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Sam | They/Them| 20s | Talk to me about Pluribus, Whump, Gender....|

[gayvampyr]

it really pisses me off when adults sit there and drill it into kids’ heads that their youth is fleeting and tell them things like “enjoy your childhood while it lasts because this is the best it’s gonna get”. why are you telling children that adulthood is the worst thing they can experience? seriously what the fuck is wrong with you, why are you trying to make them feel like growing up is a fate worse than death? trying to convince them their life is over before it even begins? i’m tired of that shit. because tell my why my 12 year old cousin told me when she turns 30 she’ll be so depressed she’s just gonna cry all the time. what the fuck. kids don’t need to hear that their already stressful and overwhelming lives are never going to get better, that the abuse and lack of autonomy they face is apparently the highlight of their lives. they need to hear about adults who are happy to be alive and happy to have made it to their age. they need to know that growing up rules, it’s a gift and life does not have to suck for them, that they have a future that’s worth sticking around for. this rhetoric is so damaging mentally and i’m about to start hitting the adults who parrot it. i’m sorry you hate your life but you don’t get to dump your issues on these kids. don’t piss me off and leave these babies alone!

[lesspopped]

affirmation: I am capable of finishing the works of pornographic fanfiction I start writing

[ovur]

I won't ever get over the removal of headphone jacks, or micro sd slots, or cd drives. I won't. Fuck everyone and everything

[nitw]

adhd demand avoidance/paralysis is the fuckin enemyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

[nitw]

SAY IT WITH ME KIDS (AND ADULTS)

it doesn't need to be perfect, try not to expect it to be

the hypothetical feeling of unfulfillment you're trying to avoid is nothing compared to the shame you'll almost certainly feel if you end up not trying at all

it's easier to pick up from step 1/10 than step 0/10

if you need to get moving and are currently not moving, try moving in an unrelated way. do something else. literally anything else outside of The Thing just don't stay frozen

yes this will happen again, no the solution won't always be the same, no your past experience won't always make it easier. BUT if you can internalize these things at least you might not be as surprised or feel as guilty(!!!) when it happens and THAT can do a lot of heavy lifting

[inkskinned]

you deserve a more tender tomorrow.

[inkskinned]

yes, even you. reading this, agreeing without applying, hands in front of your eyes. i’ll pass this on, you think, but it doesn’t apply to me.

i know because i have spent the last 2 weeks trying to say out loud: “i deserve good things.” i only get to “i deserve g-” and then i break out into a cold sweat. who am i to deserve anything? there are people out there suffering. there are people out there who need good things to happen. i don’t deserve anything. i am just a person. a filament. if a good thing was supposed to happen to me, i hope it passes over and happens to someone more - deserving.

but just because you can endure the present does not mean it should be something so painful.

you deserve a tender tomorrow for the same reason you deserve water, food, or air. you deserve it for the effort of survival. you are surviving, aren’t you? doesn’t it take a toll from you, staying here?

goodness and kindness and tenderness should not be a commodity; to be doled out in quantities. you should not feel that life exists as supply-and-demand - your happiness does not come at the cost of someone else. it does not take from some gallon of global happiness. it does not promise that a stranger will have an equally-tragic reaction to tip the scales back into balance.

there is just you, deserving. you didn’t have to earn it. there is no calculation of time-enjoyed versus time-spent-suffering.

trust me. you (yes, even you) deserve peace.

[inkskinned]

you deserve a more tender tomorrow.

[inkskinned]

yes, even you. reading this, agreeing without applying, hands in front of your eyes. i’ll pass this on, you think, but it doesn’t apply to me.

i know because i have spent the last 2 weeks trying to say out loud: “i deserve good things.” i only get to “i deserve g-” and then i break out into a cold sweat. who am i to deserve anything? there are people out there suffering. there are people out there who need good things to happen. i don’t deserve anything. i am just a person. a filament. if a good thing was supposed to happen to me, i hope it passes over and happens to someone more - deserving.

but just because you can endure the present does not mean it should be something so painful.

you deserve a tender tomorrow for the same reason you deserve water, food, or air. you deserve it for the effort of survival. you are surviving, aren’t you? doesn’t it take a toll from you, staying here?

goodness and kindness and tenderness should not be a commodity; to be doled out in quantities. you should not feel that life exists as supply-and-demand - your happiness does not come at the cost of someone else. it does not take from some gallon of global happiness. it does not promise that a stranger will have an equally-tragic reaction to tip the scales back into balance.

there is just you, deserving. you didn’t have to earn it. there is no calculation of time-enjoyed versus time-spent-suffering.

trust me. you (yes, even you) deserve peace.

