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Should I stay or should I go...

If a new POT (that has already given you your allowance, you trust fully etc etc) asks you to go on holiday with him for a week, how much should you ask for? I was thinking of nothing less than £5k but I'm not sure if I'm being too greedy/not greedy enough... He is sincerely rather grotesque looking though. Could any of you ladies suggest a figure? 😬

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I SERIOUSLY need SB/escort friends...

So I haven’t written in this blog for over a year.

Work, studies, travels, relationships etc have taken priority, and I well and truly stepped out of the sugar bowl. However this summer life has taken another interesting turn (to say the least) and I unwittingly freestyled my way back to this lifestyle. 

I need to discuss these things with likeminded ladies over cocktails, restaurants and sending screenshots of crazy shit. I have a truly wonderful group of friends, but none that would understand this lifestyle. 

Please get in touch if you’re London based and want to meet up :)

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It's 6AM

I have a lecture in 3 hours. I haven’t slept one bit. I have 3 essays (each minimum of 2000 words) due within the next 5 days and I just don’t know how to manage.

I tried to make a start on an essay earlier today, but it was so hard I went to sleep to avoid doing it (seem to be doing that a lot lately) and now Ive messed up my whole sleep schedule.

So overwhelmed at the moment.

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Tumblr Therapy.

When I've got 2827 thoughts in my head, I always find it quite therapeutic to write on tumblr. I'm absolutely determined to not go back on anti-depressants. They made my judgement so cloudy and I hated the fact I couldn't focus on my studies. I applied for therapy at my university too, but I applied almost 5 weeks ago... And no response. So here's a list of things that are bugging me today. I'm hoping that by writing them out, it won't seem that detrimental in the wider perspective, and at the very least, I can get a few things off my chest: 1) I feel stuck in a rut. Back in my sugar days or even earlier, I would never say no to spontaneity. I once had a first date with an older guy that ended up with his driver dropping me home at 5AM just so I can pick up a few clothes and go to Paris with him at 8AM. Now? I need everything to be so regimented otherwise I feel out of control. A guy I went on a few dates with invited me to Cape Town. Old me would have been SO down for that. New me? I didn't go because I felt guilty of not doing work. 2) Studies. That's the biggest worry in my life. Last year, I got a 2.2 which is basically... Not great. I spent a decade of my life working to be at this university. To graduate with a 2.2 would be a huge personal disappointment. Most graduate work schemes require a 2.1 for you to apply and I'm genuinely trying my hardest... But I don't think it's good enough. Honestly, I've lost passion for my subject and now it's a matter of just trying to leave this place with something to show for it. I'm also petrified of the future. Everyone is settling in to a graduate scheme while I haven't even got a part time job lined up. It's fine, I know I'll figure it out once I graduate, but it's still daunting all the same. 3) I feel lonely. I know, I know, in this day and age you're not allowed to admit you feel alone. You have to constantly be 'busy' but it's true. I have no good friends at this university, no one to really talk to and it's just horrible seeing all the photos on facebook of the fun everyone is having. I have a few incredible friends back home and my family and I are on good terms but I miss a meaningful relationship with a guy. I miss the morning texts, having someone to complain to and so on. I promised myself I wouldn't get into a relationship for that exact reason- because I make it my primary focus. But I do miss it. Casually dating is fun but being able to feel truly comfortable around a guy... I haven't had that for a while. So in the grand scheme of things, it's nothing major I guess. I just have to remind myself it's 4 months of intensity, restriction and rules and then I can (hopefully) have a crazy summer, do spontaneous stuff, meet the man of my dreams, graduate with a 2.1 and live happy ever after. Hopefully.

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Men on tinder be like…

May the sweet lord have mercy on us all if men think this is enough (literally and figuratively) to win a lady.

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To be honest

It's not so much that I miss my ex, but rather the worry I will never find someone I can comfortably fart around.

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im really interested in sugaring and a lot of other sex work but the thing is is that im 14 I know it's young but im gypsy we don't really have childhoods like I was 12 and paying the bills, anyway im not gonna do it until legal age of course but i mean I have a lot of years to wait so is there anything I could improve on while im waiting?

Oh my. Well firstly, I’m so happy to hear that you’re going to wait until legal age. You clearly have a clever head on your shoulders and that will be very useful for this lifestyle in the future.

In the mean time, I honestly just recommend focusing on yourself. Sugaring may be lucrative but it shouldn’t be your focus in life. You need to be the focus. I don’t know your personal situation but work on self improvement- learn a language, play an instrument, learn to code, be healthy, study hard… Whatever it is.

All these skills will come in handy if/when you decide to enter the bowl. Be the best version of yourself and I promise it’ll be worth the wait.

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Why have you changed your blog name? Do you mind if I use it?

Of course I dont mind! Please by all means feel free :)I changed it because I felt it might be a bit misleading. Whilst I don’t think a girl can ever stop being a sugar baby- and by that, I mean that there is an innate part of the lifestyle that is engrained into my psyche (I’m honestly scared at how potentially disgusted my face would look if a guy ever wanted to split the bill) being a sugar is not my priority right now.

I have 6 months left of university and I’m lacking motivation so much that I think this will slowly evolve in to a diary of my distress/study motivation blog. So guys, I’m afraid if you’re looking for money shots/sb stories etc that’s just not gonna be me for the next few months.

Study stress, dating disasters and tampon tales on the other hand…

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The Sugar Curse

Alright I’m not saying I have a thing for receding hairlines or that I get my jollies from counting hand wrinkles during dinner… BUT. I really like older men.

