Regression with Xander

This is my safe place where I will post about age/pet regression. My name is Alexander but I prefer Xander when I am regressed. my little age is 0-6. I am part of an OSDD system so some of my alters will post as well. my system and I are always open to new friends. we have autism, dyslexia, mental health issues and physical health issues. we are going to make text post, tips for regressors and caregiver's, and so much more!

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Hey I saw your post about an agere server!! I'd love to be a part of it and be a staff member :)

Hey sorry, it took me so long to respond. Send me a message so we can talk about this.

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Littlespace bag

What is a littlespace bag? Well, it's a bag you can have your little gear in or a bag you can take with you well regressed.

Why would someone use a littlespace bag? well many different reasons for having a littlespace bag. whether it be to store your little gear, hide it(if a secret regressor), or even when travelling or just out in public well regressed.

I am going to specifically talk about what I take in my bag well regressed in public/travelling.

What I take in my littlespace bag:

A paci or 2

a toy

a stuffed animal

a sippy cup or bottle

cute dinnerware(if travelling)

a backup outfit

a colouring book with crayons

snacks

some money

my phone and a list of phones in case of need

my switch with some games.

I usually don't go out in public well regressed unless with my CG or a trusted friend. but I do find even just having it in my room packed very helpful as I am a secret regressor to my family. Remember you are loved and valid. also that you are amazing!

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Possible Discord server

I am looking at making a discord server for regressors, dreamers, CG, and flips(but supporters are more than welcome as long as respectful).

I am just wanting to know if you guys would be interested in that idea or would want to be part of the staff if it opens.

So if this is something you are interested in send me a message so we can discuss your ideas, wanting to be part of the staff, or anything involving the possible server.

Here's a bit about the server if it were to be made.

It is a little-space server with a cafe theme. It will welcome all regressors, dreamers, CGs and flips.

It will have "classes for regressors/dreamers" who want to join. it will consist of worksheets, kahoots, and maybe calls for learning each week.

Colouring pages will have their own channel (so you can get colouring sheets if needing some)

It will have a TW section for venting, getting advice, etc

General chats for everyone, but all chats for only littles/cgs/flips

monthly movie nights, nightly nighttime music, lullabies or bedtime stories weekly, and so maybe other fun pings.

So many fun bots. Including plural kit for systems, counting bot, pokemon bot, etc

System, LGBT, POC, etc safe place.

A way to make friends.

For people who are thinking about joining the staff.

Weekly staff meetings

Staff venting

Training

Help with setting up the server

Help with problems within the server

Having a say in server changes

And the everyday staff things

You don't need any experience as long as you are willing to learn

you don't need to be active every day (but if going to be away for more than a couple days do your best to inform other staff)

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Consequences for Regressors Part (3/3)

I first wanna say that I will be explaining what consequences are fitting for regressors and ones that aren't. Some of the consequences that aren't alright will have a Trigger warning. Also, some may use the term punishment but that could be triggering to some so I will use the word consequences.

Let's first talk about why regressors may need consequences.

Well for regressors who have rules they follow it may be helpful to have some consequences if they are not followed.

Now let's talk about harmful consequences. These include (but are definitely not limited to). Here is your Trigger warning for these.

Raising your voice at your regressor

Hitting/becoming violent with your regressor

Taking comfort items away

Ignoring your regressor

taking away basic needs

These are just a couple. Harmful consequences always depend on the regressor so make sure to discuss consequences and set some boundaries

Now onto some good consequences.

Early bedtime

Time out

Take away sweets

Less screen time

Write line

Extra chores(if you have any)

Take a point/sticker from the reward/point system (if you have one)

Take away toys(this does not include comfort items)

Grounding( with boundaries of course)

If you have any other consequences you want to be added to the list, please leave a comment so I can add them or make an updated post.

Remember you are loved. you are valid. you are amazing.

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My rules / Rule ideas- Part (2/3)

Let's start by talking about why a regressor may need/want rules.

Well, this honestly depends on the regressor, but a couple reasons are struggling to take care of themselves, need the structure of rules, and may need them for safety reasons well regressed. These aren't the only reasons why someone would need or want rules but are probably the most common.

Well here are the rules more CG has given me and also some ideas in case you are looking to set rules for yourself or for your regressor.

