No me seducen, yo seduzco.

 POC student, sex worker, and financial professional. Redipping back into the bowl after an extended vacation,

[tkkatherineblog]

Stephan Sinding, Adoration, 1903

[mademoisellehypergamy]

✨ CREATING A PERSONA FOR HYPERGAMY & SOCIAL CLIMBING  ✨

The votes are in and “Persona” won! Ladies, get the notebooks out. Class is in session. And this is gonna be a long one.

Be honest with me: Are you currently your ideal woman? The majority of you will probably answer honestly and say no. And there’s nothing wrong with admitting that. The harsh reality is most women on their hypergamous journey aren’t even close to being the ideal woman they aspire to be. Hell, the average woman (hypergamous or not) will probably live her life never being able to become that woman, if we’re being completely honest here.

I believe every hypergamous woman should create and adopt a persona. You are who you believe to be. When I was younger, my teachers and parents told me I was academically gifted. So guess what? I believed the same! That pushed me to work even harder in school. Same concept applies here. You are who you believe to be. A persona isn’t a “fake” version of you. It is you. Your ideal person. It is malleable, so it can change at anytime. Just like you changed throughout your life.

STEP 0 - WHY YOU SHOULD ADOPT A PERSONA

✨Not Everyone Will Win the Birth Lottery. But that doesn’t mean you can’t rewrite your past, and repave your future path. Let’s face it: some of you were born into bad circumstances; abusive families, poverty, toxic relationships, obstacles and barriers, etc. And some of you are living lives currently that you aren’t satisfied with: stressful job, health issues, bad environment, *insert sob story here*, blah, blah, blah, woe is me!  But should your current and past conditions get in the way of your hypergamous journey? No! Absolutely not. 

✨You Can’t Be the Same Basic B*tch Forever. Okay b*tch, when you were being “true to yourself” in the past, look where it got you. Probably in a less than favorable situation. Congratulations for being an authentic basic b*tch! 🥳😊

Ladies, change is necessary. When you started your hypergamous journey, you underwent a change. Are you saying your hypergamous self is fake? Of course it isn’t! It’s still you, just an “elevated you”. One that is more aware and knows what she wants. 

✨ Most People Don’t Even Know Who TF They Are. It’s sad, but true. Most people are lost and suppressing their true desires and personality. I’m here encouraging you ladies to create your ideal persona and to become this woman. Because this woman is who you are deep inside, who you want to be. Stop hiding her! Create her, and become her! As long as this person isn’t harming anyone, there is no reason you shouldn’t chase your dream self.

STEP 1 - CHOOSE & CREATE YOUR PERSONA

This is the fun part ladies! Time to choose and create your new persona!

✨ What Kind of Woman Do You Aspire to Be?  Have fun with this ladies! What kind of woman have you always dreamt of becoming? Is she wildly intelligent and beautiful? Or perhaps she has a heart of gold and is adored by all?  Nothing is off limits. This is you.

For those of you who are truly struggling, below I have included a few examples of common personas. If you don’t know where to begin, choose one as the “foundation” and build on it. Make it your own!

*Disclaimer: Anyone that I mentioned/included below is simply for inspiration. Not all of these women are hypergamous. This is just for inspiration*

1. The Socialite/ The “It” Girl: This is the girl that everyone knows. She’s always at a party with a glass of champagne, wearing the latest styles, and living the BEST life. She’s glamorously unattainable and few have access to her, but somehow she’s a part of every social circle.

Inspiration: Jamie Chua (https://www.instagram.com/ec24m/)

2. The Traveler: This is the girl that travels constantly. Whether it’s across the globe or to a different state/town, she’s always on the go! No one seems to know how she funds her lifestyle because she always appears to be traveling and never working. Her pictures are always on point and high quality, with a combination of bikini pictures, relaxing scenery, exotic foods, and endless hotels.

