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“Why box yourself in with labels instead of just being you?” is an idea i see a lot and it’s very distressing to me and I’m not quite sure why.

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“why are you interested in having words to understand and talk about your experiences”

aiden17

“Why be able to identify others like you when you can feel different and alone?”

actuallunalovegood

i was at a grocery store really late one night and some old guy kind of eyed me as i walked out of the store next to this other lady. She and I made eye contact and i knew she was scared too. we loaded up our groceries into our cars as fast as possible and I had way more bags than her so she got done faster than me. I panicked because i was sure she was going to leave so i just hurried faster, shaking a little, and then i noticed she sat in her car, watching me and making sure nobody came near. She waited not until all my groceries were loaded, or until my cart was put away, or until I got into my car. No, she didn’t drive away until I drove away.

And that was the moment that I realized how much women need other women. That we can’t win this war without each other and we have to be looking out for each other, every second.

ofgeography

my last year in new york city, i got off the subway around 9 or 10p.m. i only lived about 5 blocks from the f train, but i hadn’t gotten more than two before a woman’s hand suddenly touched my arm.

“that guy behind us is following you,” she said. “he was watching you leave the train car and followed you up.”

i hadn’t noticed him, or at least not noticed him following me. when we stopped outside a grocery store, he stopped half a block back and loitered. the woman linked her arm with mine and walked me several blocks out of her way to my front door and made sure i got inside safely.

another time, nocigar and i were walking home and at a stoplight a stranger grabbed my arm when i wouldn’t respond to him and tried to physically drag me over to him. she—who is, by the way, not a very physically imposing girl—ripped his hand off my arm and snarled, “don’t fucking touch her.”

protect your friends. protect strangers. there are good men in the world, but don’t wait for them to do something if you can do it yourself.

edmundo-noches-buckley

I was at a club once and my friend left with her boyfriend so I finished my drink and was heading out to the parking lot when three girls came up to me and basically surrounded me.

“Those guys behind us were talking about following you. We can walk with you.”

I have MMA training but have never in my life had been offered the protection and sanction of my own gender. This is so important.

stele3

GIRL CODE. FUCKIN’ GIRL CODE. LEAVE NO GIRL BEHIND. EVER.

PSA

yo guys I’m not dead or anything, I just moved to a different city/moved in with the bf recently and still have a lot of shit to get done, yknow, organizing stuff, turning an empty apartement into a living space, working full time, visiting mum every once in a while, attempting to have a social life, building a life for myself, being an adult, taking a shower every once in a while, all that stuff. will be back soon. <3

nyctosaurid

better lion king plot: nala murders scar herself, becomes the most respected and powerful queen in lion history, no one ever finds simba

nyctosaurid

you think this might be sad for simba but listen: he was perfectly happy in his tiny tropical paradise with his gay dads. nala is clearly the superior leader. shed probably lead the lion/hyena democracy. everyone is happy in this situation

nyctosaurid

and of course, nala has like 9 girlfriends. all is well

fluorescentjellyfish-deactivate

German insults are just so… pure? Like hardly any are oppressive slurs? Most of them are just like calling you an object like a soft egg or something like someone who takes warm showers or a stupid head or an ass with ears

raind0wn

@xcrashqueen please confirm

xcrashqueen

CONFIRMED

also we call people “absolute wooden posts” and “collapsible shovels”

wantstobelieve

“Are you reading us The Little Red Riding Hood again, mother?”

“Thor is scared of the Big Bad Wolf.”

“I am not!”

“Now, now, boys. When you are feeling afraid or sad, remember that you have your brother beside you. Brothers protect each other.”

“Even if he’s really annoying?”

“I am not!”

“Especially when he annoys you. Or when he turns you away, when he is cruel or even when he hurts you; never forget that you are brothers, and protect him.“

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teavibes

This made me smile ago much omg

thebookcraft

basically.

did-you-know

Researchers wore rubber human masks while trapping and banding crows to test their facial recognition ability. The crows were so mad that they later scolded anyone who wore that same mask, and recruited more crows to join their angry mobs. This behavior continued 7 years later, despite them only seeing the mask twice a year for a few hours at a time. Source

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circletwerk

I WANT TO SEE MORE ANIMALS REACTING TO MAGIC

atsween

I CAN’T STOP WATCHING THIS

picklesandwine

The “How Dey Do Dats” ate it up!

micdotcom

Gay men of color call for representation with #GayMediaSoWhite

Monday evening, gay men on Twitter took the media — especially gay-centric media like Out and The Advocate — to task for what they deemed a lack of inclusion and diversity regarding representation. The conversation began when black queer rapper Mykki Blanco retweeted Sony music songwriter Jesse Saint John. Many users called out the gay media for its criminal and tragic depiction of gay men of color.

