AITA for hooking up with my boyfriend's hated political rival the night after him and I had hooked up (with definite romantic undertones), but before we'd DTR'd and agreed to be exclusive, and still not having told him six months later?
I used to work for an individual, D, attempted to set up an Anarch government in my city. I don't think she was a bad person at heart, but I realized over time she wouldn't have been a good Baron. My now-boyfriend, Z, was one of the only other people in the city with the wherewithal and support to rival her for the position of Baron, and I backed him in secret while continuing my work for D.
Eventually, Z offered me a life boon to remove D from the picture. I didn't think I could do it at the time, but later on D started to show signs of (I guess pretty well founded) paranoia, and eventually told me she planned on taking Z out. I told him as soon as I was able, and the conversation just kept going and there was music and then dancing and things just happened. I knew it was more than purely physical, but we were a bit pressed for time and didn't stop to talk details. I wasn't going to let D hurt him, and managed to come up with a way to get rid of her before she could do so.
Before I did that though, D owed me a boon. I knew she had access to Oblivion in addition to Brujah-typical disciplines. I invited her over to my place the next night. We had hooked up once, months before (zero romantic vibes, purely for fun), but I don't like risking the bond so we were careful about it. D said she wanted to let off steam and didn't want to have to be cautious about it this time. I frankly didn't want it to go that far at all, but if I were cashing out favors and acting distant right before a dangerous fight, she might've known something was up, so I did. I got my boon, and seemed to trust me right up until the end.
The next night was when Z and I finally had a chance to sit down again and he more formally expressed wanting to be together and be exclusive. It's been six months since then, he's Baron now, and we're still together and I think very happy. I've never told him about that night with D though.
It may be important to note that my boyfriend and I still keep things safe, partially to avoid the bond, but mostly because he has a vitae disease which he doesn't want to pass on to me. He probably wouldn't love the fact that D and I had hooked up in general, but combined with the timing, I think knowing things went further with her and I than can with us would be especially hard, hence why I've seen no need to intentionally bring it up.
I've never lied to hide it, it just hasn't come up naturally, and I know he'll find out eventually because there are only so many places I could've gotten Oblivion.
AITA for doing it and not going out of my way to inform him?
I think keeping things from your partner is a recipe for catastrophe. Particularly if you know the truth will out at. a time you do not get to decide.
Betrayal seems a theme for you, though.
Verdict?
Voting ended onJun 22, 2025
