LegallyBrunette

Student trying to b hot and successful

[thatbitchery]

One of the most interesting yet horrifying parts of coaching / mentorship is the fashion and styling part where I go shopping with my people and have to face , every.single.time, the horrifying reality that you lot know NOTHING about clothes and fabrics. At this age. You're 20 I. Okay, so I'll do y'all the honors right now.

If there's any hint of Acrylic or viscose in the fabric composition, do not touch it. The second you wash it the 3rd time it will look like it was chewed by 16979 cows as cud in a row. Viscose is meant to mimic cashmere which is already a problematic fabric, it will just peel off more like you're shedding fur.

Polyester is the most versatile of fabrics since it can mimic anything. It's meant to be wrinkle free and soft. It can look really cheap or expensive. Of all the unnatural? Manufactured?? Whatever you call the fabrics we don't find in nature- it's the best. Spandex will snag and show you hell and elastic will loose it's elasticity one fine day and look like its from the ice age.

Tweed is the god of all fabrics, except it snags so easily. It does not belong in your day to day outfits in the same way knitted clothes do not belong in your day to day outfits. The day one thread comes loose you're dead dead. And it easy could it's literally threads decompressed together.

the more natural the fabric the more classy the clothes will look. Linen and cotton are the most breathable so they belong to summer and early fall. Cashmere wool and the rest belong in your winter wardrobe they're warm enough.

The buttons need to be reinforced. If a button is holding on to it's dear life with only one reinforced threading don't buy it. If you're buying a coat the buttons need to be big and heavy since they're carrying weight. Bone and pearl buttons are the classiest version. Metallic looking buttons, even gold (especially the huge ugly gold ones) cheapen the fabric.

Cashmere is pretty but from hell. Wash it thrice come talk to me.

The stitches should be small and in a straight line. If they're big they'll come off easy. The inner lining of a cloth should be soft and usually polyester to make if easy on your skin and easy to slip into. Silk is really really pretty, stay away from it as an everyday fabric. Along with satin and worse- velvet. Whyyy are you wearing velvet at 20. Or, ew- sequin.

Long sleeved will always look classier that short sleeves. Tank tops are for strong hourglass figures. Stretchy material is also for strong hourglasses the rest of us wear fabric that has form in itself.

Your clothes are supposed to mimic an hourglass and create the illusion of one. Waist smaller than both your shoulders and hips and hips wider than your shoulders. This one simple rule will save you so much.

Making patterns work is something even experts struggle with btw.

Rule of one- you can only show ONE part of your body with your outfit. Your chest, your abdomen or your thighs. Only one that's the law .

Round necked tops are something heavy chested girls will never be able to pull off. Or wide shoulders. V necks are the universal one size fits all feminine top cut. Collars are classy and feminine.

Blue jeans especially the washed out type will never work sorry. Even Kendall Jenner hasn't been able to pull it and she has the kind of body that can pull everything.

Seamless underwear. Closest to your skin color. Nipple covers are a wardrobe essential and so is a lint roller and a steamer. Steamer >> iron.

Nail color red, black or closest to your skin. Short nails >> claws. And those pointy nails I. Please no. Annnnd the pearls and all the details on the nail?? How do you comb your hair?? Is it a 4C hair problem? Can the 1A to 3B girls pull it off??

Make up goes to your eyes and lips. Only one of those two can take the heat.

Haircut is supposed to make your face appear more oval. Hair color should be as closest to your natural color as possible. With 3-4 shades in it to look more natural. Unless you are on the far ends of black or white, then you can pull off monocolor. If your hair color is too sharp of a contrast to your skin color you'll have to make up for it with your make up & will have to be harsh with it.

Bag essentials - safety pin .lip gloss. Sunscreen . Toilet paper. Wet wipes . Tampon/pad/whatever fits your fancy. Moisturizer. Perfume. Concealer . Which all goes in a pouch in your bag, not haphazardly in your bag staining everything.

Wedges>> pointy heels , unless you're trying to have back pains in your sixties.

Your bag should a) hold a solid form ie not compress / collapse into itself. b) have stands so it doesn't rest on the floor / surfaces with it's base c) not snag easily c) have compartments and d) beautifully lined interior.

