Watch Kate Date

The dating disasters of a woman in New York

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Wait, is this a date?

Me, Wednesday, October 11, 2017. I should note that I asked him out for a drink.

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I have to post this in it’s entirety

Because it’s very ... WTF. Is this negging?

“Since I bought the full service to see how this app works I am able to see likes etc. I actually liked you from your photos and am excited about your being a librarian but I’m not looking for a long term dating, especially after I experienced how hypocrite and rude are the majority of the women here. To be honest, I also understand thanks to the Tinder that I’m not ready for a commitment. But if you do not see this message arrogant or rude per se, neither am I actually, I would love to be a friend with a person like you.”

ERM?

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Not Interested in Hookups

How I felt the minute after I propositioned a friend.

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Pre-First Date Texting No No

Attorney: Can I ask you a sexual question?

Me: ...

Attorney: Are a very sexual person?

And that, dear reader, is why I did not meet the 37 year old attorney from lower Manhattan for drinks.

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I don't mean to be forward ... but for our second date, can we Netflix and chill?

TURNS OUT I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT NETFLIX & CHILL MEANT. He was very gracious, and we wound up dating for a year and a half (waves hello to him if he’s reading this).

Also, we watched John Mulaney, because John Mulaney is awesome.

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My piece from the IDEAL zine! Hope SPX was fun.

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Speed Dating Post-Mortem

About to tell friend about the disastrous speed dating event.

Me: Oh god. There was a drunk Trump supporter there who a) is a fan of the alt-right, b) hates to read, and c) told me he's a ferry boat captain and steers under the influence.

Friend: Did you mark "yes"?

Me: FUCK NO.

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hey tere whats going oon =p

67% match, 10/1/17

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Rejoined OkCupid: Stats

Rejoin date: August 30

Messages: 63

One word salutations: 6

Age range: 21-44 (listed my range as 25-40)

Phone numbers given in the first message: 1

Sex specific messages: 1 (foot fetish)

Messages from men who match me in the 50-70% range: 9

Messages from men who match me LESS THAN 50%: 11

Of that 11, one guy was 10% match.

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Too Soon, Too Fast

I deleted my OkCupid account back in mid-May, shortly after my second-to-latest post.

Mainly because the ... man ... I was supposed to go on a date with (who apparently tore his stomach lining from vomiting; which, according to Dr. Friend, is VERY difficult to do), was doing The Thing.

What’s The Thing?

Promise me the moon, the stars, everything that will make me weak in the knees, and then get incredibly possessive, creepy, and demanding.

I’ve been down that road before, most memorably with a guy I briefly dated when I was in high school. There have been other guys who worked their damnedest to isolate me.

I managed to extract myself (this time) before he and I could have our rescheduled first date. I’m done with dating websites. I’m no longer reeling in fear and nausea, but I’m still freaked out. I may talk about this more in the future, but the whole experience has been locked in a mental box for the time being, mainly for my own sanity.

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The Woods

Spent a week at dance camp. Now I have crushes on people that will never come to fruition.

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I also like your lovely and elegant hands. You look like you have pretty big hands😍

random dude on OkCupid

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Reading Comprehension Fail

"Just wanted to be honest and ask you if you would be interested in hooking up sometime?" My profile states that I have no desire to "hook up."

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Do you want to be my girlfriend? I can sweeten the deal with a baby koala.

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How much crazy to put out there?

I have some ... incredibly quirky ... interests. Question is: if I put them on the dating profile, do I attract *more* strange men, or detract the shy keepers?

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Hello OkCupid

In under 24 hours (I rejoined), I have received 12 messages. The highlights:

“How to I say this without coming off as creepy. hot damn do I love librarians!”

“Happy anniversary  babe! :P“ (no idea what the dude is referencing)

“Let's have kids”

Oh yay. The fun begins anew.

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I signed up for speed dating. I'm really hoping that I have not dated any of the men before. Because *that* can be really awkward.