ur my lovely angelbaby

Emilio thingz he/him ⚢ 🦌🏳️‍⚧️ 22! autistic

[muzzlesbian]

you have to love the tgirl but you have to let her love you back too

[muzzlesbian]

transfem affection and attraction is painted as inherently predatory to a degree that drives us to be constantly on edge. it makes us fucking paranoid. do you know how awful it is to worry if it’s safe to lean your head on your close friend’s shoulder? to be openly desired and even flirted with but never flirt back for fear of being labeled a creep? to be unable to cuddle up with your date because you’re terrified of how they might respond? do you know how much that fucks a person up?

you have to let the tgirl love you back. you have to.

[kayla-denker]

Hey, you, cis girl that's very (correctly) vocal about women being allowed to talk about their periods, do you include trans women in that?

I ask because every single time I've tried to talk about it to anyone that isn't a trans woman they get fucking angry. Which has caused me to have to just suffer in silence every single month. So I really relate to cis women when they talk about literally the exact same thing; being shamed by everyone around them their whole lives for talking about their periods, so they just suffer in silence every month as it negatively impacts their work and social lives. But I don't even feel like I can voice that I am literally dealing with the same exact thing because most of y'all react like you want to throw me in front of a bus for saying it, even those of you who act like your such big great transfem allies.

[kayla-denker]

I guess I'll take this opportunity to talk about trans women periods. The first thing any tme person thinks when they hear this is always "how can trans women have periods? They don't have uteruses!"

The answer is: the uterus isn't what causes your period, it is effected by your period. What causes your period and what causes trans women's periods is the same thing: the endocrine system.

HRT changes the sex of your endocrine system. Feminizing HRT makes it a female endocrine system, giving us a 28-day hormone cycle just like cis women. At the end of that cycle, the hypothalamus floods the body with prostaglandins. Those are what cause all but one of the period symptoms, because they make muscles inflame and contract. They are what make the uterus shed its lining, they are what cause intestinal cramps, they are what cause body aches, they are what cause headaches and migraines. The only period symptom not causes by the release of prostaglandins throughout the body is depression, and that is caused by your endocrine system simply not processing as much estrogen and from simply feeling like shit.

So, the only symptoms trans women don't get every 28 days is menstrual cramps, because yes we do not menstruate since we don't have uteruses. But migraines, depression, body aches, intestinal cramps, and the infamous "period shits" don't exactly add up to us having any better of a time. Except we have to pretend that we're fine and nothing is different because no one believes that we get periods, not even cis women.

"But you can't call it a period then because that refers to MENSTRUATION!" is another one I hear all the time. This is incorrect. You use the word "period" instead of just "menstruation" because it doesn't just refer to menstruation. It refers to a period at the end of the hormone cycle where we experience a host of symptoms. And not all cis women experience all of the symptoms that encompass the period. Not all cis women get migraines, or body aches, or have severe depression. If a cis woman gets a hysterectomy she doesn't menstruate either! In that instance she experiences an identical period to what trans women experience. Yet, I doubt you'd insist that cis women who've had hysterectomies don't have periods.

[kayla-denker]

Oh, another thing that I personally discovered after bottom surgery: vaginal odor changes for trans women during our periods too. I was not expecting that because I always thought it was just from menstruation. But nope, the ph levels of a trans woman's vagina are the same of as a cis woman's vagina, and it changes during our periods just the same.

[kayla-denker]

" #for anyone ehos more familiar with hrt for trans women i have a question#as far as i know those symptoms are usually caused by a decrease in estrogen and an increase in progesterone#as someone who used to have a uterus i took exogenous hormones to essentially overwrite my menstrual cycle#and i could theoretically have my ovaries removed and go on a steady dose of estrogen to mitigate pmdd and endo flares#are you being prescribed different doses of those hormones acrpss 28 days to mimic the menstrual cycle? "

No, we do not take a different dose across the 28 day cycle. It is the same amount in the same intervals all month.

" #if no does anyone know what the mechanism behind that is. " I explained the mechanism in the post that you are reblogging and asking this question in the notes of.