Inspiration: Jennifer Tuffen (https://www.instagram.com/izkiz/)

3. The Influencer: Think of the ultimate Instagram Baddie; perfect body (usually because of surgery), full lips, carefully applied makeup, nails always done, hair on point. She is sponsored by all the clothes brands, and lives lavishly. She’s always out at a restaurant and traveling. Typically dresses in more revealing clothes/lots of bikinis.  What differentiates her from the Socialite? The degree of elegance and class. While the Socialite gives you an “heiress” vibe, the Influencer is more on the “flashy celebrity” side.

Inspiration: Kaylar Will (https://www.instagram.com/kaylarwill/)

4. Femme Fatale: She rarely posts on social media, but when she does, it only makes you question her existence more. This girl is beautifully sensual, and her social media only reveals bits and pieces of her life. She is an entire mystery, no one knows about her private life. One day she’ll be flying from London, the next she’ll be visiting an art gallery  She’ll sometimes post images of gifted roses with poetry captions. She oozes seduction and dark mystery. 

Inspiration: Dita Von Teese (https://www.instagram.com/ditavonteese) Now I thought long and hard about who to choose for this one, and if you take a moment to look at Dita’s IG account, you will understand why. You will notice that the ONLY thing she posts about is her clothes/lingerie brand or things relating to business. She reveals nothing about her personal life. Every post is promotion about her business. In fact, the last time she posted something about her “life” was on October 8th when she posted her CAT modeling another designer’s scarf. She’s a very discreet woman, and it works in her favor.

5. Girl Next Door: You know that basic b*tch that’s SUPER popular for no reason? This is her. From her Starbucks to her Tiktoks, she’s just your average girl living her life. In a way, she isn’t a threat because she seems approachable, relatable, and friendly enough through social media. Something about her aspires others that they can achieve a similar lifestyle. She’s terribly basic, but somehow, it works. 

Inspiration: Loren Gray (https://www.instagram.com/loren/)

6. Exotica: *This persona is best suited for women of color* She is exotically beautiful and unique. She is a trendsetter, not a follower. She has an air of heightened sexuality, with a touch of grounded-spirituality. Something about her is wild and untamed, and she oozes excitement and adventure. 

Inspiration: Monica Leon, or “Danger”. Now if you’re in my generation, you may remember the reality show “For the Love of Ray J” (which was ghetto btw💀). To this day, one girl that I will NEVER forget on that show, was “Danger”, the girl with the tiger tattoo on her face and that NO ONE liked, but Ray J was obsessed with. Although she no longer is on Instagram (and has since legally changed her name), I still believe she naturally embodied that exotic and mysterious woman persona. I recommend watching the show for free on Youtube just to observe her (and only her because the other women were pickme’s  💀)

7. The Luxurious Diamond: This woman is the epitome of class and elegance. She exudes femininity and grace, and holds an air of mystery by only showing us bits and pieces of her life. What we see is soft luxuries, wineries, beautiful clothes/scenery, and a life of comfort. She balances a mature, elegant, ladylike presence, with subtle girly-youthfulness. 

Inspiration: Г-жа Анисимова   https://www.instagram.com/creme_de.la_femme/

✨How Does She Look Like? From her hair to how she wears her makeup, be able to create a vivid description of her appearance. Being able to do this will show you where to work on with your current appearance.

✨Personality We all have traits about ourselves that we don’t like. This is your chance to identify your traits that you love and maximize them, while also working on the aspects of your personality that are a bit more problematic.

It’s important to recognize that some “negative” traits are not really negative. Society just shames us for them. For example, “The Socialite” persona may be polite, but that doesn’t mean she’s super open and friendly with everyone. Not everyone is her friend, and she is naturally unattainable. So why would she be super friendly to everyone? Some may call her “standoffish”, but I call it “selective”.

✨Past Self? Not a Problem.  So let’s say you had a less than perfect childhood and endured a lot of trauma. Not a problem, just reinvent your past! Now I’m not saying to straight up lie and make up a crazy story about how you grew up with billionaire parents and traveled the globe. I’m saying adopt a realistic story that’ll help you on your journey. 

