I need opinions which is better.
Sometimes you have a realization, one that only seems to matter a bit at first, but over time and examination, becomes biblical in its importance. Maybe you get to spread your wings, like a bird to explore this big new world, bigger than you dreamed. Coming to such a realization doesn't fix any issues you may have, no matter how much it matters to you.
When I was a kid, I grew up in a small town, and in that town deviation from the norm may as well have been a crime on its own. I talked funny, having a very pronounced speech impediment, and I was definitely not skinny, or athletic. I was different, I wasn't normal.
Even with my family loving and supporting me through all my pain, I felt like I didn't deserve to live, like I was a mistake. Part of me still feels that way, like I'm doing something wrong simply by existing.
Part of me internalized the idea that every little difference between me and "normal" was bad, was wrong. No matter how much I cared about the issues, I couldn't be different from normal, even if I would say I wished I was different in some way. That part of me blocked me from seeing who I really am until the question got stuck in my head. "Am I?"
That question, that thought, cracked the walls, and opened the floodgate to allow me to realize who I am, even if I wasn't sure at first.
And I'm scared, scared that I may still be wrong, terrified that I may have fooled myself into thinking I'm not. But I know, now that the question has been asked, and examined, I've looked at it and rethought it until I know, and I'm certain about this part of me.
Hi, my name is ____, and I'm bisexual.
Learned a fact about myself
One that my mind hid from myself
And now that I've found myself
Make my way up in the sky
Find out who I am inside.
Grew up surrounded by hate
Didn't want to suffer that fate
From the norm I couldn't deviate
Acting like others too little too late.
Not athletic, talked weird
Walking home what I feared
Was being the target of my peers
Anxiety tortured me for years
Family may support me through the pain
Even when it all comes from my brain
Like the feeling that I am a drain
And the feelings that I've wanted slain
I'm scared to even speak bit aloud
Terrified that my family won't be proud
That acceptance won't be found
And that I'll suffer without a sound.
It felt wrong to exist as I am
To myself, about what I am
To everyone else about how I am
I differ from what most consider normal
I never claimed to be normal
But I suffer being abnormal
I asked "Why can't I be normal?"
A question, a thought, cracked the dam
The floodgate opened about who I am
What my mind blocked before, built the dam
I wasn't quite sure about what I am
Terrified and worried about fooling myself.
That I'm lying to everyone and myself
That the truth is still hiding itself
I can't quite put these thoughts on the shelf.
I asked the question again and more
Think about who I'd be lying for
Wondering what those years were for
And finally I stepped through the door
I know who I am, though uncertainty lays
In my brain I wonder for days
And then I remember the familiar daze
And I think about what catches my gaze
So know that what I say is not a lie
It's no falsehood, that won't fly
I won't hide it now I'd rather die
My name is ____, and I'm bi.