" #anyway im genuinely curious bc there isnt a mechanism that i know of that should cause thise symptoms#when/if you don't have an endogenous source of hormones and are taking a constant dose "

Yes, there is a mechanism: it is called the endocrine system. That is what controls the hormone cycle, not the ovaries. All of the sysmptoms I described above, as I explained above, are caused by the hypothothalmus releasing prostaglanids throughout the body during the period.at the end of the hormone cycle. Prostaglandins cause muscles to inflame and contract, that's their purpose. That is what causes the uterus to shed it's lining, what causes intestinal cramps, body aches, migraines, all of it.

" #also completely separate but if youre a trans woman with unexplained abdominal pain you might want to see abt endo "

Again, as I explained above, it is not unexplained, it is very easily explained. These are not symptoms that come at random. They come like clockwork every 28 days. It is a period, because we have female bodies with female endocrine systems that do what female bodies do.

"#its responsive to estrogen and has been concretely diagnosed in cis men so you are 100% able to get it#i need to go look up the details again but im pretty sure it was occuring in cis men whod gone on androgen blockers as part of cancer treat#ment. i do not think they were also taking estrogen so trans women may be at much higher risk of active lesions forming "

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about here. But whatever it is trans women are not at a higher risk of getting it. We are not males. We have the same hormone levels and bodily functions as cis women. Our bodies do not somehow process estrogen differently than cis women. Our bodies aren't somehow poisoned by estrogen or whatever you're talking about here.

What happens when you go on androgen blockers and don't take estradiol is that you go through menopause and develop osteoporosis. Because your body needs hormones to keep that from happening, and if you're blocking testosterone without replacing it with estrogen, there isn't enough hormones in the body to keep that from happening. Every single human being, no matter what genitals or chromosomes they were born with, or what gender they were assigned at birth, goes through menopause if their body lacks enough hormones to stave it off.

[feminist-space]

[feminist-space]

[doubledeanburger]

Dean hasn’t been taking care of his Samagotchi

[bellad0nnaheart]

sometimes a bigoted guy calling trans women slurs isn't calling her slurs because he "is secretly insecure and ashamed for being attracted to her". sometimes it's because he's a bigoted asshole. and acting like there's some magic Reddit Gotcha! that, if you comment under his post, magically undoes the harm done by his transphobia, is stupid! You aren't helping anyone!

[kayla-denker]

Also, transmisogynists being sexually attracted to trans women isn't a "gotcha" at all. Men that are misogynistic towords cis women very famously treat them as sex objects. This is literally the exact same behavior.

[manuciruja]

Person from a country with the most valuable monetary unit, the most powerful passport and whose language is spoken by most people on the planet: YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW HARD IT IS FOR US TO TRAVEL

[vintagedean]

i think i'm also currently at a point where what interests me about them is like....the classic accidental idea of them. like, them being accidentally in love with each other and fucked up with each other. john unintentionally fucking things up with dean so bad he really can't be connected to anyone else.

the responsibility dean would feel to be everything for john and also just the general responsibility for john's feelings and well being.

i think i've certainly said this before, but deanjohn without any sex, just weird sexually charged intimacy. time spent behind closed doors, inappropriate touching, talking about sexual things, bed sharing with accidental sleep snuggling, a strange unspoken language built on body language and facial expressions, the occasional pet name for dean when john is tired.

[lesbiandeangurl]

SD ♡

[orenju]

Also SD ♡

[ashes2caches]

the transfem with big areolas demands that you appreciate them.

[femalegrandma]

[transsexual-feminism]

Reminds me of this post by @corpsehusk-creaturedoll

This is transfeminism!

