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“The more one loves, the heavier the meaning of death becomes, and the deeper the sense of loss. Love and death are not different things, they are the front and back of the same thing.”
— Otsuichi, from Zoo (Haikasoru, 2009) (via shelbyhurd)
Two sides of the same coin!
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When dealing with a genuine hurt of losing something real and precious, even the most obvious things don’t add up. Everything rises and falls at the feet of that which you have lost. It is the only explanation for life and so you hold onto the grief, because this grief unlike other kinds of grief, takes on a different meaning. It crystallizes every memory of what is lost therefore it is cherished. It is really a beautiful grief because it is a new way to express deep and real love and yes, you hold onto it because it’s all you have left.
Why Silence Matters Now More Than Ever.
Why Silence Matters Now More Than Ever.
I have often repented for having spoken but never for having remained silent.
The Way Of The Heart, Henry J.M Nouwen
Well, it’s 2020, we are in the middle of a pandemic coupled with the growing unrest, violence, and a never ending opinion war. We all have an opinion about literally everything. Yes, I am sure you can relate.
Seriously though, even on the most “insignificant” things like are…
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Dealing with loss in a pandemic
Dealing with loss in a pandemic
The loss of a job, a place to stay, a relationship or even worse than all, a loved one. A family member, a friend, a relative or just someone we cared about. It is an experience all too familiar.
We have all been there.
Almost a rite of passage for every human. As if to test whether we are equipped to bear this feeling of at most hurt in life.
A few weeks ago a friend of mine shared…
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How did we get here, America ? George Floyd Breona, Taylor Ahmaud Arbery, Tamir Rice, Treyvon Martin, Oscar Grant, Eric Garner, Tony McDade, Philando Castile, Samuel Dubose, Sandra Bland, Walter Scott, Terrence Crutcher (Bottom to Up) David Dorn, Patrick Underwood
I can’t Breathe
Death upon death Police brutality is the norm Like sardines these injustices pile up every single day Like…
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What Christians should consider before sharing their faith with Millennials and Gen-Z
What Christians should consider before sharing their faith with Millennials and Gen-Z
If you have ever been scared of sharing your faith with a millennial or Gen-Z or perhaps any younger person today, for whatever reason, this will perhaps give you some wonderful insights.
It’s no secret that Christianity, just like many other topics has been made equally polarizing to talk about especially among Gen-Z and millennials. We have sadly become so hostile to issues pertaining to…
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Why the Mouthpiece blog?
Why the Mouthpiece blog?
Welcome to the Mouthpiece blog.
A blog that features stories of real PEOPLE, facing real STRUGGLES, with a real GOD and ultimately finding real HOPE. You should have a lot of questions about why this blog and who is the voice behind it and what is it about it? Well, I am going to answer them the best way I can.
My name is Eric Jjombwe, your host or the voice behind the Mouthpiece. You can…
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The Rain
“I hear leaves drinking rain; I hear rich leaves on top Giving the poor beneath Drop after drop; Tis a sweet noise to hear These green leaves drinking near.”
By William H. Davies
In the Valley
In the valley
Life knocks me down
In a black gown like a widow, that’s seemingly blown her chance at the very thing that drenched her in this misery, she now calls her own...
- life -
In the valley. The tears don't dry up. I troll and growl
Searching for a rhythm for joy, a joy that's been robbed, hidden in a place so far from my reach
In the valley
I can’t say I miss her even when I do. Coz when I shut that door I dumped the keys too
See, when I said goodbye that night. I embraced the feeling of letting go
I let her go as I hugged the shadows of this valley. Eyes wet, heart shuttering to the last piece. As if the splatter wasn't enough. Coz down here I don't call the shots;
Someone, something else does
This valley is so dark
I can't seem to find even a leak of light. I glare with no fruit. Only to reap nothing but misery. Like an arraigned criminal, I blame it on everyone else but me. Wryly and shamefully I smoother in the dark. To find a little glim of purpose. Yet, it comes from nowhere. There is no one here. No one but me. So, maybe this is all me after all. I led myself here. Perhaps that light should come from nowhere else. But a place other than this valley:
A place within...
I roll in this dark hellaciously; with a mission on which to embark. Coz I realize I have no friends here. Except, these dark shadows and if I never dare to break loose. Even from the chains that made me lose my life. I will never find delight in the light. The light that awaits me when I make it...