With bags - small bag, medium bag, big bag. Muted appearance. If you're in your 20s and I catch you with the birkin Kelly Bottega Balenciaga chanel Dior Vuitton etc etc etc. Well. Don't let me catch you with mainstream designer bags.

Top should match your skin color and color season, bottom can be anything tbh. Your blouse t-shirt whatever should be as closest to your skin. color/ color season as possible if you're not trying to look like your head is floating

Your pants unless skinny should be longer than your ankle. If your skirt is short your shoes should be close to your skin color to elongate your legs. High waist forever. Unless you're an hourglass only high waisted clothes exist.

Only one can be fitted top or bottom. Not both (again unless youre an hourglass. The gods among men that could actually pull rags.

Also, don't ruin your body and it's features. If gel and acrylic weaken your nails get dye instead. If you can't color your hair without bleaching let it be. Don't wear tight ponytails or braids that will ruin your hair line. Create a very simple skincare routine with only 4 steps and leave it be don't exhaust your skin. Use retinoids and sunscreen. Cleanse moisturize protect that's it. Do your eye and lip make up in a way that you dont need all the other fluff. If you do, make it concealer (hopefully with SPF and move on. Don't wear heels too often and don't punish your body with extreme diets. Take care of yourself

BMAC

[honeytonedhottie]

CONFIDENCE⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🛍️

i've reached a point where my confidence genuinely cannot be shaken by anything, like all the shadow work and everything is rly paying off and having confidence makes everything in life so much better so i wanna talk about it 🍭

GAINING CONFIDENCE = GAINING SELF LOVE ;

to begin with, confidence is not gained over night and its something thats built and honed with time. so be patient with yourself! confidence always stems from self love.

self love is the most important thing ever. no matter what u have to know that ur gonna love yourself thru THICK and THIN. ur the only one with u 24/7.

make ur mind a palace, treat ur body like a temple, give urself the tender love and care that u DESERVE 🧁💕

GET COMFY IN UR OWN SKIN ; 

i feel like the most confident people are dancers. i feel this way cuz of the way my own confidence SKYROCKETED after i started dancing. i feel like dancing gives u a sense of control over ur own body and its just amazing.

whenever i feel like i need a little boost of confidence or i wanna feel sexy and good in my own skin i DANCE. and i promise that it helps so so much. i dance around in my room all the time and it’s like therapy. 

embarrassment does NOT exist, stop making urself feel awkward or embarrassed for making mistakes sometimes, learn to laugh and not take everything so seriously.

MENTAL DIET ; 

honestly in my experience, manifesting has played a huge role in my self confidence and my self concept. honestly, self concept work goes hand in hand with self confidence work.

keeping a strict mental diet has made my self concept untouchable so definitely get into that. so SAY UR AFFIRMATIONS, dont EVER bully yourself etc.

SAY NO ; 

something about a confident person, they can ADVOCATE for themselves and they know how to say no/im not comfortable with _. practice saying no more and being in control of ur time.

some words that u can add to ur vocabulary to be more confident and advocate for urself properly is "absolutely not" or simply NO. theres so much power in the word NO so make sure to use it more.

THE MUSIC ; 

the music that u listen to on a regular day to day basis rly have an impact on ur mind for either better or for worse depending on what ur listening to. 

steer clear of music that talks about things like self loathing or self hate and instead go for songs that uplift you. a lot of the time when ppl bring up the relationship between the songs u listen to and ur mindset a misconception that ppl have is that like, u can’t listen to emotional or sad songs and that’s NOT TRUE. u can listen to sad songs and still be a confident, bad bitch.

HONEYS HOT TIPS ;

probably TMI but something that rly helps confidence is when u match ur bras to ur panties (IDEK WHAT IT IS) like the confidence boost is insane. when u look good -> you feel good.

again, embarrassment does NOT exist

no one is above you and no one is beneath you

surround urself with other confident individuals so that they can uplift u and u all can LEARN from each other, cuz the people u surround urself with matters.