For example, if your date were to ask about your past, instead of telling him how tragic your childhood was and how you were homeless and abused by your parents, and no longer have a relationship with them, you can say: “I moved around a lot as a child (“homelessness”), so I really enjoyed being able to interact with a lot of different people (make the negative seem positive). My parents still move around a lot, so it’s hard for us to meet (explains why you aren’t in contact with your parents). 

Reword and reframe, ladies. Not everyone needs to know everything.

STEP 2 - BRING HER TO LIFE

✨Remove. You cannot embrace your new persona, your new IDENTITY, if you are still stuck in the past. And that includes past connections that do not serve you. Some of your old friends (college friends, childhood friends, etc.) are not meant to accompany you on this journey. And that’s OKAY. Same with other toxic relationships in your life, family included. You will have to decide who to keep, and who to distance yourself from.

✨ Social Media! I’ve mentioned this in an earlier post, but social media is the easiest way for you to push your new persona. You control the content that goes on your social media, so even if you haven’t fully embodied your new persona, you can sure as hell fake it on social media. 

- Unless your persona is a socialite/influencer type, avoid posting too often. - Be consistent; if you retouch your images, make sure its consistent with all your photos. - Be mindful of what people tag you in/post about you. You know that “friend” who always posts the ugliest pictures of you? Yeah. They’re not your friend, hun. 

✨Dress. The. Part. Okay, sis. You can have the personality down perfectly, but if the look doesn’t match, no one will buy it. Your look is the first thing people notice, so invest in it. It doesn’t cost a lot, especially with fast fashion sites like Shein that sells clothes for $5. Just be able to keep up the appearance.

✨ Immerse Yourself in the Environment.  Looking the part and having the right personality is not enough, ladies! It wouldn’t make sense for you to be a “Socialite” sharing pictures of you eating at Red Lobster and Olive Garden every night. It wouldn’t make sense for the “Traveler” persona to share only bathroom selfies in her apartment. You have to live like the woman you aspire to be, and that includes placing yourself in those environments.

If you are not in the place financially to do so, learn to project the image without spending money. Ex: If you can’t afford to go to Hawaii, go to your local beach and take bomb ass pictures. Don’t tag the location. People will automatically see a beach in your picture and assume you are on vacation traveling. Get creative, ladies. 

✨You Owe Them Nothing. Ladies! Remember you don’t owe anyone anything. Not an explanation, not your time, nothing. So if you are living this new persona and people are asking questions you don’t want to answer: don’t. This is your life. 

STEP 3 - YOUR PERSONA WHILE DATING HYPERGAMOUSLY & SOCIAL CLIMBING

So now that you have created your ideal persona, and taken the steps to incorporate it into your life, how can you use your newfound persona to aid you on your hypergamous journey and while social climbing?

✨Infiltrate New Circles. Your persona should be someone exciting and enticing. People love befriending people who are happy and adventurous. Use your persona to befriend others and enter new social circles. You can do this through: - Social media; follow similar accounts to yours and interact with them. - Activities related to your persona; Let’s say you adopted the “The Luxurious Diamond” persona and started visiting wineries. You may notice when you go that there are regulars; identify the regulars and use your common interest of wine to strike a conversation. -Interest groups; join clubs/groups that help you reach your goals. For example, “The Traveler” may have always wanted to travel to Bali, but didn’t want to go alone. She joins a travel group to meet other likeminded inviduals and meets a travel buddy. This person ends up introducing her to others who also enjoy traveling.

✨ Be a Chameleon. You should  never be set on just one persona. Like I said earlier, your persona should always be malleable. You should be able to change yourself to your benefit, and always be open to expansion. When it comes to dating, a man may “want” a certain type of woman, but the secret is that most men just want a woman who is open to possibilities.  I remember a man who used to be on my roster who loved music. This man was always insisting on taking me to operas and symphonies. And he too was a musician (I really don’t like dating musicians, but that’s a topic for another day), so whenever he was performing he would have me sitting in the box so I’d have an “undisturbed” experience.  Now ladies, I’m not into music AT ALL.  But I was open and willing, and guess what? The man adored it, and he adored me even more! He spoiled me like crazy and would serenade me with music he wrote about me because I was his “muse”. Although I ended up ghosting him, I definitely appreciate a good opera now! 

