Just a little list of ideas that I came up with on the topic of speech control. Some of these are about in person speaking, some are about texting, some are applicable to both. Some of these Iād like to try, some of these I have tried, some of these I would probably not want to do, some Iām indifferent to.
Only being allowed to use words once per day.Ā
Only being allowed to use words from a list of pre-approved words chosen by my partner.
Not being allowed to use words from a list of off limits words chosen by my partner, but otherwise able to speak freely.
Not being allowed to use words containing a certain letter of the alphabet, but otherwise able to speak freely.
Only being allowed to use short and simple words, limited by number of letters or number of syllables, or simply at my partnerās discretion. (Imagine typing out an entire text and being met with āhmm, I think that word might be too big for you,ā and having to agree and reword what youāve said.)
Having to refer to myself in the third person.
Having to refer to my partner by a title, honorific, or nickname they have chosen.
Having to use a lowercase āiā to refer to myself.Ā
Having to use capitalized pronouns to refer to my partner.Ā
Only being allowed to say a certain number of words (or less) per day.
Only being allowed to say a certain number of words (or less) per text message. No double messaging, of course.
Having to keep track of how many words my partner uses, and always using less throughout the day.
Having to start each sentence with āPleaseā and/or end it with āThank you,ā even if it doesnāt technically make sense.Ā
Having to rhyme. Or else fulfil the requirements of some kind of specific poetry such as a haiku.Ā
Having to ask permission to ask for things. āPlease may I ask to use the bathroom?āĀ
Only being allowed to say āPleaseā and āThank you.ā
Not being allowed to ask for anything.
Only allowed to speak to my partner in public.Ā
Not being allowed to speak on specific topics, particularly when theyāre super relevant. For example, we go to the zoo and Iām not allowed to talk about animals.Ā
Only being allowed to say the opposite of what I mean/want.Ā
Having to ask permission to speak at all, either through a non-verbal signal, or else the only thing Iām allowed to say without permission is āPlease may I speak?ā
Only allowed to speak when spoken to.
Having to be in a specific position - the more submissive or uncomfortable, the better - to speak. Additionally, having to wait in that position until I am acknowledged and allowed to speak.Ā
Having to go a set length of time without speaking each day. The timer starts over each time I speak. (Imagine itās an hour and at 55 minutes you get asked a question you canāt ignore. Each attempt like that would mean you talk less throughout the day.)
When possible, set entire days, or even a weekend as āquiet time.ā
Surprise quiet time. That is, a spoken or text command, āItās quiet time,ā and I am expected to be silent until I am released. (A potential training opportunity: this could happen many times throughout the day, each session lasting only a few minutes before the next.)
Starting every day without the ability to speak until I have completed my morning routine. Finishing each day by not being allowed to speak once my nighttime routine is done.Ā
Having a set day of the week during which I am expected to remain silent.Ā
Having a cost to speak. A mild-moderate punishment for each time I wish to speak, such as having to put nipple clamps on first or having to write lines for each time I spoke afterwards.
Having to trade my ability to speak for rewards, such as not being allowed to orgasm unless I agree to a two days of no speaking.
Trading chunks of silent time for edges. Each edge is half an hour of silence. Maybe I know before I start edging, maybe I donāt.Ā
Having to be silent until I have completed a task, such as linewriting, or an edging session, or even something mundane like having to stay silent on a long drive, even while playing a board game.Ā
Having recurring tasks during which I am not allowed to speak, such as never being allowed to speak during meals or while watching movies.Ā
Only being allowed to speak while wearing my collar.Ā
Not being allowed to speak while wearing my collar.Ā
Only being allowed to speak while naked.Ā
No words, only sounds. Easy enough when youāre gagged, but having to make the deliberate effort to only make sounds is nice.Ā
Wearing a bark collar. Each time I speak, I get shocked, until I learn not to speak while wearing it. It then becomes a very effective gag.Ā
Being asked a series of questions and having to provide at least X words to answer, on topic. (It wouldnāt even have to be a high number. Imagine having to use 50 words to answer a yes or no question. Even 20 might be a challenge. But being asked to say/text 300 words on why I shouldnāt have an orgasm? Just a thought.)
Agreeing to X number of questions (number could be in trade for edges, or in trade for lessening a punishment) and having to answer them fully, even if itās embarrassing. (Obviously within limits. Questions I refuse to answer donāt count towards the number.)
Having a mantra to repeat every time my partner says a certain word, whether that word is part of the mantra or not. (Having someone trigger a mantra like this is great fun, especially mid-conversation, or while Iām trying to ask for something, or while Iām trying to explain something.)
Having to repeat after my partner, perhaps modifying pronouns. (āYou will obeyā being modified to āI will obey.ā)
Being tasked with writing up a fantasy, and then being made to read it aloud.
Being expected to be gagged or otherwise prevented from speaking at all times. (Ballgag might be too harsh for āat all times,ā but tape is effective, too.)
Being gagged at random. Not just during scenes, but during mundane activities, such as watching a movie together or doing housework. (I like the idea of being interrupted while in the middle of something, maybe even in the middle of a conversation, and my partner simply holds out a gag. Or sitting at my desk working when my partner comes up behind me and slips my gag between my lips. Being told to kneel and open my mouth, excited to get to suck cock, and instead gagged. Comes with a bonus of being trained to readily take my gag.)Ā
Being told I can only speak while being gagged, despite knowing it will be unintelligible.
Planning a voice call with my partner, but right before we begin I am instructed to put a gag on so that at no point during the call can I actually speak.
Playing the quiet game, either with my partner or with another submissive. I am rewarded if I win, and punished if I lose.Ā
Playing a kinky version of Taboo/Password: My partner picks a word and a length of time. I do not get to know the word, but do get to know weāre playing and for how long. My partner counts every time I use the word, and when time is up, I get punished for each use. Tons of games to be played on both sides, with my partner trying to get me to say the word, and me trying to figure out what it is. Perhaps if the time period is long enough, I get a clue to the word each day. I would probably end up speaking as little as possible to avoid it.Ā
