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we are a DID system. our body is 21, and we do not wish to directly interact with minors. there may be adult content, or at least references to it, on this blog at some point. we will do our best to tag everything as necessary, but we aren't infallible.

we will not be sharing identifying information, or information about all of our system members, especially children, for safety reasons. some system members may choose to use nicknames or pseudonyms on here, and we won't be using any part's real name/information until they've confirmed they want us to.

K - 🐠 host, he/him or they/them

A - 🪽 caretaker/protector, she/her

N - 🟩 protector in progress, he/him

B- 💙 past host, he/him

Z - 🐝 she/her

S - ➰️ introject, he/him

G - 👁 gatekeeper, they/it

P - 🎮 child/little, he/they

J - 🎧 social/protector, he/him

#did system #osddid #dissociative system #k 🐠#a 🪽#n 🟩#b 💙#z 🐝#s ➰️#g 👁#p 🎮#j 🎧

solassitudes

oh. maybe. maybe this it. maybe that’s the problem.

ofgeography

girlmostlikely

Ever since I was a little girl I dreamed of everything being okay

bonyassfish

Speaking as a survivor of child sex abuse: the world would be a lot better if yall spent less time talking about the ways in which pedophiles should be punished and more time supporting survivors and preventing abuse

I get it, punishment can feel cathartic. I’ve certainly spent time imagining all the ways in which my own abuser might be punished. But ultimately, him dying, or being jailed, or publicly shamed, isn’t actually going to help me nor will it stop more kids from getting hurt in the future.

I don’t want more prisoners. I want free therapy with trauma informed counselors. I want better sex education for young children that teaches them about consent and body autonomy. And I want a society in which I can openly discuss my trauma, or at least as openly as yall discuss the evils of pedophiles

seven-winged-liar

when villagers have a fear mechanic it's 'great for iron farms' when I have a fear mechanic it's ptsd. make it make sense

persianmom-deactivated20251026

agonizing over all the time you wasted or lost is useless. it’s gone now. you survived in the only way you knew how. doesn’t your survival deserve some recognition too?

persianmom-deactivated20251026

like toni morrison said, “sometimes you don't survive whole, you just survive in part. but the grandeur of life is that attempt. it’s not about that solution. it is about being as fearless as one can, and behaving as beautifully as one can, under completely impossible circumstances.”

oursystemblog

patricia-taxxon

i need to soapbox about DID more, because its kinda like being trans, you'd think that you'd notice if you had it but that's just cultural osmosis giving a skewed impression, statistically you probably wouldn't. statistically you need to do rigorous work to notice.

patricia-taxxon

you might have entertained the idea once and discarded it because u have put DID in this box of rare implausible fantastical mental disorders when it is simply far more mundane than that.

transhumanisticpanspermia

it's still unbelievable to me how well my system was hiding, if i hadn't tapped that first domino of "trying IFS in therapy" all my alters would still probably be covert. but trying to talk to parts was enough to bring them out of hiding so they could enlighten me on how they've been driving my behavior for decades

actualized-animal

something i think about a lot is how the sensationalized perception of DID as being this extremely rare disorder that only occurs in response to the worst possible kinds of abuse imaginable makes it so much harder for people to realize that they have DID. i mean, for one, even for people who have been through those kinds of abuse, complex dissociative disorders are defined by the obscuring of trauma, meaning it’s extremely common for dissociative systems to just not even realize they were abused or traumatized at all. but also, that level of abuse is not required for a dissociative system to form at all. it’s not like a dark souls status effect where once your trauma bar fills up enough you get DID; the disorder is a complex response meant to allow the mind to cope with severe chronic stress at a very young age, and there are lots of things that can contribute to that— any kind of abuse, neglect, bullying, isolation, disability, neurodivergence, queerness, etc. these factors tend to compound. autistic people, for example, are both far more susceptible to stress and far more likely to be traumatized, and so we also have a higher incidence of dissociative disorders. it took me so long to realize and internalize that my experience of being emotionally abused by my mother while also growing up queer and autistic was “bad enough” for my brain to respond by developing DID to protect me. i’d completely written it off as a possibility before then, because, like the original post said, it’s far more mundane than people are led to believe. that’s why i think spreading awareness is so important.

escuerzoresucitado

thememedaddy

lifeafterpsychiatry

Too many people will pass around "always trust your gut!" and "your intuition never lies" content when actually your "intuition" isn't immune to either propaganda, bigotry or trauma reactions. Which is important to be aware of actually

lifeafterpsychiatry

You're not actually a better friend for not articulating and respecting your own needs, limits and boundaries. Your lack of communication and boundaries is not some impressive sacrifice. You're not doing anyone any favors by acting like you're okay with things you aren't okay with. You're just building burnout and resentment that will eventually damage the relationship in question. And when you eventually snap and walk away because you silently overburdened yourself to be a "good friend", it won't be the other persons fault

socialvoidwalker

Switching isn't Always Dramatic

A thing that absolutely pisses me off when people are talking about DID as a whole is how many people think that people are faking if their switches aren't super dramatic and noticeable.

I'm not saying that they can't be, but more often than not it's so subtle no one would notice! That is kind of the point of the disorder, guys! To HIDE! It's typically very covert!

I'm not about to sit here and black out every single time then hit you with a "Wh-what? Where am I? WHO ARE YOU?!"

Chances are, you will never know the difference.

(I will repeat that your switches can and may always be super obvious and overt, and there isn't anything wrong with that, either! The brain is a strange thing that works different for everyone.)