✨Be Larger than Life to Entice. The attractive part about these personas is the fact that it feels almost fake. The image that is portrayed is almost mythical, like something out of a fantasy. You can’t believe this girl is traveling so much, or you can’t believe this girl still has a social life in the middle of a pandemic! It’s unbelievable, but that’s what makes us so intrigued. Men especially love fantasy. That’s why many men have a “dream girl”, a woman that embodies their physical and emotional fantasies. They love the impossible. It’s also important to remember that you are always being watched. People see you, whether in person or on social media, and when they see someone or something more interesting than their mundane life, curiosity will get the best of them. They’ll be drawn to you and want to know you.

✨ The Persona Advantage. Creating a persona is supposed to help your journey. The purpose is to reinvent yourself into someone who will help you better navigate your hypergamous life.  For example, if you are trying to get into more exclusive, affluent circles, creating a persona who is skilled in social and dining etiquette would be more beneficial than a persona that’s an Instagram Influencer. Being an Instagram Baddie that wears Fashion Nova won’t help you at a Charity Gala. So be sure to think of what you desire in life to shape yourself into that. Don’t just become someone who won’t get you to where you want to be. 

This post will definitely have a Part 2 in the future, but in conclusion: You can be whoever you want to be as long as you play the role. Be an actress in your own life, and live the life you desire.

Well ladies, I’ll be away for Valentine’s day weekend. Wishing you all a wonderful and safe weekend ❤️ Lots of love.

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[gyarados]

You’re welcome

[lady-gorthaur]

This is the most useful thing I’ve ever reblogged.

[danwasonfireonce]

i used to think when people said my cousin twice removed that their cousin must’ve did some fucked up shit to get kicked out of the family twice

[americaninfographic]

[whoreofabadon-blog]

I feel like this could help some people out.

[charleewritesabook]

Not for a story, I just really like wine

[missdarlingsb]

The amount of wine connoisseurs I’ve met sugaring. This is important for SBs to know, even if your SD doesn’t have much knowledge on the area he will be impressed with your sophistication

[bustnuttington-deactivated20151]

no one ever wants to mention that marsha p johnson was also a sex worker no one ever wants to acknowledge that sex workers have always been on the frontline of most radical historical movements

[rohgoreihgiorefdhgirehgreihg-de]

miss major and sylvia rivera were also sex workers and all of them used money from their sex work to keep lgbt kids from homelessness

[whitepeopletwitter]

[cyndigenous-deactivated20210204]

Feb 6, 2020: Canada launches yet another attack on unceded Wet’swet’en lands in order to push through a pipeline that was approved without consent from the Wet’suwet’en people.

For Gidimt'en's call to action: www.yintahaccess.com

Donate to Gidimt'en camp: https://www.gofundme.com/f/gidimt039en-strong

Unist'ot'en Supporter toolkit: unistoten.camp/supportertoolkit2020/

Unist'ot'en legal fund: https://actionnetwork.org/fundraising/unistoten2020legalfund

[cyndigenous-deactivated20210204]

The camp has now issued an international call for mobilization

Link to Facebook event

[master7mindd]

There's at least one international demonstration at a Canadian embassy already and indigenous led groups within Canada shutting down multiple major ports, highways, and train tracks for lengths of time anywhere between hours and days. The time to act is now

[cliffnotesofanerd]

PSA: if you smoke marijuana, please tell your anesthesia team.

They’re not going to rat you out. They’re going to adjust your anesthesia dosage so you don’t WAKE UP IN THE MIDDLE OF SURGERY.

[switchimpulse]

Some anesthesiologists will refuse to put you under if you’ve smoked cannabis within the past 24 hours – and let’s be clear, this is NOT because they’re morally against it – it’s because THC and anesthetic react in unpredictable ways and waking up in the middle of surgery is slightly less of a concern than SLIPPING INTO A COMA OR DYING. 

