woodpeckers are persistent, critical and insistent on their point of view. Woodpeckers are prone to blame, don’t listen, keenly repeat things, because someone’s reality dared to disagree with theirs. Their goal is not to communicate but to win at all costs, leading to compromised trust and loss of any hope of connecting and really hearing each other.

Once you turn into a woodpecker, you obsessively peck into someone’s skull, driving a pathway to their brain, insensibly ignoring the agony you may inflict. The other person gets pained, frustrated and defensive, trying to insulate themselves with silence.

In turn, you feel like a tired driver wanting to get home but caught in thick traffic. You say things repeatedly, hoping for at least something to stick. But it feels like pressing the “scan” button on the car radio, trying to find some nice tunes but catching only static.

With stress cells fully activated in both people, the situation only feels increasingly hopeless and agonizing.

Just stop talking. Take a hike, have a date with your TV friends, or take a bath and go to bed early. Rest, regroup, and then strategize. Try to seek a different approach, but please don’t quadruple your effort when something is not working. Maybe you are not going to get your way. Maybe not this time, or maybe not ever on this specific matter.

But then, perhaps you can love each other anyway. Or you may get through at some point, but not by pursuing things in such a destructive manner. If you recognize some patterns described here, just stop prodding and pecking, or your heads will hurt and your relationship will get hollow.

Dare to try?

Try before its too late.

Cause believe it or not.

Not everytime.

But sometimes.

Love do fades.

[naturaekos]

“I want to grow old with you until my feathers go grey my beak wrinkles up and my wings are too weak to fly. All we can do is live from day to day. And as he whispered these words to her, she fell fast asleep.”

Rob Ryan, A Sky Full of Kindness (via naturaekos)