Out of this valley!
the 10 laws of boundaries:
the law of sowing and reaping: letting people face the consequences of their own actions – reaping what they sow, in order to learn and grow on their own. enforcing consequences for people who disrespect boundaries.
the law of responsibility: we are responsible to but not for each other –we commit to others and share the big burdens of life (what can’t be taken on alone) but we allow others a healthy autonomy and freedom to choose how to handle what lies within their own life.
the law of power: it is human to want other people to change, but we cannot change others, we can only change ourselves
the law of respect: respect goes both ways. “if we learn to love and respect people who tell us no, they will begin to love and accept our no as well … our concern with others should not be “are they doing exactly what I want them to do?” but “do they really have a free choice?””
the law of motivation: “a gift must be given out of free choice.” this requires that we make our choices based on our values and not out of fear (of disapproval, rejection, loneliness, shame, guilt, disappointing others). when we say yes, we must make sure that our motives are right, or we may resent it later. this does not mean only saying yes when we “feel like it” – we still may choose to do things uncomfortable/painful for us, but the choice is based on love and responsibility, not fear.
the law of evaluation: do our boundaries cause pain that leads to injury (harm)? or do they cause pain that leads to growth? if someone is not used to someone setting boundaries with them, they may respond with pain. yet this can still be the best thing we can do for the relationship
the law of proactivity: “when people, who have been compliant for years, begin to set boundaries for the first time, we often see very intense reactions to boundary violations. sometimes they explode in anger about a behaviour they have tolerated for years. while this reactive phase of boundary creation is helpful to get out of a state of powerless compliance, it is not sufficient for establishing long-lasting boundaries that lead to growth. reactive boundaries are not bad. in some cases they are necessary, for instance to help a victim of abuse initiate a change. but they are only a first step that help you find your own boundaries. once you have found them, you need to go further and establish connections to others that clearly define who you are and what you stand for, love, want, and purpose. these proactive boundaries are very different from the reactive ones, which only tell others what you hate, don’t like, stand against, or will not do.”
proactive boundaries maintain love, freedom, and reality in relationships. they help us keep our freedom, to disagree, and to confront issues while holding on to love and care
the law of envy: envy keeps us from getting what we want, because it focuses outside our boundaries. it is not wrong to desire things we do not have, but it is wrong to focus on what others have or have accomplished, because it makes us devalue our own qualities and gifts. (boundaries functioning as a sense of self-worth – willingness to be inside oneself)
the law of activity: “when it comes to dealing with problems, many people have a natural tendency to wait until they have solved themselves. in some cases this actually works, either because the problem wasn’t really a problem in the first place and not worth being dealt with, or because others became active and solved the problem for them. however, all other things being equal, active people are much more successful in addressing and solving problems than passive ones. because they take initiative, they have a greater chance to learn from mistakes. they confront problems, try solutions, obviously make mistakes, and – if they are wise – grow from them. they even have a better understanding of forgiveness, because they need it more often. in contrast to that, passive people are afraid of taking risks and making mistakes. they want to be sure that they do things perfectly well before they start. as a result, they hardly learn and lack practice in many things. for the same reasons, they also have a harder time taking responsibility for their lives and establishing good boundaries.”
“people may ask, how the law of activity differs from the law of proactivity. the former says that we are to take action instead of remaining passive, while the latter tells us to base our actions on positive values and not only on the things we hate.”
the law of exposure: exposing ourselves and our boundaries – communicating them clearly and allowing ourselves to be vulnerable in the moment – is the only way for healing and growth to take place.
from boundaries by henry cloud (copy here / note: it is based on christian religious thought and also applied to marriages, but i thought it could have broader use)
every morning i wake up & get my coffee & i recite in my head this excerpt from ‘invitation,’ by mary oliver: “it is a serious thing just to be alive on this fresh morning in the broken world.” & i just say it over & over again until it sticks to my mind for the rest of the day. it is a serious thing. i am alive. i am so lucky. this fresh morning i get the chance to live again & again & again
i know its been said b4 but growing up suicidal and then reaching an age you never planned to live to is extremely stressful and terrifying, and we deserve more credit for not killing ourselves and THEN having to make up for the time we spent not caring if we lived or died and not doing work to improve our lives.
i feel behind in life because i spent the last 7 ish years not giving a shit about my future because i assumed id be dead before id have to deal with that, and now i have to start making decisions that many people started considering years ago.
i just feel like. suicidal people dont get credit for firstly, how stressful life is while suicidal, how difficult it is just to do simple tasks, and secondly, how hard it is to recover from years spent not caring once a person is no longer actively suicidal or no longer having suicidal ideations.
You are still here for a reason. The world still needs you. Don't be led to think that because some people appear to be a few steps ahead of you then you are a failure. NOPE! As a matter of fact, you are a warrior and a success just by the fact that you have battled whatever it is that you have battled and are still here meaning YOU WON THE BATTLE! Keep winning by living one day at a time and cherishing every moment.
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You could be missing your purpose.
Often times we get lost in the idea that purpose is this grander vision of what we are supposed to accomplish in life or who become that great person we aspire to be yet, if we are realistic, most times our purpose could be as simple as being compassionate to someone next to us or even showing a random act of kindness to someone that needs it the most. Your life’s purpose will often be realized from making other people’s days than it will from making your own!
You are enough
If you feel like you are not enough just know you are not alone. I have felt like that a couple of times myself but I am always reminded that I have everything in me to keep going and to become the best at being me.
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