So there’s that.

[cliffnotesofanerd]

Yes, this too. Should have included this. It just wasn’t on my mind when I made the original post because my mind was full of NOPE NOPE NOPE after, you guessed it, one of my patients woke up in the middle of her surgery because she didn’t tell her anesthesia team she used marijuana.

[my-dark-happy-place]

You literally need to tell your anesthesiologist about every single drug you’re taking. Even if those drugs are illegal in your country, they won’t rat you out, they need to know so you won’t get harmed by the anesthesia and so it can work properly!!!

[rosyhips96-deactivated20200207]

There are doctors on tumblr? Wow the world is wild.

[nerdystripper]

This happened to a girl at my club when she went to get a boob job. They specifically told her to not smoke for a day before the surgery and this dumbass (she’s a huge pothead) smoked the day of!! So they went to put her under and she woke up and said she felt everything! Until they realized she was awake and adjusted the dosage. What a moron.

[germansugarbaby]

How to Catch a Sugar Daddy

Online Dating:

Do you get many views, messages etc but not real dates? Ask yourself:

When was the last time you actually offered to move it to a phone conversation?

When did you last tell him what you were looking to have happen? 

When you talk to your prospective SD’s: are you actually leading them in a direction?

Sugar Dating requires more effort on the female side, because of higher competition!

1. POT-Date: How to start out:

As a man with money, it might be more natural for him to mistrust others. That’s why it’s not always the wisest decision to bring up financials right away.

Instead, let him get comfortable with who you are. Show him that you’re listening to his needs, and be attentive to his conversations.

Let him build up a desire and passion to be with you and know more before he finds out the price of bliss.

Express an interest in what he finds interesting, and you’ll soon start to see a more trusting POT.

Only once you’ve reached this stage should you begin to talk about financials

Even if he brings it up you may want to ask him to hold off on that for a bit as you are mostly interested in learning more about him and are you two compatible.

Then before this date or conversation is over go back to the topic of finance and you find your sugar daddy eating out of your hand.

Say to him that you like how much of a Gentleman he is. By putting him in the Gentleman category right away he can’t rush into having sex with you or being pushy for it because he hast to live up to your ideal of him!

Use the most powerful weapon you own: Your smile!

Sugar daddies love being around happy and positive women – so smile and show your appreciation for life! 

Ever noticed that people tend to gravitate around those who are happy and positive? The same works with sugar babies and sugar daddies. 

The most successful sugar babies are those who always have a smile on their face and are ready to laugh.

A smile can make you seem like the coolest and most confident woman in the room, no matter what situation you find yourself in. 

From scary job interviews to first dates, a smile can turn any potentially awkward or nerve-wracking scenario into a fun and friendly affair. 

It’s easy to forget that behind every powerful and wealthy sugar daddy is a regular man who’s nervous about making a good first impression on you. After all, you’re a gorgeous, smart and funny woman – and that combination can reduce any man into a bundle of nerves. 

Studies have shown that when we don’t smile, our peers assume that we’re unfriendly or uncomfortable with our surroundings. 

In the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship, having a constant frown on your face can make your sugar daddy feel as though you’d rather be anywhere but there. 

Just the simple act of smiling can make all of the difference in making your sugar daddy feel warm, comfortable and accepted. 

Also add some warm occasional eye contact as you are flashing that million dollar smile. 

Seduction Techniques to get him hooked:

It’s not the Sugar Daddy that determines what you will get, but the things you do to maintain his interest 

Seduction isn’t making someone do something they don’t want to do. Seduction is enticing someone into doing something they secretly want to do already

We all want to be seduced. We all yearn for someone who will draw our secret desires and passions out of ourselves 

Here’s a killer tip that should only be used on occasion: don’t be shy about getting noticed by other men. Once you’ve got the attention of a couple of men, make it extremely evident that you’re with your sugar daddy. He’ll love feeling like you’re a wanted woman that is only there for him!