[wonnieaura]

THE IT GIRL MINDSET

The "it girl" mindset is all about embracing your individuality and exuding confidence and self-assuredness. Here are some steps in becoming the it girl you desire to be especially in 2024 🫶🏻

1. Embrace your individuality: Don't try to conform to societal beauty standards or compare yourself to others. Be true to who you are and celebrate your unique qualities.

2. Exude confidence and self-assuredness: Wear what you feel good in, speak with confidence, and hold your head up high. When you feel confident and assured, others will notice and respond in kind.

3. Focus on internal beauty: Take care of your mental and emotional well-being, and focus on being a good person. When you feel good on the inside, it shows on the outside.

4. Practice self-care: When you practice self-care and take care of yourself, you feel more comfortable in your own skin and exude confidence and self-assuredness.

5. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people: Seek out friends, family, and mentors who lift you up and celebrate your successes. Avoid negative and toxic people who bring you down.

6. Practice gratitude: Writing down and focusing on what you're grateful for can help shift your mindset and help you adopt an "it girl" mentality.

[honeytonedhottie]

maintaining/creating a social life⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁

ok so i used to have HORRIBLE social anxiety and i think that the contrast between me with social anxiety and me now is INSANE. in a good way ofc. so im not going to talk about how i overcame social anxiety, instead im going to talk about how i created a social life ✨

MAKING FRIENDS ;

the science of making friends is simple and im about to explain it. so go to where there are ppl that u can relate to/want to relate to. example being school, clubs, etc.

next, observe who u want to befriend and make sure to start with a compliment. starting off by introducing urself just makes for an awkward conversation but starting with a compliment puts u and the other party at ease.

something thats rly important is ur CHARISMA and ur magnetic energy so be CHARMING ✨ if u find that the other party is not reciprocating its either they're uncomfy, uninterested, or just a weirdo. and in all cases, you should stop.

MAKING FRIENDS THRU FRIENDS ;

make friends with your friends friends -> make friends with their friends -> and so on and so forth. this is how you network and create a friendly status with lots of people.

if ur in a school setting like i am, make friends with people in ur own grade or in a higher up grade, i dont usually make friends with ppl in lower grades but ofc there are always exceptions.

making friends through friends is how u get invited to parties, have more opportunities be available to you, and ofc network for more connections. guys connections are literally EVERYTHING.

MAKE TIME FOR UR FRIENDS ;

make sure to learn who u call friends. when is their birthday? do they have specific preferences? what kind of music do they listen to? knowing ur friends makes them feel special and thats how u learn to be a good friend. i can make a whole POST about being a good friend cuz i've learned and grown so much with that.

THE POWER OF A COMPLIMENT ;

make it ur mission to give a compliment everyday cuz first off, being nice is HOT so pls be nice and second of all, if ur trying to talk to someone and u start with a compliment i promise that it'll go so much better.

if ur thinking "thats so awkward how will i do that" then the category dont be shy is one that u gotta read cuz girl 💀. if u need an example i'll provide one from my own experience so u can see the power of a compliment.

there was this girl in my spanish class and i always thought that she was so pretty and she seemed so nice. one day we bump into each other in the bathroom and i compliment her hair and makeup, she responds well. we continue to have friendly interactions throughout the rest of the school year and now we are good friends on and off campus.

DONT BE SHY ;

when u make friends please please PLEASE work on ur confidence first. you need to be SURE of yourself. if not, when ur being friendly it could come off as desperation and ppl will humiliate, make fun of and take advantage of u. and thats NOT hot.

be CONFIDENT, you literally have nothing to lose. when u shed ur shyness (thru things like exposure therapy etc) a whole new world is opened up for u bcuz sometimes the only thing holding u back is urself and ur limiting beliefs about urself.

MAKE UR PERSONALITY SHINE ;

make sure that know ur own personality and from knowing that u can find ways in which u can make it shine. no matter what ur personality is though, something that i cannot stress enough is BE NICE.

be friendly and amicable with everyone and stay out of drama and if drama comes to you then stay unbothered 😭. dont try and uproot ur own personality to copy someone else's.

