I don’t think you should be that hard on people who are inactive. Yes unfollow them, but try not to be rude about it. You have no idea what’s happening in their lives. People also leave bc they don’t have muse. I’m not trying to be mean. But they arent inactive because they are trying to hurt or personally attack you. As an admin, you should try to be careful with what you say. (It’s obvi not a huge thing, but for some who are not mentally okay, being attacked in any way shape or form hurts.)
as someone who has been severely mentally unwell and as someone who has suffered from lifelong anxiety and social stressors, i genuinely want to apologize if i’ve enabled the negative progression of someone’s illness or unrest. it was never my intention to hurt anyone, but i was coming from a place of hurt myself because both laila and i poured so much of our time and energy and happiness into this rp and were more than disheartened to see a whopping EIGHT people just poof into the air. i get that some may have left for mental health reasons, but a ‘please unfollow :(’ has not and never will be something unfathomably difficult. if it is, then you are 110% excused for my disappointment and can come back and ask for your spot without ANY fears of being shut down. i get it, both of us do, because we’ve been there and we know that not everything is black and white and everyone experiences things differently. just understand that we want this to last, and going inactive for three+ days is inexcusable. mental health is a valid and more than understandable excuse to leave, but it is not an excuse to make a promise to commit yourself to anything and leave people hanging without a word. that negative action is detrimental to everyone’s mental health and it becomes this vicious cycle of unhappiness and demotivation. i’m not trying to trivialize anyone’s intimate and personal struggles when i say that i’m upset that these people ghosted, but what i am trying to say is that every app is a promise to be here and to be dedicated and to be willing to inform us of a hiatus or setback. i do not feel like they were like ‘aye yo lemme ghost on this gal heneen i never liked her anyway,’ i’m saying that i wanted this to work out better than it did because this is something you were supposed to commit to and it is something we are all invested in. it was not an attack, not on me nor the inactives, but it is immature and we should all know better. if you’re hurt, i’m sorry and i didn’t mean it to be hurtful to you, but i was incredibly worried that this rp would die and, thankfully, it didn’t, but people ghosting has and always will decimate the activity in a roleplay. having a light, ‘its okay we’re cool w yall just poppin for a day and basically killin the rp!!’ approach will make this roleplay literally croak. i’ve seen it happen within a day. we’re not letting that happen, and if a ‘you should know better, you’re adults’ is too much, then i don’t know what else i could do? just know that i am sorry if i hurt any individual, but i am not sorry for wanting this rp to last and taking something i worked hard on, just as admin laila has, to be taken for granted. we are willing to welcome EVERYONE with open arms, but we are not a pit stop along the way. you, similarly, are not a hitch-hiker or a tourist here, and i have no intentions of treating you like a stranger or lesser. you matter, and your health matters, so please understand yourself and your capabilities as an individual before investing your time and our time into other people and a generally greater environment around. if you need time away for mental health, then you can have all the time in the world. if any of y’all feel personally belittled, please come to me off anon and i will send you every apology in the book and mean every word because i wasn’t that tight dw.. that aggravated stuff was directed at those who left and knew exactly what they were doing — not to those who left because of their mental health. i’m sorry if i hurt you, and i never, ever meant to negatively impact someone’s mental health. i was merely voicing that they negatively impacted my rp and something i was really dedicated about. again, all the love and all the apology, if it applies. - admin heneen ♥