Next time you’re out on a date with him, go up to the bar and mildly flirt with the bartender while you order drinks. Then come back to your sugar daddy. He’ll be so proud that such a gorgeous and intelligent woman only has eyes for him! 

When it comes to attracting and keeping top-quality sugar daddies, never underestimate the power of your words! 

Men love sugar babies with a zest for life – and if you mention that you find things in your life “exciting”, “amazing” and “fantastic”, he’ll be instantly drawn to your positivity and enthusiasm for living. 

On the other hand, it doesn’t hurt to reveal your sensual side to your sugar daddy. Turn on the flirt and use power keywords like “tempting”, “sensuous” and “revealing” to make his mind wander. 

Wealthy and powerful men are extremely attracted to women who have their own thing going on, so if you’re an ambitious lady, flaunt it! 

Talk about what you want from your future, and we guarantee he won’t get enough of you! 

Get your hands involved in your conversation! By continually touching his arm and placing your hand on his, you’re essentially saying that you find him incredibly irresistible 

And whatever you do, carry yourself with a grace and elegance that he’ll be craving long after your date is over. 

Find the void in his life

The fact that he’s seeking out a sugar baby means that he’s lacking something crucial in his personal life: an emotional connection with an intelligent, personable and beautiful woman. 

The ultimate way to seduce him is to fill a void in his life. 

find a void that’s missing in his life, and determine how you can fulfill that void.

For example, if he often complains that he can’t find anyone who shares his passion of history, this is a clue that he’s revealing more information about his emotional and mental voids

Your entire success depends on understanding what he’s missing. Study your Sugar Daddy thoroughly. By filling a Void in your Sugar Daddy’s life, your maneuvers will seem more natural. 

As soon as you understand what your sugar daddy is looking for from the relationship, you can parlay that information into a mutually beneficial sugar daddy/sugar baby connection. So don’t rely on your wardrobe and make-up tricks to make your sugar daddy feel like he’s the king of your world… 

If you have an absolute workaholic, who loves working late, and weekends are just extra days that could be spent on take-home work, what is missing in his life is a companion who’s understanding of his lifestyle, and who’s be ready and waiting when he wants to have some fun.

The New Money sugar daddy is likely looking for a flashy sugar baby who’s good in bed.

If he’s a retired businessman, most of the people in his peer group are only thinking about what their health condition is, what medication they are on and their golf swing. 

They passed the point of creativity, ambition and wanting to accomplish things in life, and are only seeking a comfort zone.

One of the things he gets from you is the ability for him to think and feel young.

He gets pleasure out of you being creative about your business endeavors

The Relationship with your SD - What is it about?

Believe me, it has very little to do with sex. After all, if your sugar daddy was just after sex, wouldn’t it have made more sense to hire an escort than pursue a sugar baby? 

In fact, when sugar daddies are asked what their prime motives are for pursuing relationships with sugar babies, they all say the same thing: It’s about the emotional connection.

And that’s what makes you so important to your sugar Daddy. He values an emotional connection over sex. He can hire an escort for sex – but he can’t pay for the chemistry, conversation and connection that only happens with his sugar baby. 

Your sugar daddy may be an important man, but this doesn’t mean that he’s not lonely. Perhaps the spark has fizzled out of his marriage, or he doesn’t have enough time to develop a meaningful social life. 

You are his emotional connection in a world of business contacts and old lovers.

How to spot a Fake SD

If a “sugar daddy” is eager to be intimate right away, chances are that he’s looking for an escort, not a sugar baby. Sugar daddies value the emotional connection to their sugar babies over sex, so don’t let a man pressure you to jump into bed.

You know how important it is to talk to any sugar daddy about your financial expectations – so if you suspect that a potential daddy is bluffing, ask him how much he expects to spend on you.

If he stammers or tries to avoid the conversation, call his bluff. Real sugar daddies won’t be afraid to talk money with you – but fake sugar daddies sure will be!

Don’t give in to his sexual demands too quickly. Yes, sex is a part of the sugar daddy relationship – but that doesn’t mean that you need to give into his physical urges right away.