My rules :

Eat 2 meals a day

Drink at least 1 cup of water

Remember to take any meds or Vitamins

Take a nap if tired

Don't have too many sweets / Check with CG if I can have it

Brush Teeth twice daily

Take a shower/bath every other day

Go to bed on time (bedtime is 12am on school days and 1 am on weekends)

Complete all school work before doing any other activities

Don't go outside without supervision well regressed

don't swear well regressed

Always pick up toys when done with them

Other rule ideas:

A screen time limit

A morning/night routine they need to follow

Cleaning up their bedroom

Say good morning and goodnight to CG

Always tell CG what you are feeling. so they can help if needed

No cooking with supervision well regressed

A set amount of time to go outside

Course these rules are only ideas and what rules one regressor has may be different for another. these rules should be based on your needs. You may only need a couple rules whereas someone else may need a long list of rules. It doesn't make you any less valid.

If you are a CG wanting t set some rules for your regressor remember to talk to them about it. As rules aren't for every regressor so make sure you talk over the reasons and what rules you want to be set.

Remember you are loved. You are valid and you are amazing.

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Point/Reward Systems Part 1/3

This post will have 3 parts. Part 1- Point/reward system, Part 2 Rules for regressors, Part 3 Consequences/Punishments. This is so I can add more examples and explain each topic better.

Let's talk about point/reward systems.

What are they? Well, it's a system where you can get points or rewards for doing certain tasks.

Why would a regressor use this? Well many reasons. a couple is for fun, as motivation, or as a tracker of these tasks.

The example I am gonna use is the Point system that My CG has set in place for me.

This system works by doing a certain task that has a set amount of points associated with it. Each task I do gives me points that add up over the month and can be "cashed in" for rewards. But if I misbehave My Cg can take points away.

Here is the list of tasks and points that are associated with each task.

Go to bed on time - 1 point-  

Drink a cup of water - 1 point -

Brush your teeth- 1 point-  

Dress up in clean clothes- 1 point-

Do something educational - 2 points- 

Post on your Blog- 2 points-

Go to work - 2 points-

Spend at least 15 minutes outside- 2 points-

Read a book- 3 points-

Colour a picture/draw something- 3 points- 

Use screens (for things that aren't homework, drawing, or educational purposes) for 3 hours only- 4 points-

Go to school - 4 points

Clean my room - 4 points-

Write in your agere journal- 5 points-

Physical activity- 5 points-

Responsibilities- 5 points- 

Have a Self Care day -8 points-

Finish all of your homework- 10 points-

Reasons points would get taken away:

Stayed up past my bedtime

Didn't eat at least 2 meals

Snuck sweets behind CGs back

Didn't Clean up my toys

Swearing well in little space

Basically, if any rules are broken

These are just a few reasons points would be taken away. But CG may not take away points if I have good reasoning as to why that rule was not followed.

Here are some of the rewards I can cash in points for.

Small rewards:

30 minutes past bedtime –10 points-

Favourite drink or snack –5 points-

Buy a small item at the store – 15 points-

1 extra hour of screen time-15 points-

Large rewards:

A happy meal – 30 points-

A new blankie- 20 points-

A new stuffie - 30 points-

2 hours after bedtime –50 points-

Buy a video game – 80 points-

Buy a large item –100 points-

2 extra hours of screen time –50 points- 

A movie night –40 points-

This type of system is different for every regressor depending on many factors. As long as it works for you who cares about what others think. Remember you are loved. You are valid. You are amazing.

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Age Regression Journal Prompts

Let's first talk about what an Age regression journal is. An age regression journal is a journal used for when you regressed. that doesn't mean it's only for when you regress but it is mainly used when regressed. This journal could be anything a notebook, a binder with some paper, a note on your phone, anything you want it to be.

Why would someone use an age regression journal? Well, there are many reasons why someone may use an agere journal. They could be login what they do well regressed, it could be a tool for when they are regressed, or could just be for fun.

Personally, I use mine as a tool for when I am regressed. So mine contains Rules from my CG, my points log, Activities I can do, and Recipes/food ideas. I also use it to have fun with journal prompts.

So here's a list of Journal Prompts and Pages to add to your journal.

An about you Page

A Rules page

A point system/ Reward system

Wishlists

An about your CG(if you have one)

A meet your stuffies page

A perfect Little day

Describe Your perfect little room

Your dream Little gear

Your dream

Activities to do well regressed

Draw Something for your CG

Draw outfits for different events(Bedtime outfit, Park day outfit, Etc)

Make a Favourites Page

Do a What's in my Backpack. you could draw or write it.