[csuitebitches]

Fearless Social Confidence: Strategies to Live Without Fear, Speak Without Insecurity, Beat Social Anxiety, and Stop Caring What Others Think - Patrick King book notes

Socially confident people:

expect to be accepted. When they meet strangers, they expect to make a good impression. They never approach situations thinking, “What if they don’t like me?” Instead they think, “I hope I like them.”

evaluate themselves positively. Socially confident people are encouraging, positive, and accepting of themselves. They give themselves leeway not to be perfect and don’t beat themselves up too harshly when they are not.

feel comfortable around superiors. Socially confident people feel comfortable because they don’t feel threatened, or that their flaws and vulnerabilities will be highlighted by the other person’s qualities.

With a lack of social confidence, you are usually choosing the thought that is cruelest to yourself.

when navy SEALs recognize that they are feeling overwhelmed, they regain control by focusing on their breath—breathing in for four seconds, holding for four seconds, and then out for four seconds, and repeating until you can feel your heart rate slow down and normalize.

Core beliefs: 

Steps in a thought diary entry can be arranged in the easy-to-remember A-C-B format—

Activating Event. Note down the event/ situation. This is simply the origin point of your emotional change. It’s whatever caused your emotional status to change from calm to agitation (a memory, a song, etc).

Consequences. In this step you identify the specific emotions and sensations that arose. These could be simple feeling words— “anxious,” “unhappy,” “sickened,” “panicky,” “melancholy,” “confused,” and so forth.

Beliefs. This is where the action begins. How do you link the activating event with the consequences? What unconscious narrative or story about yourself was told to achieve the consequence? (“What was I thinking?”  “What was going through my head when this happened?”  “What’s wrong with that?”“What does this all mean?”  “What does it reveal about me?”)

Now you’ve gotten to the bottom of your situation and figured out what your core beliefs are.

The first step is writing down one of the core beliefs you’ve just uncovered. Ask yourself what experiences you’ve had that prove your core belief wasn’t always true. Generate as many experiences as you can and be very specific about what happened.

Write down the core belief you’re examining.  Think of ways that you can put that belief to the test. These are actual tasks that you can perform.  Then, write down what you expect or predict will happen after conducting these tasks if your core belief was true.  Perform the tasks.  Write down what really happened after you completed your task.  Compare and contrast your predictions with what actually happened. Finally, document what you learned from the task and come up with a new, more reasonable core belief that goes in line with your discoveries.

Bushman’s results imply that sometimes the best course of action after being provoked to anger is to just sit quietly and let it pass.

There’s a direct link between social anxiety and negativity. A 2016 Australian research study showed that “elevated social anxiety vulnerability is characterized only by facilitated attentional engagement with socially negative information.” Obsessing over negative details—including by constantly talking about one’s problems—only reinforces one’s social fears and does nothing to inspire real confidence in a social setting.

Personalization is the mother of guilt. In the cognitive distortion of personalizing, you feel responsible for events that cannot conceivably be your fault. While it is admirable to take responsibility for your actions, there are things completely out of your control: the subway schedule, other people’s actions, and a million day-to-day factors.

Common cues of overgeneralization are “always” and “never.” When starting a sentence or a thought with “always” or “never,” consider whether you have the experience or evidence to back up the statement.

Other people aren't only what they are showing to the world. Most people put on a good show. But do you really know what might be going on in their private life? Take comfort from the fact that while there will be many people who are better at certain things than you are, there are also most certainly things that you will be better at.

If you are self-conscious and worried that people will judge you if you say something stupid or “off,” there's an easy workaround to that. The best approach is simple preparation. Create answers to predictable questions and conversations. Run that mental videotape in your mind about your past 10, 20, or 30 social conversations. I guarantee they are not all that different from each other.

Figure out the general questions that people will ask and the topics that will come up in normal conversation and be prepared with story-answers. For example, How was your weekend? What are you doing this weekend? How was your day? What do you do for work?

How can we ease ourselves into social confidence little by little? 

List the social situations you avoid. Ask yourself what kinds of gatherings or circumstances you steer clear of and write them all down in a list. Your list should include both physical situations—parties, family gatherings, work presentations, and so forth—and personal experiences that you don’t want to face.

Give each situation a SUDS level from 0 to 100.