[tameimpala67]

:(((((

[metztlilix-deactivated20250831]

you could never please me as he could

[hellyesbro]

It really is crazy the way anybody ever managed to push the idea that there is a real, tangible "transmasc erasure". If you look up books, comics, movies, plays, etc. starring a trans protagonist pretty much every single time they are going to be trans masc or TME nonbinary. You have some notable exceptions like Nevada, or Detransition Baby, but pretty much every one of those is going to be BY a transfem author telling our own stories. But they will swear that transmascs are being erased in media compared to trans women so you will go through a list of the top 50 trans books and top 10 trans films for pride and the top 8 queer comic lists and they will pretty much all be about a transmasc experience and you will be like. okay so I reviewed 60 pieces of media and 5 of them were interested in representing trans women and the rest were transmasc or TME nb what do you mean by erasure and they will look you in the eye and say with a full chest "I am jealous that you guys get more blood libel than us"

[kayla-denker]

And pointing this out gets you treated as if your insane. They all literally claim the opposite is happening, and point to the same like 6 transfem characters from the last 20 years as proof of it — like Sense 8 and Orange is the New Black.

It's literally that study that found men think a room is mostly women when its only like 30% women, or something like that.

[transsexual-feminism]

It's literally the exact same thing as what it currently happening with god of war and has been happening since gamergate. Men mistake representation of women for the erasure of men, all parties being trans does not change this dynamic.

Transmascs are not forgetting their representation, they are using the scant representation of transfems which does exist as evidence that they are being erased. The implicit belief that everything should always be about men is the same one which causes them to make every post on tumblr about themselves.

[ritahayworrth]

happy fourth of july to the philippines ONLY

[ritahayworrth]

link to article

[cassiterite-tenring]

hi, filipino here. just want to say that our independence day is june 12, not july 4. july 4 is when the united states government decided that they would recognize our freedom, specifically because it is your independence day and they wanted to cement their cultural hegemony over our country. and because of their influence on our country this was recognized for a time as our independence day. we still commemorate it, but i hope you can understand why we don’t want our independence day to be associated so closely with our former colonizer. it wasn’t even a work holiday for us.

june 12 is the day that we filipinos declared our own independence for ourselves, and that is what we celebrate as independence day

[houseofglass]

happy june 12 to you

[vergak]

Me and my mutuals

[catboybiologist]

My apparently wild and radical take is that trans women can literally just dress like women without much "accomodation"

"but what about hiding your-" I guarantee you women's clothes already does that, and you need it less than you think

"but what about adding padding to-" there are women's clothes that do that, also you need it less than you think

"but I don't think women's clothes will accommodate my proportions" I'm guessing that they will, and if you've been in HRT for any noticeable amount of time, they will likely fit better than men's clothes

Like I had my whole "femboy guide" pre transition, but that was a different vibe entirely.

If you want my advice on how to dress now, it would literally just be:

Take what you currently wear

Look at the woman's cut version of it

Size it properly

Wear it the correct way (eg, use the waist that women's clothes are made for)

There's a lot of clothes that's made "specifically for" trans women. Aside from very specific things (like tucking) I think most of it is garbage. Not to mention the absolute horrible ways that they're often marketed, rolling in trans women's everyday clothes with crossdressers and fetish gear.

When a trans woman first transitions, I've found that they're immediately BOMBARDED with "fashion advice" that is A, extremely othering and sometimes dysphoria inducing, and B, oftentimes outright garbage and uses old school crossdressing/drag advice that often fails to account for the effects of HRT, or doesn't come off as a more casual look.

I do think there's value in guides that are more in the zone of "hey, you've only been taught about men's fashion and clothes your whole life, here's the basics of women's fashion to catch you up to speed" but I've yet to find one that doesn't devolve into a weird "hide everything about your body, tran" kind of tone.

Quick preemptive Q&A

Are you saying that trans women CAN'T wear men's clothes and/or be butch?

No, I'm saying that women's clothes DOES fit and accommodate trans women's proportions, but most people refuse to believe that.

So you're a gender conformist then? Just molded to the binary system of fashion?

The last thing society wants a trans woman to be, is a woman. The most radical thing you can be is yourself, and sometimes yourself is a woman.

But what if I don't want to dress in women's clothes?!?

Good for you, then don't

[catboybiologist]

Fuckit, here's my bullet point fashion guide for trans women. This is stuff that applies to ALL women but trans women specifically will not have learned earlier in childhood.