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srsly tho this is absolutely a thing that dudes do all the f***ing time

like where if he knows a girl doesn’t necessarily want to give him a hug, he will trap her in this position in front of witnesses where she has 2 options- both of which are undesirable for her, while simultaneously desirable for him

if she doesn’t want to hug him, whatever she does, it will suck for her.

she can 1. say nah and be the fucking asshole in front of other ppl or 2. forsake her corporeal boundaries and allow unwanted intimate contact

it’s a f***ing trap

bombchelle

F***ing hate dudes forreal.

poltxsexkitten

too many f***ing times ugh

potamideriver

Story time. One day I was on the MAX (basically a giant street car that goes all over the metro area) on my way to meet up with a few friends. I didn’t look at anyone, I didn’t speak to anyone, I just stood to the side on my phone making sure I wasn’t going to be late to my meeting. Out of no where, this guy comes up to me and starts to chat me up. Me, being who I am, am absolutely terrified to tell this guy to f*** off. He was at least half a foot taller than me, and was way too bulky for me to fight back. So I suck it up at humor him, say hello. Before introducing himself or asking me for my name, he asks me out on a date. Not wanting to piss him off I try to make light of the situation and I laugh, telling him that my boyfriend wouldn’t like the idea, but thank you for the offer. He just shrugs and says, “He doesn’t need to know.” At this point I’m scared out of my mind. There’s this guy who, after seeing me run two blocks to catch the train, comes up to me and has made it perfectly clear that he wasn’t going to leave without getting something out of me. I deny him a second time, saying, “I don’t even know you’re name. We’re strangers, I don’t know you.” He finally introduces himself and asks me for my phone number. I tell him I don’t give my number out to people I’ve just met and he says, “Fine, but at least take mine so we can meet up later.” So he watches me plug his number into my phone (which I deleted as soon as I knew I was safe and away from him) as we’re pulling up to my stop. I tell him I need to leave and switch trains and he tells me, “Oh, I’ll wait with you. I don’t have any plans, so I’m in no rush.” It’s important to note what at this point he had previously told me that he was late to a job interview, but he has all the time in the world because he still hasn’t gotten what he wanted from me; a yes. I get off of the train and he follows me, and waits at the platform with me for over ten minutes until my train arrives, asking me all sorts of personal questions about where I live and where I was going that day. As soon as the train pulls up he grabs for me and says, “Do I at least get a hug before you go?” I was terrified. I was embarrassed. This dude, who before even asking me for my name asks me out on a date and then continues to harass me after I tell him I have a boyfriend, asks me for a hug only fifteen minutes after meeting. People around us were staring at me, as if I was being rude for denying him, and every inch of me was mortified. I wanted to run, but I felt like if I had done that he would have chased after me and things would have gotten worse. So I did, and he squeezed me so tight I felt like I was going to burst. It took me a good ten seconds to get him to let go and I ran to the train car just as the doors were closing. He was trying to get me to miss my train so I would have to wait with him even longer. I would have been stuck there for over a half an hour until the next train came by, and the platform (aside from the few buses coming by) was now COMPLETELY EMPTY. He knew EXACTLY what he was doing and he knew EXACTLY how to get me alone with him. People, if you are in a situation like this do not feel obligated to give in. If someone is making you uncomfortable and asks to touch you in any way, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SAY YES. Make excuses, be blunt, just straight up say ‘no’. If possible, go to someone else near by who you think can help you and ask them to help you. It’s important for guys to learn that they can’t get what they want just by asking over and over again. I got lucky. But not everyone does. Please, everyone, Be Safe.

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SECOND STORY TIME

So I was on the transit bus alone one time. This was my first time riding, and so already I was PETRIFIED. I sit down, pull out my ipod, and begin to play some games. This guy sits down next to me, and begins trying to have a conversation. I don’t really respond, I don’t even look at him, just give half-hearted “mhm”s and “oh”s, as I don’t want to be rude if he was just striking up a friendly conversation. He then asks me on a date.

Now, as I stated before, I already was absolutely petrified. My heart stopped and I didn’t know how to answer. So I just didn’t. He didn’t let up and I could feel his eyes on me. I quietly stammer out a “no thanks” and my stop HAPPENS to be coming up, so I pull the string thing to let the driver know I want to stop there, and once we stop and the doors open I get up and he asks me, “Well, can I at least have a hug before you go if you won’t go on a date with me?”

