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so what, you want me to be mean to you? to grab your chin and call you a pretty slut? is that what you need baby? because i can give that to you, if that's what you wish. all you have to do is say please

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Wanna fuck you till you’re so raw and exhausted that all you can do is curl up and cling to me so sleepy n satisfied and let me wrap my warm arms around you, press the sweetest kisses to your forehead, and stroke your hair while I whisper into your soft lips what a good girl you were for me.

princessbunnybutt09

🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

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Why punishment? The two of you seem to have a caring relationship with Lex guiding and you supporting. Why is punishment part of that? Mishaps on either side could be corrected without physical pain infliction. Have you always craved punishment emotionally or physically? Do you need it to feel that Lex cares? A bit of sadism/masochism? Not all D/s relationships have it and has always been hard for me to understand why a sub wants it when you did not have it before.

For me, being disciplined/punished is one other way that makes me feel cared for. It helps me feel accountable. I feel like it also helps distinguish our roles in more of a drastic way as well. I also tend to feel a lot of guilt or obsessively berate myself in my head if I make a mistake. My partner doesn't make me feel that way, it's just how I am. The punishment alleviates that a good bit. Growing up, I really didn't have structure or discipline. For some reason, I kind of equate those things to love in certain ways. My Dom I think does too a little bit. As for the actual physical aspect of the punishment, I wrote something about that once. It kind of explains a bit more about how I feel about physical punishment. I will link it and hope it works, haha. I know my reasoning may not make sense to some people. But it’s just what we’ve found works best for us. I know there are other D/s couples who don’t really use any type of punishment because it doesn’t work for them or they aren’t comfortable with that. I totally get that. It’s definitely not for everyone. I’m not going to lie, sometimes I worry about posting the punishment aspect of our relationship because I worry what others may think, even on here. I feel like I’m not completely explaining exactly why it’s an important aspect for me and Lex. Hopefully at least some of this makes sense. Overall though, it just makes me feel safe. It’s like an extra sense of security. Getting punished for messing up doesn’t feel good. But for me, not getting punished after messing up would feel much worse.

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Regarding punishment spankings.. After seeing two different posts stating the opinion that punishment spankings were an ineffective punishme

amysubmits

I hope it’s okay for me to jump in here?

Anon if you’re a sub then I think you could just slightly alter your questions and frame them as being about regular D/s from the perspective of a vanilla, and that would sort of show the situation we’re in.

For example a ‘regular’ sub being asked something like

Why do you want power exchange? You seem to have a loving relationship. You know other relationships have 50/50 power balances right? You don’t have to let him tell you what to do or make decisions for you. I just don’t understand why you would choose then if you didn’t have it before..

The only real way a sub can answer that would basically come down to....well, I know I could choose vanilla but i prefer D/s because it just feels better to me for some reason. Right?

It’s much the same for us (or for me, anyway, I can’t speak for others). I am well aware that I could choose D/s without punishment, in the same way that I could choose vanilla. But for whatever reason this is just how i’m wired. I totally understand why others who aren’t wired the same way will struggle to 100% ‘get it’. I just don’t think it’s something you can totally understand if you don’t share the same “wiring”.

esenciasublime

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Time to reflect

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submissivewildling

12 hours post impact and bruises are still developing. It’s always a problem when my sub side loves to be beaten and then I wake up in little space all teary and sad because my bum hurts.