recovery

this blog is a safe space for mentally ill people. pro self-dx. submissions are always open, and anon is always on. links for mobile

[wetsuggestion]

I'm bi and I plan on telling my parents this weekend but I am so scared and if my dad doesn't react well I might just have a breakdown. I already am still getting over hating myself for it and I don't need it from him. I just don't know what to do. I'm sorry. I'm sorry

I think really the only thing you can do is be as honest as possible. Maybe try to write your thoughts out and form a coherent statement and plan of action. Let them ask all the questions they want to, and answer them to the best of your ability. I wish I could be of more help, though when I came out I was almost institutionalized. I hope things go well-mod g

[wetsuggestion]

hey y'all. i know today is a whole lot. thats an understatement. but im trying not to be fatalistic. trump is the president of the united states now, and i know that makes a lot of things much more difficult for minorities. im a bisexual mixed latino trans guy, i totally get it. so, if you need to talk, vent, whatever, im here. im here for you. i love you, and we will make it through this. we are here, and we wont be going anywhere. if you need to go back into the closet, if you need to lie, if you need to try and blend in in any way that you can, do it. survival is the most important thing. if you are in a place where you can protest or make your voice heard, i admire and appreciate you greatly. if you want me to boost posts for fundraisers or meetings, @ me in the posts and i'll reblog it. im here for you. i support you. thank you for existing.

[wetsuggestion]

How do you handle criticism. My NPD sends me into a rage when I get criticised but I realise it's necessary regardless

criticism is very touchy for me tbh. if it’s someone i view as an equal or my chosen person, then i usually take it into consideration and try not to get angry, hurt, or otherwise overly emotional. most other people, however, i find it very hard to tolerate, even if its ‘gentle criticism’ or whatever. ive gotten better at handling it, though, when i view all criticism as suggestions and totally subjective to what other people think/view/perceive. if you start viewing criticism from other people, regardless of what their rank is, as either a suggestion or just a piece of information, then it becomes a lot easier to take. e.g. if you create a piece of art and someone says 'hey i think the anatomy of that hand is off’ responding with 'thank you, i’ll take that into consideration’ and not thinking about it too much helps a lot for me. another key thing to remember is that if someone is critiquing something you made/created/worked on, theyre not necessarily critiquing You, and that you should try to separate or distance yourself from your work somewhat so it doesnt feel as bad. another thing that helps me take criticism is making sure that my narcissistic supply is topped off. pretty much anything can set me off into a narcissistic rage when my supply is low, but when its higher, i can handle most things with grace in public, and then seethe/vent/whatever about it in private. i hoped this helped a little!!

[wetsuggestion]

personal story time: i have npd (narcissistic personality disorder) and largely because of the effects of it, i dont really want to get treatment or help for it or any of my other mental illnesses. however, there are things that i have learned as coping strategies to lessen the impact of npd on my day-to-day life, and if anyone would like to hear about or ask me for said strategies, id love to help!!

[wetsuggestion]

re: the wording of the last post i reblogged i dont necessarily think mental illnesses are things that people need to or have to 'recover from' as there are many that cant be totally treated to the extent that they go away, but there are things that can help lessen or help people cope with the effects of their mental illnesses. also, the statistics are good + people talking about their mental illnesses and what helps/helped them is always a good potential resource

[michellepsychologist]

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[adaemoniee]

Stop demonizing people with low empathy 2k16

Stop assuming that all people with low empathy are assholes who don’t give a damn 2k16

Stop saying that people with low empathy are hurtful to others because of bad intentions 2k16

Stop pretending that people with low empathy don’t have any sense of right and wrong 2k16

Stop equating low empathy with being sadistic 2k16

Having low empathy is not a choice. Empathy is not something you can learn. But that doesn’t mean they are assholes or anything else, or that they want to hurt others.

[itschinyere-deactivated20200201]

Note to my ex.

Today my professor told me every cell in our entire body is destroyed and replaced every seven years. How comforting it is to know that one day I will have a body that you will have never touched.