Do a 30 days of Age regression. Answer a question every day about your regression

Meal/ snack ideas (with recipes)

Write a story

Doodle

Designs an Agere Bingo

Log all your stuffies in your journal

have a list of movie shows you want to watch

These are just some of the many things you can add to your agere journal. You can add whatever you want to match your regression.

Remember you are loved. You are valid. You are amazing.

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Meal/Snack Ideas for littles

I first wanna say that if you do decide to make any of these ideas please make sure if you have any intolerances or allergies that you are able to eat these things. I recommend you check for these things to keep yourself safe. Also Never cook without supervision well regressed. if that isn't an option then I recommend making your meal/snack before regressing so you can still enjoy it.

Let's start with some ideas that don't need cooking or much prepping

Apple sauce

Pieces of fruit or veggies

Cereals

Yogurt

Pudding

Goldfish crackers

Cheese and crackers

Premade lunch kits(Lunchables,foodles, etc )

Cookies

Sweets

Sandwiches

Babyfood/snacks

Let's get onto some ideas that well required some cooking/prep

Chicken nuggets

Frozen fries

Grilled cheese

Mac & cheese

Pancakes or waffles

Eggs with toast

Hamburgers/cheeseburgers

Hot dogs

Ramen

Make your own pizza

Frozen meals

These are just some ideas that you can have well little. Of course, there is much more food you can have well little. this isn't a list you have to follow it's more just for ideas. the foods you eat well regressed don't make you any less valid. You are loved. You are valid.

Leave What you eat when regressed(or what your regressor eats when regressed) in the comments. In the future, I will make an updated version with all your ideas.

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How to tell someone about your regression?

First I want to say that you don't have to tell anyone about your regression. It doesn't make you any less valid. Your regression is special to you and you shouldn't feel pressured to tell anyone.

You want to make sure you are safe when telling the person/people you want to tell.

Maybe ask them if they have heard about it and whats their opinion is on it.

Think of a plan on how you want to bring it up to them. this could be face to face, over the phone, through a letter, or any way you feel most comfortable.

Make sure you have a good way to explain what age regression is. Explain how it isn't anything gross or sexual. Explain what it means to you and why you regress(of course if you are comfortable)

Once you explain to them maybe give them some sources to do some of their own research.

I may have missed some things you think would help someone if so put them in the comments. Just remember you don't have to tell anyone at all about your regression.

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Caring for a little with Chronic Illness/Pain

Chronic pain is pain that persists for more than 6 months. It can be caused by many different factors. Chronic illness is an illness/health condition that persists for more than 6 months. Most Chronic illnesses cant be cured just treated and managed.

Remember what medication they take and the dosage. Also, remember what can and can't be combined with.

Have cute ice/heat packs

If they have equipment for their illness(wheelchair, iv pole, etc.) you could decorate them with stickers, or anything.

Make a bag that goes with you guys everywhere. (I will make another post of what this bag can include )

Make a wellness cart for your home. (I will explain more in another post)

Have comfort items on hand and all times.

Buy heatable and freezable stuffies

Add bath salt into bubble baths. let's not forget toys!

Learn some massages for pain relief

Make a spoon based to-do list

Have activities for low energy days

Comfort them when at the doctors and distract them during scary medical tests

Chronic illness is not something we can get rid of or ignore that's why it is chronic. Its part of our lives and affects everything we do. Trust your little when knowing best about their condition and talk to them and make sure you are doing what you can to help them.

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How to tell people about your regression

First, I want to say you don't need to tell anyone about your regression. If you want to keep it private that doesn't make your regression any less valid. Also if it isn't safe for you to tell people please don't. Your safety is more important.

First, make sure that is it safe for you to tell who it is you want to tell.

You also what to see if they know what age regression is. if they don't give them the definition and ask if they would like to hear/read more about it.

If everything goes well from there. Sit them down or call them and tell them about your regression and why you regress. This will help them understand what it means to you.

Explain why you decided to tell them.

if everything goes well after you talk with them maybe talk about your regression. if boundaries need to be put in place or if they need to know how to help if you regress. if you have regression gear maybe show them where you keep it so they can grab it for you.

Remember you don't need to do any of this is all just suggestions. Do it, however, you feel most comfortable. It is your regressions so it's best you be safe and comfortable with it.