Plan your goals.

Build your goal stepladder. You’ve planned a goal and have decided to start work. Remember, situational exposure is a bit-by-bit process.

[csuitebitches]

On Being a Powerful Speaker

in order to be a good speaker, you have to be a good writer. that doesn’t mean publishing 100 books and making it on NYT’s best selling list.

writing your thoughts, challenging your own assumptions and stances, writing about “controversial” ideas and playing the devil’s advocate, questioning the known, will allow your mind to become clearer on what you truly stand for. It will allow you to understand exactly who you are and what you believe in. It will help untangle all the jumble in your mind because you have to pen down your thoughts. Writing things down takes more time than thinking things, which gives you the time to reflect as well. Once your idea has been presented on paper, you will feel a sense of clarity. When asked to spoken about said idea or subject, you’ll be able to speak clearer because you’ve already spent time thinking, reflecting and challenging yourself. You may realise that you need less time to remember certain words, you’ll be able to retrieve things from your memory faster, your vocabulary will improve vastly and hopefully, your rationality will increase.

how should one go about such an exercise if you can’t think of subjects on your own?

Look for any one articles in the news. Any one article or a book. Read just the headline and the sub-headline/ read just the summary of the book. Now pause. Think about what it just said - do you agree with it? Disagree? What are your initial assumptions? What are some things you’re thinking of? Write it down. Now read the whole thing. Were your hunches right, or did the author challenge your initial assumptions? Do you agree with the author or still disagree? What were things you felt the author did not clarify or consider in their argument? start writing things down.

You do not need to be a good speaker in order to be a good writer; but perhaps, you do need to be a powerful writer in order to be a good speaker.

[bitchy-craft]

Confidence: Affirmation Series

Hello and welcome to this post! In here I will be giving a few confidence affirmations. I hope you all enjoy and find this useful.

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My self-worth is not dependent on the opinions of others.

I trust myself to make the best decisions for my life.

I am resilient and bounce back from setbacks stronger than before.

I am confident in my ability to learn and adapt to new challenges.

I embrace uncertainty with courage and grace.

I am the architect of my own destiny, and I create a future filled with success and fulfillment.

I am enough, just as I am, and I celebrate my uniqueness.

I speak my truth with confidence and authenticity.

I release the need for perfection and embrace my journey with compassion and acceptance.

I radiate positivity and inspire confidence in those around me.

Tip: The more you repeat the more effective your affirmations can be.

[succulentsiren]

Imagine who you could be if only you had the audacity.

If you didn’t care about looking stupid. If you weren’t afraid of making mistakes. If you didn’t put other people’s judgements before your own. If you didn’t neglect your responsibilities. If you didn’t procrastinate. If you didn’t let the toxic voice win. If you didn’t overthink everything. If you didn’t fear your own power.

Imagine that you have the audacity.

That you take bold actions. That you take accountability for yourself. That you unapologetically show your creativity to the world. That you ignore the naysayers. That you remain unbothered. That you allow yourself to be seen. That you embrace all that you are. That you speak your truth. That you allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them, then become a winner. That you speak highly to yourself. That you begin your journey right now.

Don’t block yourself from being your greatest.

H.S.

[csuitebitches]

Level Up Pyramid.

I will never stop yapping about how important it is to get your basics right. If your base routine is not solid, no matter what you add on to it, it will never be sustainable.

most of us get motivated in the middle of the night, build an elaborate routine that we’ll follow for less than 2 days and we’re back to square one.

I get so many asks about girls getting stressed over their routine and how they should solve the issue. If your routine is stressing you out, you need to cut. It. Down.

this is a pyramid that will teach you to get the basics down and in what order.

if your foundation is strong, your base routine will be an unshakeable of your life. if it is an unshakeable part of your life, you will slowly but surely get better at those things. as you get better at those things, your confidence will increase. as your confidence increases, you will be ready and motivated to take on more challenges.

[theambitiouswoman]

The more confident you are, the more emotionally resilient you become.

