[mel0dicblue]

[9amwarmsun]

Signs of a healthy argument:

You’ve taken the time beforehand to think about what your goal is (Are you trying to be right? Or are you trying to understand each other?)

You do your best to not hurt each other with your words, because you’re trying to understand each other.

You address your feelings without accusing each other (“I feel ___ when ___ happens”…. NOT “You never ____!”) because no one likes being accused. Even if it’s an accurate accusation.

You verbally remind each other that you’re arguing for the sake of understanding each other, and NOT just to be right/stir up some drama/take out frustration.

You both listen to each other’s points. Listen fully. Express your thoughts fully.

The argument finishes with you both feeling respected.

Ideally you come away with 1) a compromise/decision, 2) a better understanding of each other, 3) (ideally) more love and respect for each other.

[adrenaline]

[thisiskayesworld-deactivated202]

[haemaemae]

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Song of the Day ::: 7+11=11

———————–

“Love ridden, I’ve looked at you

With the focus I gave to my birthday candles.

I’ve wished on the lidded blue flames,

under your brow, and baby, I wished for you.

—–

Nobody sees when you are lying in your bed,

and I wanna crawl in with you, but I cry instead.

I want your warm but it will only make me colder when it’s over,

so I can’t tonight, baby.

No, not baby, anymore.

If I need you I’ll just use your simple name.

Only kisses on the cheek from now on,

and in a little while, we’ll only have to wave.

—–

My hand won’t hold you down no more.

the path is clear to follow through.

I stood too long in the way of the door,

and now I’ve given up on you.

—–

No, not baby anymore,

if I need you I’ll just use your simple name.

Only kisses on the cheek from now on,

And in a little while, we’ll only have to wave.

—–

No, not baby anymore,

if I need you I’ll just use your simple name.

Only kisses on the cheek from now on,

And in a little while, we’ll only have to wave.”

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[itsallwell]

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

If someone has shown you a certain pattern of behavior, believe what you’re seeing. Do not try to minimize or justify what you’ve been presented to conjure up an outcome that’s more soothing. If that is how they operate, accept it.

[melonmemes]

[zanabism-deactivated20200529]

‘Men are taught not to be emotional’

Pal men are taught to throw tables across the room if they’re angry and punch people who mildly disrespect them— all of these things are emotional responses they’re just incongruous with what we consider emotional to be i.e. a sniffling teenage girl. Men are super emotional. They’re selfishly emotional. They’re so emotional that they *have* to let any living creature around them feel the pain they feel inside even for a sec.

[jessiiboo]

No more one sided relationships, you deserve the same amount of effort that you’re putting in.

[hiiilife20]

[lexxnova]

one mans “nah I’m not ready” is another mans “she’s exactly who I want to do things with and to”

[thepowerofblackwomen]

Duckie Thot for Fenty Beauty

[nahimoffthis-deactivated2018091]

I LIKE SOME OF THE GAGA SONGS…WHAT THE FUCK DOES SHE KNOW ABOUT CAMERAS?

[skinoutqueen]

Almond milk >>>>>>>> that nasty cow titty shit y’all be drinking

[theblackmanonthemoon]

Big FACTS

[archivesofmyheart-blog]

Sometimes an agressive tone means an underlying ache. Sometimes, rather than to become defensive and offended by someone’s lack of respect in their speech to you; speak softly to them, ask them what fuels this tone of voice, ask them what they carry within that brings them to a state of anger or sadness. Soften them, with your words. Perhaps they’ll be brought to tears. Embrace them. Understand them. If only we did this..

[2kyla-deactivated20180808]

I love when this app just closes itself on me like you’re right thank you