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Age regression gear

Frist, What is age regression gear? Age regression gear are items an age regressor many use to help them regress or stay regressed. You don't need anything to regress but some may use age regression gear to help them. You are valid even if you dont need/want age regression gear. Here are some examples of age regression gear.

Colouring books

Crayons/Markers/Pencil crayons

Puzzles

Bath toys

Toys

Stuffies

Bottles

Sippy cups

Baby pacis(i dont recommand baby pacis because you can damage your teeth.)

Baby dinnerware

Stickers

Baby lotion

Work books

Story books

Blankets

Crafts

Bubbles

Cute pjs

Cute clothes

Adult pacis

This is just some of the items that you could use as age regression gear. Anything that you use to help you regress/stay regressed is age regression gear. You dont need any of this items so reminder that. If you are on a bugdet the dollarstore is a great place. Just remember your regression is your own so make it comfortable for you.

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Little Red Flags

First, let's talk about what a Fake little is. A fake little is someone who uses being regressed to their advantage. They may even fake being regressed. These are some of the red flags to look for.

They pretend to be regressed to get out of serious discussions

They make you care for them after you have stated you need time for yourself

They ask to be your little without getting to know you

Trying to be sexual with you well they are "regressed"

Only cares when you are caring for them and ingore you when you aren't in CG headspace

They overstep and ignore boundaries

They expect you to spoil them and base if you are a good or bad caregiver on the number of things you buy them.

They have no interest in you or your wellbeing

Make sure you can trust your little. Look out for these red flags when looking for a little.

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Caregiver Red Flags

First, let's talk about what a Fake caregiver is. A fake caregiver is someone who takes advantage of you when you are regressed. They don't care for your well-being. These are some red flags to a fake caregiver

They want everything to go their way or no way. For example, you aren't allowed to interact with other littles/caregivers.

They use your regression against you. For example, saying they will tell people if you do something they don't like.

They ignore and overstep boundaries.

They only talk about their problems and ignore you when you try and talk about yours.

They don't talk to you much and leave you when upset or regressed. This would be more than just a one-time thing and would be without warning

You are always justifying their actions all the time

They make you feel bad for the boundaries you have set.

They ask to be your caregiver without knowing you

They only want you for sexual things and sexualize your regression

They only want you regressed when they feel it's ok.

Punish you in inappropriate ways and/or for inappropriate reasons

Make sure if you have a caregiver you can trust them. Look out for these red flags to keep yourself safe.

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Caring for a little who was abused

Trigger warning

First I wanna say not every little when through the same events. This means talk to your little about the events ( if they are comfortable) and talk about how you can help them. here are some things that may help but it will depend on your little.

Bring comfort items everywhere you go.

Reassure them all the time about how amazing and loved they are.

Remind them about how much they mean to you.

Praise them over as many things as you can no matter how big or small.

Learn their triggers so you can try and avoid them.

Make a comfort space/bin for your little. it could include little gear, stuffies, snacks, anything that brings your little comfort.

these are just a few of the things you could do there are so many things that your little may need from you that I haven't mentioned. jut listen to your little and understand their needs

Remember no matter what you have gone through it doesn't define you! It made you who you are today! Remember that you are amazing and loved by so many people.

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Littlespace room/area

First, let's talk about what is a little space area. A little space area is a place you can regress freely. This space could be as big or as small as you want/need. It is made for your little space so make it look who you want it to!

Now here are some ideas of what you can put in this area.

Fairy lights

Blankets

Stuffies

Little gear

A fluffy rug

Foam Mats

Toys & books

Cute bedding

A tent

A nightlight

Glow in the dark stars

Pictures you coloured!

Storage for your item in this space

There are so many other things you can put in your little space area. It is all about what you want or needs in that space! If you need inspiration look on Pinterest!

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YouTube channels for regressors!

Pwincess smol bean.

They make super cute content! They are pretty active with there posts as well. Their videos make me feel super regressed

Fanged.Toddler

I only recently found their channel but I love it. It's super cute and there posts a pretty recent.

Vexedbabie

They have a bright colourful channel. Their videos make me feel smol and I love their interactive videos.

Little Kitty Space

They are super active with posting and I love watching there videos!

Boba Bunny

They have super cute videos! They make me feel super smol.

Babie Dani

I love their videos. They make alot of interactive videos for when your regressed.

I didn't mention all age regression channels but these are a few that I love. There are more out there just have to find them! Let me know in the comments if you have any channels you really like!