Source: Sugar Daddy Formula Guide by Taylor B. Jones

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[mangopapi-deactivated20210928]

!!!!!! Yes

[sweetschizo-deactivated20190808]

“Are you saying that murderers are right in the head??”

No there’s definitely something wrong with someone’s way of thinking if they can justify killing innocent people, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that they have a mental illness.

Extremist beliefs isn’t a mental illness.

Bigotry isn’t a mental illness.

Entitlement isn’t a mental illness.

Hate isn’t a mental illness.

Having a dysfunctional moral compass isn’t a mental illness.

We need to stop categorizing all these things as some undefinable “mental illness” and start looking at what we do as a society to develop and justify these things to a degree where people use them to justify killing.

[kassmonday]

Yes! 

Dehumanization is something you Have to look for. If the murderer doesn’t see the person they killed as a person, then mental illness is probably not the main factor there. 

Plenty of people murder women, poc, lgbt people, people of other religions etc. because they don’t see them as people.

Think about genocides - they aren’t perpetrated by big group of people/a government who all got mentally ill together the same way at the same time somehow, they just didn’t consider what they did murder because they didn’t see the victims as people.

[ayellowbirds]

I’m probably going to wind up reblogging this more than once because it is really fucking important.

[mspollutedstar-deactivated20190]

Parents be like that’s my emotional support eldest daughter

[tragicallybeautifultiger]

parents be like that’s the third parent in the family, my eldest daughter

[you-can-be-what-you-want-to-be]

Single parents be like that’s my mother, the eldest daughter

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[chaneajoyyy]

This annoys me too. Like rich, white folks are stil big ballers buyin mega yachts, mega mansions, luxury fashions and luxury cars. Most of them don’t pay taxes, so that’s how they’re still able to keep their money. 

[hillbilly---man]

I feel like I should make a post about this because it’s not something that’s very well-known, and that Americans in particular may need to know about given the uncertain state of our healthcare system at the moment. I’ve wanted to write this out for a while, It’s kind of a long post, so sorry about that!

If you have an emergency and have to go to the hospital, you’ll owe the hospital a lot of money. (I got into a car wreck and broke my ankle and my arm. My hospital bill was around $20,000)

You’ll also owe the ambulance provider, if you need one. (My ambulance bill was about $800)

You may get separate bills from the anesthesiologist or surgeon. (My anesthesiologist bill was $1,700)

You may need follow-up appointments. (My orthopedic surgeon billed me for the appointments and his surgery together and it was about $1,000)

You’ve also got to pay for medical equipment you need afterward, like crutches or a walking boot. (Mine cost about $75)

Altogether, I ended up with almost $24,000 in medical debt from one car accident. That’s a really scary number for someone like me who makes $10/hr at a 12 hour a week job.

I got my debt down to $1075 by making some phone calls and submitting some paperwork.

The first thing I did was contact the hospital. They don’t make it easy to find, but many hospitals (perhaps most hospitals?) have financial assistance programs for people who can’t afford medical bills. I don’t make a lot of money, and I have bills to pay, so they were able to help me. I called the billing department and asked if they had any assistance programs for low income people who can’t pay their bills. I had to call multiple times, and I got transferred in circles by people who didn’t know what I was talking about. Finally, I got an appointment with someone in “Eligibility Services” (I don’t know what other hospitals call it, if it’s something different). I had to bring my pay stubs and copies of all of my bills. When I got to the hospital for the appointment, nobody knew what I was talking about so I had to wander a little to find where I needed to go. I spoke with the guy in Eligibility Services, and I waited for a decision on how much of the bill they would forgive. A month later, I got a call telling me it was totally forgiven.

I did the same thing for my ambulance bill and my anesthesiologist, but the process was a LOT easier. I just had to mail some paperwork and it was totally forgiven.

I didn’t bother with the medical equipment suppliers, since the bills came from separate companies and I didn’t feel like going through the process twice for $75. I was assured at the hospital that they had similar programs for debt forgiveness, so I could have probably avoided paying that too.

