Unpopular opinion: The therapy scene isn't annoying because Bucky is making it all about him.
It's annoying because the fandom is making it all about him. They are in therapy, Bucky is supposed to make it all about himself, talking about his struggles even if that makes him a little bit selfish, and Sam is supposed to do the exact same thing.
I absolutely loved the scene when Bucky said that if Steve was wrong about Sam, then he was wrong about him too, it showed us why Bucky was so affected by Sam decision. It was so emotional. Was it selfish? Yes. Did he stop for a minute to think about Sam's feeling and why Sam would do that? No.
But that's also what therapy is for, exploring your feelings however selfish they may be. Besides, it opened the dialog with Sam, and we, as viewers, get to unferstand why Sam did what he did, even if he was not 100% explicit about it. And eventually, Bucky himself realized that he had hurt Sam. I wish we got to see a little bit more of Sam's point of view in the interview.
But the fandom isn't like that, all over twitter all I can see is poor Bucky, Bucky pics, gifs of that scene with crying emojis and all that. Yes, poor Bucky, yes, poor Bucky, but where are the poor Sam posts?
And you know what, Bucky had one heavy and emotional scene in the episode, but for Sam the whole episode was heavy and emotional, first having to deal with the aftermath of the shield being given away to some random dude, Bucky coming back only to throw accusations at him, meeting Isaiah, and then the police scene. The problem isn't the writing, or the episode focusing on Bucky's struggles because it really didn't. The problem is the fandom.
It would have been completely unbelievable for me, if Bucky understood Sam's struggles right away, and what Sam was dealing with, when most of the time, our white friends are completely delusional when it comes to the topic of racism. At least I know that my friends are...
Most of the time, shows or movies with interracial couples rarely explore the cluelessness of the white partner when it comes to dealing with racism, but in real life, most of the time that's how it goes. Even when couples that have been together for years.
I like that the FATWS is exploring that. I know know they're not a couple, but bear with me. In episode 1, we already saw what kind of prejudice Sam is dealing with and then in season 2 it becomes even more obvious. The police scene was heartbreaking but also infuriating, because we know that this happens in real life as well.
When they were arguing, the police officer assumed Sam was the one causing trouble and already had his hand on his gun, ready to draw it. But when he realized who it was, and then that Bucky should be the one to be arrested he was very calm about it. The most infuriating patt is thinking about what would have happened if Sam wasn't the Falcon.
And the worst part is that Bucky probably thought nothing about it, or at least didn't seem to understand the heaviness of the situation, just telling Sam to give his ID, not challenging the poilce about why they would need his ID in the first place, and maybe not understanding how this could be humiliating for Sam.
In just 2 episodes, we already have a fully fledged Sam Wilson character with more personality and character development than half of the other MCU superheroes, how can you not feel for Sam? Or think Bucky deserves a hug and then nothing for Sam??? This episode physically hurt me because it was so realistic.
It hurts me how it resonates with reality, no matter what Anthony does, going to one of the best schools out there, starring in Award winning movies, going from being the Black best friend to being freaking Captain America, the fandom always seems to make it about Sebastian first.
It doesn't matter to them that the show is about both of them, or that Anthony is playing the very first Black and American superhero who is actually a lead and not a side character in decades (sorry Halle Berry, I love you, but catwoman doesn't count).
Somehow we manage to make it all about Sebasian Stan and Bucky Barnes.
And why is that? Because... Say it with me : the fandom is racist...
The problem isn't Bucky, the problem isn't the show, the problem is the fandom.