This makes me break. There are now people staring, as we are the only people standing up and not getting off… So I just start crying. Hell, I am bawling almost instantly. He looks so fucking freaked out and people are now getting up to come over and comfort me/question him. I don’t stop crying, and he keeps trying to comfort me by touching me, and people are yelling at him for that.

AND THEN. AND. FUCKING. THEN. THE GOD DAMN BUS DRIVER. A VERY EASILY 6 FOOT BURLY MAN. COMES OVER TO US. PULLS THE GUY AWAY. AND KNEELS DOWN. HE THEN ASKS, IN THE MOST CALM VOICE, “Did you request the stop?” I very slowly and shakily nod, as I am still crying my eyes out. He then asks, “Do you want to get off?” I give a quiet “mhm” and nod once again, and he offers me his hand. I take it, he stands up, and he escorts me off the bus. He asks me questions such as where I was going next, if I was going to meet someone shortly, if I was going to transfer buses from there. He was very polite and waited for me to answer the entire time, and my friend (who I was going to be meeting there) showed up. He asked me if this was someone I knew, I said yes, and he said alright, have a good day. He then told me- and this is something stuck in my mind forever, so it is word for word-

“If some guy EVER starts harassing you like that again, do exactly what you did there. Cry. Cry and scream and have a temper tantrum. Not only will it throw him off, but it will get others to notice. They might not interfere, they might, but you will have gotten their attention and if you happen to go missing the next day the search for you will be a hell of a lot easier because everyone in that location will have seen you screaming and crying with a guy now very awkward with his actions. They will know. That is what my daughter did, and three days after she went missing she was back in my arms. I pray for you and every other person like you who has this done. You stay safe now, okay?” And after I began blubbering again, I nodded and he left.

So this is the second lesson for yall. If you can not have the courage to say no or make an excuse, cry. Let out those sobs and tears and cry your heart out. Because it is going to make people notice and make people aware.

cosmic-noir

Reblogging for that second story. This might save a life.

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I just wanna note that bus drivers can be really amazing and good ones do look out for their riders.

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Also, as an additional tip (in case you cannot cry on command or such), you can say, “No, because you’re creepy/creeping me out” and if he persists or tries to laugh it off, say “I do not want to be touched” and look at one of the strangers/persons that is watching.

It: 1. Gives them a sense of urgency in the situation, as the eye contact is a way to make them feel as though you are personally asking for their help and it is now their obligation to help. 2. Contains words so that if you’re in a public place but people aren’t necessarily watching, then they (as natural evesdroppers) can overhear the attention-grabbing words and then notice the situation. Note, this does NOT mean that they will come for help, but you might be able to look someone in the eye (as previously mentioned) or just get some people’s attention. 3. It shows that you have fight in you. As with rapists, those who are physically aggressive (ie. these huggers) choose women they see as an easy target. The moment you show them you are going/willing to fight them, they are less likely to continue. Sadly, this is not always the case, but every little bit helps.

Hopes this also helps, guys, and I’m so sad that this has to even be a post we need.

oxfordcommaforever

Dudes who follow me: 1) reblog this 2) don’t be the creepy guy who asks random women for hugs 3) be aware of your friends or random creepy dudes and call them out if they act gross towards girls/womem

alexander

The one short video you should watch today

notyour-anything

good lord he’s preaching and I’ve seen the light

xbuffysummers

I’m literally in tears ???

thewongcarrillo

[Speaker on the Mic] When you have an opportunity to tell two black girls to shut up and get off stage, and you don’t; and you shake their hands and you smile and you step to the side and you listen. That is a firm difference from turning around and staring at a little black girl and saying, “Shut up. I’ll talk to you later.” You’re being rude for allowing people to say that to her. I’m going to tell you, “The proof is in the pudding.” every time. If I can find a picture of you from fifty-one years ago chained to a black woman, protesting segregation. Then, I know fifty-one years later. You’re willing to close your arms, hold your head, and listen to two black girls yell and scream, rightfully so, as opposed to someone who will tell you to shut up. [? Clinton, Speaker, and young black girl speaking at once?] As opposed to someone who will tell you, “Later.” When it comes to your children dying in the streets. I know. I know that the only person I have the conscious to vote for is Bernard Sanders. [crowd applause] I know that the only person that my logical, beautiful, black mind will allow me to vote for is Senator Bernie Sanders, and I want to tell the other side, I know from going around and shaking hands and hugging these beautiful black faces in South Carolina, that god damn firewall got a crack in it. [Hilary:] Umm. Okay, back to the issue. [Audience Member:] Thank you! [Hilary:] The issue that I was reported– @captioned-vines