I’ve always been partial to older guys. But before my sugaring days, I could glance at a guy my age and think ‘oh he’s good looking’ but now? Babies. Anyone under 30 looks like a child to me.

I realized how bad it is when I’m back at university- the tinder options are low as it’s such a student town, so inevitably I set the age lower than in London… And I just keep thinking ‘Child. Kid. Infant. Pubescent. Pre-pubescent. Rugrat.’ Etc etc.

Oh and today, a group of girls I was with after lecture, were avidly admiring this youngish looking guy in the restaurant. And I was there breaking my neck to see if the dad had a wedding ring.

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i have no idea what to do with my allowance. i heard that putting an obscene amount of money in your savings account without any official job will get you in trouble but i don't want to do anything illegal. how does a sugar baby's financial savings account work? i want to legally save my money in a reliable bank, and i don't want to evade taxes or anything, but idk how to go about this

Honestly I have no idea. And I don't want to give you the wrong advice which could potentially get you in trouble so please look around the tag and perhaps ask someone who is better equipped to answer this. Sorry I couldn't be of help!

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What got you into sugaring? And how do you deal with sugar daddies that are married, do you ever feel bad?

I actually wrote a reply to this but it got deleted for some reason. Ok so how did I get into sugaring?… I’m 22 now but between the ages of 17 and 20 I was in a very abusive and damaging relationship. My boyfriend at the time would take my money, buy tonnes of cocaine and then try and convince me that this was all normal. He was my first boyfriend so I was naïve and didn’t know that he was in fact brain washing me. The cocaine was definitely not the worst of it but I won’t go into that further. I then met one of my dearest friends who told me about her spoilt girlfriend endeavours. I didn’t really know what sugaring/being a spoilt girlfriend was at that time (neither did she) but I soon began to read up on it. I saw how my friend could use her beauty and intelligence to manipulate men into falling to their knees… and I loved it! I actually signed up to seeking arrangement whilst I was in that relationship - It was probably the being wined and dined by POTs which actually gave me the strength to end my relationship.

I don’t really know what you mean by ‘how do you deal with sugar daddies that are married’ however as far as feeling bad is concerned… i’m human of course I feel bad. Although I am medicated due to eating disorders which pretty much makes me emotionally dead. Its good sometimes but my brain can feel like mush which can be difficult especially with university. I have actually been off medication for 7 days now, I guess you could say I am trying to stop taking it, but I am becoming increasingly hyper - hyper as in overly emotional and self destructive. Really hope it stops soon. Think I might go and get a repeat prescription tomorrow.

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😘😘 I wonder who this friend was! Loved reading this and I'm so proud of you for getting out of that situation and for everything you've achieved.

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If you ever think you're having a bad date...

Just remember this:

I once went back to a guys house after a date. Told him nothing would happen because I was on my period. Went to use the toilet in the middle of the night…

Sneezed and managed to get blood all over his cream rug. Panicked, put the rug in my handbag and ran out of his house.

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How did you get into the sugar bowl

I think the first post I ever made was about this :) but the story is that I was actually an unintentional 'spoilt gf' for a long time before entering the bowl. My first boyfriend who was only few years older but from a ridiculously wealthy background would send me money monthly to help when I was at school. I saw it as pretty normal and only wish I saved some of it instead of buying expensive shit that ended up being burnt to the ground when I broke up with him... But anyway. After I broke up with him, I just wanted to date older guys that I thought were 'mature' and found that they saw me as some kind of 'damsel in distress' that they had to protect. I didn't really intend for it to be like that but I think my slight innocence was advantageous. As many sugars argue, you can't procure a long term SD by making it feel solely transactional. But these guys were all from vanilla platforms and after a while I decided to do straight up sugar dating using sites. First couple of times were ok but now I tend to stay away as it's over run with salts and empty promises. When I return to the bowl, I would much rather do what I do best: subtly turn a rich guy in to a SD.

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you seem to be on such man hate mode lately.... its funny AF but are you ok? xxxx love your blog

You're adorable to be concerned :) seriously this might sound weird but I sometimes feel like my tumblr ladies are more inept to my psychology than people who know me or even myself. Ok that makes no sense but I'm a bit tipsy replying to this but basically anon, I do hate men. That's not to say all men. But a vast majority. Firstly, it's a mechanism to a certain extent; I made a pledge to myself to not be involved in a serious relationship till I graduate next year (which kind of rules out any human emotion) and secondly, the chaps I have met recently.... Leave much to be desired. Like I said before, we are in a 'tinder culture' where we swipe away because the man of our dreams may be one click away. And what does that mean? Well personally, even if I have a fantastic date, if he doesn't chase me then I feel he's not keen. And so I begin swiping. It's a vicious cycle. I'm sure you didn't expect such a random response but hey I'm drunk and just got home from a good tinder date that will inevitably go nowhere. So yes, I am on a man hating mode right now.

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Free styling tips??

Group of 3 maximum, but best is with a partner in crime. Steer clear of clubs! Head for upscale bars, hotels are the best bet or on a weekday, around the bars near the financial part of your city. Order one glass of cheapish wine and sip away... Try and catch the eye of guys who are (at the very minimum) in their 40s. Go from there.

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I hope your day is getting or going better and good luck with your dissertation :-)

Anons who take the time out of their day to leave cute messages like this are so ridiculously sweet! Thank you love :)

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When I’m having a dissertation crisis and an overall crappy day… You best believe I’ll respond like this.