Confidence is an affirmation of our abilities and self worth. It is grounded in self awareness and recognizing your strengths and weaknesses. When we possess this self belief, we inherently trust our judgment and skills, regardless of external opinions. Many people look for external validation, leading to emotional vulnerability. If your sense of self-worth is tied to external validation, you become more susceptible to criticism or negative feedback. However, when someone is genuinely confident, they often don't rely on external validation. They perceive challenges or negative feedback as growth opportunities rather than personal affronts. This mindset stems from a strong internal locus of control, where you believe your actions can influence outcomes. This confidence brings a lot of benefits, such as diminished fear of failure, better decision making skills, and healthier relationships.

[csuitebitches]

Traits I’ve Noticed in Confident People 

Disciplined - if a target is set, it is achieved 

Speaking - Can speak multiple languages. Can express thoughts clearly even if vocabulary is limited. The listener understands their point. 

Strong extroversion socially - can approach and talk to new people with ease, but also make them feel comfortable. Good at following up, asking questions and inserting little stories about themselves without exposing too much 

Strong general knowledge / industry knowledge. They know what they’re talking about 

Hard to please but not arrogant about it. They won’t readily accept a fact or opinion, even if the majority agrees - they’ll debate with it, think over it, play the devil’s advocate

Good posture

Strong set of principles and self control. There’s no shame in wanting to say, help someone, choose not to drink socially, buy a coffee for a poor person on the street; they don’t hesitate to do good deeds 

Hygienic. Clean, groomed, well dressed, well maintained. 

Observant and proactive at the same time. Can pick up on body language relatively easily - can sense discomfort or unease in someone and do something about it. 

Have a strong sense of self identity. Can be opinionated but open to challenges. 

[thatbitchery]

"I don't want to scroll all day but have nothing to do with my time" starter pack

Learn a parent language. 30 minutes on a language learning website a day, a pen and notebook are 20000× better than 10 seconds on insta.

Run a blog. About literally anything. Bland as you may be you can not lack a passion.

Learn programming & coding. This is the IT age, IT skills make up half of what are measured to be 'high value skills'

Learn some dance skills (hopefully high intensity). Better than workouts

Personal style and aesthetic study. The university of You Tube is more than happy to help

Pick an online course on Leadership or Project Management online.

OffScreen Hobbies eg knitting, skating, calligraphy, painting, you get the idea.

Read a novel

Cloud watching / car counting/ high focus easy tasks. Reset your dopamine receptors.

watch a documentary (on health, finance, or business)

[honeytonedhottie]

girly morning and evening rituals⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁

MORNING RITUALS ;

the rituals that i do in the morning are PREPARATION for the day ahead. i like to get up early so that i have plenty of time to just be present and cater to my own needs and preferences.

morning supplements and cleanse drinks

first thing in the morning i like to drink a glass of chlorophyll water and i'll take all my supplements like collagen, vitamin C and D and magnesium. doing so is me taking care of my health and putting first.

morning sweat session (a rly rly good workout session)

working out in the morning is so so GOOD. it gives me so much energy and rly helps me start off my days on the right foot. i'll do either a light workout or pilates depending on how my body is feeling.

EVENING RITUALS ;

the rituals that i do to unwind and prepare myself for a restful night. some rituals are for preparing for another successful day and some rituals are simply to take care of me in that specific moment.

drinking a cup of tea

i always drink the same tea every night (peppermint/spear mint tea). sometimes i'll add other tea bags to my teas and do a cool blend, but something about a simple cup of tea always brings me the most comfort.

evening reading time

reading every day is so good for ur mind and it makes for such amazing entertainment. buy urself a rly juicy and interesting book and commit to reading before bed every single night instead of scrolling on ur phone.

having a show to look forward to watching at the end of the day

having a juicy show to look forward to at the end of the day is so much fun and lowkey like a reward system/form of comfort. i've just finished all eight seasons of desperate housewives and im going to start a new show soon, but sometimes i watch my comfort shows.

