Kink Without Consent is NOT Kink
1. “The answer's easy: if someone doesn't want you to do something to them, and they tell you they don't want you to do that thing, but you do it anyway, that's not kink or BDSM. That's assault.” - KYNK 101
2. “In the kink community, consent is paramount. Consent is never implied - it is generally understood in the kink community that consent is an important discussion between partners and that it is ongoing. Saying “yes” to one activity does not imply a “yes” for all other sexual activity. It is crucial to negotiate consent before a scene and go over each participant’s limits and to check in during the scene as well.” - The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center
3. “Kink can be thrilling, terrifying, emotionally exhausting, and sometimes incredibly overwhelming. But it should always be consensual, and everyone participating in a kink experience should always feel respected, supported, and like their boundaries are inviolable. Without that respect, it’s not kink, it’s abuse. And being kinky does not make abuse okay.” - THEM Lux Alptraum is a writer, sex educator, and consultant who has written for Hustler, Cosmopolitan, and The Guardian, among other publications
4. “A core principle of kink is negotiating with a prospective partner before anything happens. If that negotiation is done right, it's more like a collaboration toward a common goal: each party's pleasure. That includes discussing what's about to happen before it happens, hashing out boundaries and ensuring that everyone involved is on the same page.” - NPR in conversation with sex experts
5. “No matter what you’re into, kinky sex is about consent, communication, and compromise. Before trying any new sex act, obtaining enthusiastic, continuous consent from all parties involved is a must.” - GLAMOUR
6. “Consent works the same way in the kink world as it does in the vanilla world. If you don't know what your partner likes or wants, ask. With your words.” - Huff Post
7. “The kink community has a phrase that most of us abide by — Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Encoded into everything we do is the concept of consent. It is important to kinksters that we are not abusing each other, that we are respecting each other’s boundaries, individuality, and autonomy. We like to get each other’s rocks off, but we do so with integrity and an ingrained sense of propriety and rules that are codified. Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) is to kinksters what The Ten Commandments is to the religious.” - MEDIUM Mister Vinnie Editor for Edgeplay Vinnie is a cismale, sex positive, pansexual, polyamorish, dominant, leatherman
8. “If you've established that you'll explore BDSM or specific fetishes, you might want to lean on an acronym used in the BDSM community: RACK, which stands for "Risk-Aware Consensual Kink" and serves as a helpful checklist for ensuring everyone's on the same page. "It means that someone cannot consent until they have been made aware of all of the risks involved in the act," -Shan Boodram, a certified intimacy educator and spokesperson for K-Y.
9. “However, it is time for us to move past these misconceptions and accept kink as a lifestyle, a behavior, and a sexual practice. You can adopt kinky sex practices with your partner(s). Whether it be BDSM or fetishes, ensure that there is consent, which is essential for everything.” - Tickle.Life Editorial Team
10. “Having an actual verbal discussion about kink with a partner it is pretty important because when it comes to BDSM and kink activities, going with implied consent drives the risk of violating consent right up. Not everyone reacts to pain the same. What may be a genuine stop reaction for one person can be an expression of surrender and enjoyment for someone else. If you want to respect boundaries in kink, having open communications about what those boundaries are is far more successful with verbal communication.” - Keeping It Kinky Founder, Kashiko Black
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