[cungadero]

the shame of making a connection irl and them being like omg can i have your insta??? snapchat????? and having to be like sorry i live in a gap between two tree roots youre just going to have to normal text me like some kind of animal

[whumpingmydarlings]

MadHel Dead to Me AU is this anything?

[sourdough-seal]

“what are you doing this weekend” i am going to fantasy land. i am hiding under the covers in bed. i am making things up. i am contemplating events that didnt happen. i am talking to fake people. i am listening to my tunes. i am envisioning scenarios

[kiisaes]

everyone eat more vegetables NOW!!! and mention the last vegetable you ate in the tags so we're all on the buddy system. I'll start: bok choy

[whumpingmydarlings]

Ginger Snaps hyperfixation is back....I watched May too and god I wish there were more films that made me feel as buzzy

[whumpingmydarlings]

should i see obsession this weekend

yeah

no <3

Voting ended onMay 15

[whumpingmydarlings]

God....thinking about Isa Briones and Sepideh Moafi dueting "Bad Idea" from Waitress together. I need it soooo bad

[whumpingmydarlings]

Literally just microwave a chocolate chip cookie and eat it and your day will improve idc

[nekrotiize]

look within yourself and ask: do you hate your parents enough?

if your first response is a tense "i mean, theyre not that bad", or "i mean, theyve done so much for me" the answer is no, you do not hate them enough. hate them more. occasional acts of kindness do not make up for everything else. no, not even that one. your hesitance is a survival tactic. i do not blame you. there is no shame in it. but it is a survival tactic. do not blame yourself. do not cast yourself as an ungrateful villain. who does that benefit? who is the one benefiting from your blame absorption? who is the one benefiting from you excusing their behavior? who is the one benefiting from you granting forgiveness for all those years of suffering over a favor? over human decency?

you need to hate your parents more.

[nekrotiize]

if you are transgender, fat, and/or disabled you automatically do not hate your parents enough. if that wasnt clear. making this explicit. love you

[shamebats]

Repressing your anger and re-directing it at yourself can seriously hurt, even kill you. It's a continued consequence of abuse that we rarely talk about.

You don't need to excuse or forgive anything you wouldn't forgive if a friend or romantic partner did the same to you or someone you care about. Especially if there was never an apology and they never made a real effort to do better.

Especially if there was ever any emotional and/or physical violence. You wouldn't tell a friend "but he's your husband! he's done so much for you!" if you found out he insulted or hit her even just once, so why would you tell that to yourself when it comes to your parents? It's normal and natural to hate someone who has hurt you or someone you care about, especially someone as vulnerable as a child.

[dead-dove-ble]

Actually you SHOULD make problematic content. You SHOULD explore dark or taboo topics. You SHOULD have a space where you can cope with your traumas or explore sensitive topics in a way that doesn't hurt anyone.

[shiptillyoudie]

Also you should make problematic content for funsies. You don't need to have had trauma or need to be coping in order to explore dark creativity. You can just be a human who wants to explore dark and taboo topics because you want to. That's completely normal, btw.

Every single person on this planet thinks about dark and taboo things. It's literally the most normal thing in the world.

Go draw the horror porn and be free.

[tackypies]

we should all be more like david cronenberg and write fucked up stuff. For Funsies

[baleful-meat-worm]

As a body horror enjoyer, I must know your thoughts on David Cronenberg....

i've actually never seen any david cronenberg films believe it or not

[whumpingmydarlings]

Aw man, you gotta! My favs are Dead Ringers (1988) and Crash (1996), but I feel like you'd be into Rabid (1977) or The Fly (1986) bc well...bug imagery/general grime.