So I read the Tara Knight puppygirl thing, and I have some thoughts:
First: don't read it if you are disabled or mentally ill, it will make you feel really shitty about yourself. I would actually recommend just not reading it at all if you can let your curiosity go unsatisfied.
Second: it seems to be a narrative recounting of the authors' personal experience in a polycule with a particularly dysfunctional member who deflected all criticism. This sucks and shouldn't be downplayed, but neither should it be construed as "the way of the puppygirl" to be like that (I put it in quotes though she never uses that phrase)
Third: she spends about a paragraph and a half comparing a mentally ill, dysfunctional trans woman (who I think can be reasonably accused of weaponized incompetence and self-infantalization, if what Ms. Knight writes is accurate) to abusive men in straight relationships. I cannot think of a good reason to do this. It's super gross.
Tldr; it's transmisogynistic and ableist, but it also helps provide a framework for escaping a relationship in which you have been molded into a full-time caregiver against your will. Overall a mixed bag, but one that leaves a transfem reader a little nauseous and self-hating. Would not recommend. General abusive relationship advice would be better for anyone not in this exact situation.