WHY WE LOVE RITUALS ;

having a set routine or ritual that u do not only ROMANTICIZES ur life, but it also keeps u in check and gives u the sense of control over ur life. they provide comfort and show love towards ourselves which is what we aim to do ✨

[nenelonomh-deactivated20250906]

having boundaries with yourself

➼ having a bedtime

➼ deciding the minimum and maximum amount of time you can dedicate to work each week

➼ setting limits on the amount of screen time you have

➼ having an amount of time per week you move your body

➼ limiting your alcohol/highly processed food consumption

➼ keeping a budget

➼ deciding how often you will travel or go on vacation and sticking to it

➼ going to doctors and dentist appointments regularly

➼ paying bills on time

➼ doing work (school or not) on time

➼ wearing sunscreen when you go outside

(images from pinterest)

[glowupwithamy]

A Mini Guide For : How To level Up Your Confidence

1. Reframe Your Fails into Fuel - Instead of letting setbacks crush you view them as training moments. Everyone messes up but confident people use those experiences to learn and improve. Next time you face a challenge tell yourself "This is an opportunity to grow" and watch your confidence soar.

Celebrate Your Strengths - Don't wait for someone else to pat you on the back. Recognize and appreciate your own talents and accomplishments. Make a list of things you're good at big or small and revisit it whenever self doubt creeps in. Remind yourself - I am awesome at speaking and doing conversations and that's something to be proud of!

Fake It Til You Make It "in the Right Way" - This one gets a bad rap but here's the key don't pretend to be someone you're not. Instead act confident even if you don't feel it completely. Stand tall, make eye contact, and speak clearly. This outward projection can trick your brain into feeling more confident and over time it can become genuine

Compete Against Yourself, Not Others - Ditch the comparisons! Social media and societal pressures can make us feel like we're constantly falling short. But true confidence comes from focusing on your own journey, not someone else's highlight reel.Track your progress and celebrate how far you've come and set goals that challenge you to be a better version of yourself.

Focus on "what you can control," not the rest: Can't control others' opinions? Let it go. Focus on your strengths and actions and how you want to show up in the world Be your own boss.

Be patient with yourself and know your self more so that you can know in what areas you need to develop more , Message me if you guys want that sheet to know about yourself more 🥰

[nenelonomh-deactivated20250906]

20 traits of an attractive personality

thoughtful and warm affection

self-aware and self-reflecting with proper action

strong understanding and listening skills

a funny sense of humour

having responsibility for your own decisions and actions

being a supporting character

being thankful when others help you

taking pleasure in simple things

keeping promises

connecting with people deeply

treating friendships and relationships as priorities

nourishing yourself with good food

knowing your worth and accepting what you deserve

forgiving people for their mistakes and limiting their access to your life

taking care of your expenses

staying calm when others get angry at you

learning from people who are smarter than you, and not letting your ego interfere

being loyal and trustworthy in any relationship

taking care of your loved ones

always keeping your promises

[agirlwithglam]

conversation tips + how to be funny

talk about the other person. i know, this is said basically everywhere so im not gonna go too deep into it. everybody likes talking about themselves, where they've been, experiences they've had, etc. so just keep asking questions about themselves!

another thing id like to mention is don't just let them talk the whole time, thats not how a conversation works. instead add in your own opinions, and experiences! make them laugh!

literally just find out things about the other person- linking back to the first point- be genuinely curious about the other person. be curious about them! how they think, how they are, find out stuff about them that you can use later- ex: if they mention they like star neckless, maybe one day you can buy a star neckless for them to show that you care!

absurd analogies.

share funny & embarrassing stories from your past! this makes you look more confident and people feel more comfortable around you bc you're able to laugh about a cringe moment in your past. but its best to do this when the laugh is at your expense, and not at others.

make people feel good about themselves. make them feel special.

watch how other people do it. take inspo from others! you can even look at celebrities interviews and see how they've made people laugh and have an interesting conversation. some rly good interviews that i'd recommend are: ryan gosling / the tv show percy jackson / Zendaya & Tom Holland /

finish other people's sentences with something funny and ridiculous. when someone's trying to remember what they were about to say, you can fill in with a ridiculously funny idea to end their sentence! dont overuse this tho, otherwise it can get pretty annoying.

EXPRESSIONNNN!!!! laugh at their jokes, nod along, be sympathetic. just express and overreact in a way that makes them feel heard and special!!

playful teasing.

Xoxo, your Glamorous Vanilla