The only thing I couldn’t get taken care of was the surgeon/follow-up appointment cost, but they were able to put me on a no-interest payment plan.

Medical debt is scary because it’s something that can come from stuff that’s already really scary. I didn’t need the burden of $24,000 in debt on top of trying to get around on a crutch with a broken arm (it’s not easy, believe me!).. but I can’t imagine what it would be like with a bigger debt or a more severe medical emergency. I see lots of people in even worse trouble than I was in, both financially and medically. Please know that there are options for you when that GoFundMe doesn’t do enough. Even if your income is higher than mine, it’s worth a shot even for partial debt forgiveness.

[pyroteknich]

I am about 900% sure there are people who don`the know this. 

[aquadraco20]

PLEASE READ THIS IF YOU LIVE IN AMERICA AND HAVE MEDICAL BILLS

[wintermoth]

I had to do this once as well and I can ABSOLUTELY confirm that this is true.

Get in contact with the hospital. Don’t just…sit there and let the anxiety grow and panic and then ignore it in an effort to find peace.

[shrimpathy-for-the-rogue]

Hey psst @allfrogsarefriends i found it.

[novitiate2017-deactivated202002]

Hell world

[homoslovenc]

capitalism ruined art and entertainment

[thr0atmistress-deactivated20191]

[palmstreesallday]

Gospel 🗣

[elle-world]

Preachhhhhhhhh

[sadjazzpapi]

Honestly this was a lesson I had to learn

[invalleumbraemortis]

This lesson I’m tryna learn now. With any relationship. With everybody. If the energy ain’t the same then it will always conflict.

[sexworkinfo]

Myths about Sex Work Debunked

Myth: the average age of entry into the sex industry is 13 years old

Fact: this statistic was made up and most studies show sex workers enter the industry in their early 20s

Myth: the sex industry is rife with trafficking

Fact: most human trafficking is in domestic labour and most sex workers are not trafficked. The myth of sex trafficking is used to force voluntary sex workers into sweat shop labour and has its roots in white supremacy

Myth: Criminalising clients makes sex workers safer

Fact: the so-called Nordic model pathologizes sex workers and forces them to take unreasonable risks to protect clients, leading to increased violence in every single place it’s introduced.

Myth: restrictions on sex work protect sex workers

Fact: the carceral state is a constant source of violence and abuse and there is no scenario in which involving the police and the legal system will improve things for sex workers. Police rape, extort, abuse and deport sex workers.

Myth: Sex workers who want decriminalisation are a privileged vocal minority. Most sex workers are poor oppressed victims with no voice.

Fact: sex workers all over the world are demanding their work be recognised as work, not just in the “west” but throughout Asia, Africa, South America, everywhere where sex work happens (which is everywhere). Sex workers are all negatively impacted by criminalization regardless of where they live or how much money they make.

Myth: Abolishing sex work is anticapitalist

Fact: this logic wouls say that we should refuse to give refugees citizenship because we’re opposed to borders. There is no way to use the carceral state against marginalised people and dress it up as anticapitalist. You’re oppressing an already vulnerable group with state violence.

Myth: sex workers need to be stopped from spreading disease (or, sex workers need to be protected from contracting disease)

Fact: sex workers have higher levels of condom use than the general population. Criminalization makes it harder for sex workers to insist on condoms, and mandating condom use allows police coerce sex workers into not using condoms then arrest them for breaking the law.

Myth: Opposing sex work is a human rights stance

Fact: every human rights organisation with any merit is in favour of decriminalisation and supporting sex workers rights such a Amnesty International, UNAIDS, the International Labour Organisation, Global Alliance Against Trafficking in Women, and Human Rights Watch.

Sources: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21. This entire blog is a source really. Check /tagged/criminalization, /tagged/sex-work-research, /tagged/sex-trafficking, /tagged/nordic-model, or navigate to the about page.

If you’d be so kind I’d really like to counter the anti sex worker propaganda that’s become so common on Tumblr so please consider reblogging