[anthonyampersand]

let’s talk about how abusers like to pretend they’re the ones being abused. let’s fucking talk about that. 

it’s so fucked up that victims of abuse end up getting blamed for their reactions to their abuse, just because they were irrational. responses to abuse and trauma don’t have to be rational. 

i lived in an abusive household for eighteen years. our abuser was downright fucking charming when he wanted to be. no one outside of our immediate family suspected, had any idea, of what he was doing. his children had no way of even knowing this behavior and environment was unhealthy or abnormal.

abusers will either deny that they were abusive to the death, or constantly apologize for their behavior with absolutely no intention of changing it, in away that makes you feel bad for ever being mad at them. they’ll shower you with gifts, then be angry if you won’t forgive them for hurting you. they feel entitled to you, your body, your emotions, your thoughts. they will make themselves into victims.

be aware that some of the people on your dashes reblogging those posts about “recognizing manipulation” or “signs of abuse” might still be abusers. 

abusers know how to make themselves look good. it’s what they do.

[gothpussyindulgences-deactivate]

Hey @ low empathy people its not terrible if you dont feel anything when people die. You arent evil for not caring. You arent scum for not pretending to be affected. Faking empathy/interest is exhausting and you dont have to do it if it makes you uncomfortable.

[apersnicketylemon]

Abusive parents can say “I love you”

Abusive parents can give their kids an allowance, gifts, toys and nice things sometimes.

Abusive parents can seem like parent of the year to outsiders.

Abusive parents can defend their children from outside threats and get them in all the best schools and programs and deal with school bullies.

Abusive parents are still abusive, regardless of the things they get right or the nice things they sometimes do.

[creativeandcoolusername-deactiv]

whoever wrote this evidently had an idyllic, sheltered, childhood…

[apersnicketylemon]

The person who wrote this had dishes thrown at them by the same person who said ‘I love you’ and tucked them into bed sometimes.

The person who wrote this would be severely punished and hit for being home even one minute late by the same person who threatened to call the cops on the two girls who bullied them relentlessly.

The person who wrote this was told over an over again by everyone that their mother was ‘incredible’ and ‘awesome’ by every one of their friends growing up despite being denied food to eat.

The person who wrote this got presents on their birthday and on holidays and had an allowance and was threatened with have everything they owned destroyed or have their pets killed on a regular basis by a parent.

The person who wrote this was called ‘stupid’, ‘retarded’, and ‘a useless idiot’ every time they couldn’t understand something by the same person who said they were ‘very smart’ and ‘had potential’.

The person who wrote this did not have an idyllic, sheltered childhood and spent years questioning if having dishes thrown at their head was actually abusive because that same person said ‘I love you’.

The person who wrote this is pretty pissed off that you would tell an abuse survivor that they had an idyllic childhood and assume there was no abuse just because the abuser was really good at making them question whether they were really abused or not, or that somehow saying ‘I love you’ made the abuse go away.

The person who wrote this literally has a personality disorder as a direct result of their parent who sometimes said I love you and got their bully’s in middle school dealt with abusing them.

But you’re right. How dare I point out that this is something ACTUAL abusers have ACTUALLY done.

[k-pagination]

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[staraptor]

ppl with low or no empathy arent monsters lmao… u dont need empathy to have a moral compass? like we all grew up on the same damn planet getting told the same basic rules so we all understand the difference between right and wrong. just bc we can’t relate to someones emotional experience doesn’t mean we think murder is okay or some shit. @ neurotypicals get over urselves

[wetsuggestion]

hey y'all im sorry this blog is kind of. dead. im honestly totally out of original content, but if anyone still wants to submit things, feel free!! i'll try to reblog more self-care/self-help posts and other resources in regards to abuse and other things. i love you all 💙

[wetsuggestion]

youre such a nice person!! honestly you deserve the best

thank you anon!!! i try to do what i can, and im sure you deserve the best too!! have a great day/night o'u'o

[ulibeanzz]

*screaming into the void* 

[motherish]

not everyone is going to like you. not even the ones that you try really hard to be friends with only to end up falling flat. that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you. someone not responding to you doesn’t mean you are any less enjoyable to talk to. you are not going to be friends with everyone you’d like to be friends with! no matter how hard you try! maybe they have something going on in their own life. maybe they find it hard to talk to others. shit maybe they just plain don’t wanna be friends with you! that’s okay! there is nothing wrong with you. you’re still nice to talk to. you’re still someone worth having around. someone worth being friends with. even if they don’t see it! someone else will.