Your waist is high. Higher than that. It's over your belly button. Yes it'll feel high waisted. Yes it'll also feel good. If your hips are getting wider, this is where pants will try to sit naturally anyways, and anything else will be uncomfortable.

On that note, the lack of pockets on women's pants actually does have a functional undertone. Having pockets at the waistline creates a VERY uncomfortable "pivot point" between your stomach and your legs, meaning if you put your keys or phone in pockets of women's pants, they're gonna jab you in the stomach.

THAT SAID, if you DO want pockets, I'm not gonna stop you. But get cargo pants!!! Women's cargo pants look SO nice, and thigh pockets are a godsend. They're more functional and more comfortable with growing hips.

Yes, women's cuts actually do make a fair bit of difference, and yes, you will fit and look more feminine in a women's cut. Even if it's a women's cut of jeans and a t shirt.

"unisex" clothing is oftentimes just men's clothing rebranded. I'm sorry but it's true. A lot of it will drape over you in boxy ways, since the "visual size" of a men's cut is almost entirely defined by the shoulders and upper body. This looks bad if you have wide shoulders or large boobs. It looks REALLY bad if you have wide shoulders AND large boobs, like I do. (Side note, the solution to degendering this should probably be something along the lines of giving the two cuts neutral names, like "shoulder cut" and "waist cut")

Bra sizing is a mystic art. No chart, calculator, or online tool will get you anywhere close to just trying on a variety of them yourself. They're a necessary starting point, but they're not going to get it right. Doesn't have to be an actual fitting, doesn't have to involve another human being, just grab a couple and try them all on. Hell, order them online and return the ones that don't fit if you're too nervous about being seen at all.

Don't make any fashion goal to "hide" anything (apart from tucking tbh, but tucking is less dramatic than a lot of other stuff imo). This isn't even primarily a self confidence point (although that's a great side effect) it's a point that if you spend too much effort or emphasis in "hiding" something, the rest of the fit is going to fall away from you or be guided by that in restricting ways. It also might call a lot of unnecessary attention to the exact thing you're trying to hide- and oftentimes, the only reason you wanted to hide it is because you're overly self conscious about something that's falling within normal variation. Choker to hide an Adam's apple? Now you're both calling attention to your neck, and are limited to outfits that work with that choker. Too much stuff over the shoulders to hide them? Now you're limited to things that cover the shoulders, and are also adding more padding or material to them. This point is deprogramming. The fashion choices that trans women are having imposed upon them to look more cis are not only a result of cis bullying, but oftentimes achieve the opposite effect than what people want.

[catboybiologist]

Oh I actually learned some great stuff for this!

I usually buy mens shoes for more "useful" shoes, but there are ways to get women's styles:

Find a brand with unisex sizing conventions, eg, something with British sizing system. They'll have availability of all their styles in their full size ranges- if not in a store, you can try a different style in a store and then order the style you want online. Blundstones are a FANTASTIC example.

If you want flats and heels- Nordstrom rack, Ross, and similar "overflow stock" stores are a blessing. They literally have fancy shoes in a greater size range than you would get them at a full price store, and at a huge discount.

[autogynophelia]

Get called a "guy" repeatedly by a trans man acquaintance.

Get your trans man friend to mention to him in private that it's not OK, because you know he won't listen if you tell him.

He apologises profusely to your trans man friend, but not to you.

Your trans man friend replies "No worries, everyone does it, just bear in mind that some people are really sensitive about this stuff 🙂"

Your trans men friend and trans man acquaintance bond over your sensitivity to being misgendered.

Just be glad that you weren't kicked out of the social group for making a fuss 👍

[wontbemycoffin]

men fucking hate listening to women. girl help what is this!! just add the trans prefix to it this is crazy misogyny. I swear the lack of respect is in cracker blood.

why dont trans men care???? no mames that is full on misgendering

[scrunglorkittygay]

We need to build spaces where this shit gets you a serious talking to. This behavior is disgusting and it is horrible that our social connections and means of continuing to live are held hostage by sexist men that don't even respect our status as women.