Sometimes itâs hard to get in depth with your muse and their backstory, because you canât figure out how to bring those things up with others. Here are a couple of starters intended to make things a little more personal!
âWhatâs holding you back?â
âIâm not comfortable with this conversation.â
âWill you /ever/ be comfortable with this conversation?â
âLet me in sometime!â
âItâs not that easy, you know.â
âHelp me understand.â
âItâs hard to connect with someone when all they do is push you away.â
âWhy are you always so cold?â
âWhy are you always so happy?â
âAre you really happy now?â
âWho hurt you this badly to make you this way?!â
âWhat, did your ex mess you up that badly?!â
âWhy do you keep fighting it any time you feel?â
âItâs a problem, I get it.â
âThis is all kinds of messed up.â
âThatâs not exactly a good coping method.â
âSo what happened, with your parents, really?â
âWhat was your childhood like?â
âEveryone has at lest a little bit of mommy/daddy issues. Itâs nothing to be ashamed of.â
âMy parents arenât exactly perfect models, either.â
âYou were bullied? What for?â
âWas it hard? Coming out, I mean.â
âYou canât just run away all the time.â
âYou canât just hide all the time.â
âAre you still thinking about them?â
âIâm not the enemy here. But this makes me wonder who the real one is for you.â
âIs the reason youâre so cold and defensive because you feel threatened?â
âHow long has it been since you last spoke to them?â
âYou never talk about it, why?â
âHow come youâre so different around them?â
âItâs like you donât have a care or worry in the world.â
âYou seem so perfect. I donât get it.â
âWhat was your ex like?â
âI donât think I was ever good enough for them.â
âAre you not comfortable being intimate?â
âWhy donât you feel comfortable being intimate?â
âLetting someone see you that vulnerable, itâs a scary thing.â
âAre you scared of being hurt?â
âHave you ever been taken advantage of?â
âWhy are you afraid of saying I love you?â
âI never understood how someone could say those words so easily.â
âYouâre hurting others the way youâve been hurt in the past, donât you think thatâs ironic?â
âYou use people to make yourself feel better.â
âIâm scared of being used againâŚâ
âLosing someone isnât easy, but youâre making it harder than it needs to be.â
âHow long has it been since you lost them?â
âYouâre too attached.â
âIâm not attached, Iâm just comfortable with what Iâm familiar to.â
âMaybe the real reason youâre so controlling is because, deep down youâd rather have them in your grasp than lose them.â
âWhy did you ever break up?â / âWhy did we ever break up?â