abolish gender, be free now!

north american nonbinary disabled queer blog they/he/it/anything but she/her tbh

[gender-incinerator]

throw away gender roles, embrace gender anarchy

White, North American, disabled, nonbinary, queer.

you can call me rat. i mostly go by they/he/it but honestly you can call me anything except she/her. I have a lot of labels that change depending on the day.

posting about queer happenings, disabled issues, showing solidarity to other marginalized people. nobody is free until we're all free.

On this blog we believe in the sacred rights for people of any and all genders, identities, labels, and backgrounds. Every person regardless of gender deserves complete bodily autonomy and respect for their identities, pronouns, and labels.

DMS ARE OPEN

ASKS ARE OPEN

if you don't believe in transmisogyny, transandrophobia, exorsexism, and intersexism can all exist simultaneously, get off my blog, my posts aren't for you

don't bring your TMA/TME language onto this blog

[raccoonmilf]

If the only thing that has kept you going was outliving Mitch McConnell, imma need yall to pick a new person to outlive and fast. Your mission is not over.

[raccoonmilf]

Umm hello??? Do u have the death note @sharkgalaxy????

[sharkgalaxy]

cant believe i have to pick another person to outlive already

[swoony-spoonie]

When the brain fog kicks in..

[lastoneout]

was half convinced this was on purpose

[deedawgg]

lalala this'll either get way too much traction or none at all but here goes nothin, i guess

i'm in the process of writing a blog post for my university about transandrophobia/transmisandry/anti-transmasculinity, and i'm wondering if anyone here (transmascs!!!!!) would like to share their experiences with or any thoughts about it?

[lichen-punk]

honestly i think the reason why it’s so common for kids to have the “it’s not a phase, mom” argument in their adolescence is less because they genuinely plan for their current state of being to remain utterly unchanged forever and more because they’re tired of having their interests/self expression/beliefs/etc dismissed as foolish due to being probably temporary

i know that when i was that age i certainly wasn’t thinking about whether or not i’d be into whatever shit i was into then when i was 80, all i knew was that i was sick of feeling like the adults in my life were just rolling their eyes and waiting out everything that was important to me at that moment

[screambirdscreaming]

I think another key thing conveyed by "it's not a phase" is that you won't return to being what they expect. Not necessarily that you're going to be This exact way forever, but that the next thing after STILL isn't gonna be the mold they're trying to put you in.

Whether or not being goth or w/e is a phase, *being your own person with your own priorities and interests* is NOT a phase, and that's what really rankles for people to not get.

[captainstarburst]

anyone who uses the r slur at this point needs to just be recognized as a hateful bigot and we cant be quiet about it anymore. genuinely. get mad at people for this. point it out and be annoying about it. no you cant reclaim it you just want an excuse to be bigoted

[transhuman-priestess]

the thing about "people have talked about it you're just 21" is that it's not really "young people are stupid" it's more "if you come into an academic discussion you should know what people have said on the matter lest you talk out your ass"

[creekfiend]

many women are excited to get old and weird, but i have great news that it's fully possible to become weird now, before you get old. just imagine the heights of weirdness you will be able to reach in fifty years if you get started now. that's what I think

[taketestosterone]

edit: people are reblogging without the addition so im putting the extra versions in the base post too

[obviously-im-a-boyo]

if you have "cishet men dni" in your bio i, a trans man, will not touch you with a 10 foot pole. i should not be forced to out myself as a trans man just to interact with you. on top of that, cishet men are not inherently evil. stop trying to reinvent bioessentialism with your "girl good, boy bad!" mentality.

[gender-gaming-and-gears]

if you have "cishet men dni" in your bio, I, a trans woman, will not touch your blog with a 10 foot pole either. based on your assumptions that cishet men are "evil," I assume that I will have to prove my transfemininity to you (stupid), and I distrust that you will even trust my womanhood in the first place (ooh i have a penis im scaryyyy). and again, cishet men are not inherrently evil, stop trying to reinvent bioessentialism.

ADDITIONALLY. if your standard of evil masculinity is based off of cis vs trans men, you're defining trans men by them "being women." full stop. don't do that! please!!

[quitblamingnarcissism]

Your parents are not "narcissists". They're typical authoritarian assholes who treat you like their property because society allows them to.

Your ex boyfriend is not a "narcissist". He's a typical misogynistic douchebag who treats women like shit because society allows him to.

Your boss is not a "narcissist". They're a typical classist dipshit who thinks workers' entire purpose in life is to generate profit because society allows them to.

And even if they happen to be a "narcissist", that's not what gave them the power to get away with abuse.

So stop blaming mental illness and start blaming society's normalization of abuse. Stop acting like someone has to have a mental illness in order to do something cruel when ordinary people have been doing atrocious things since forever.

[ranni-thewitch]

divert all power to the funk engine

[puppygirllaika]

a single, solitary, earth-shattering note thunders across the battlefield like a tsunami.

[typezerostudios]

You can see the power of music shining in his eyes.

[necrotranscjk]

An important tweet

[sighinastorm]

This is such a "common sense" way of putting it. Everybody memorize this for spitting it back out whenever needed.

[skin-slave]

Never thought I'd have the opportunity to say this again: Reducing women and girls to their vaginas and then forcing them to show those vaginas to strangers is not a feminist ideal.

[gotinterest]

Gonna be honest a lot of people deep down view cheating as worse than abuse which is why so many people view downright controlling and manipulative behavior in a relationship as 100% permissible so long as that behavior is centered around either preventing or discovering cheating.

[gotinterest]

Far too many people hopping on this post to say that cheating is abuse. Merely fucking someone else when you promised not to is not abuse, be so serious.

[cobra-bubbles]

my life with ADHD

[mardu-mama]

This is very true and a great post.

But low key makes me think about how people with adhd have been raised their whole lives to value a day based on what they accomplished vs what they experienced

[thatgirlwithadhd]

I think your point is excellent. But also consider:

That list might say things like “Paint a picture. Go birdwatching. Finish that great novel I started reading. Call my grandma. Learn to bake a cake. Visit my sister. Play piano.”

For me at least, the good/fun things are harder without meds too. I can have the best intentions, but following through is hard.

[adhd-informative]

This addition is so important.

[rabbitkinglune777]

jiggles my butt

[rabbitkinglune777]

doing this as a boy

[syn4k]

"lock in" is probably one of the most important phrases to enter the public lexicon in the 2020s

[joyflameball]