happymess

25 | LA

[fictitious-ghost]

[be-artistic-deactivated20230306]

[sheholdsyoucaptivated]

*drowns myself in romanticized idealizations*

[versace-caine]

[en-cima]

[meloetta]

*holds your hand and swings it a little bit when we walk*

[yuyuuyuyuu-deactivated20230726]

[oddfilmstills]

[vahst-deactivated20151216]

[uglyfruit]

[the-book-diaries]

“I am too full of life to be half-loved.”

— Ijeoma Umebinyuo, Questions for Ada

[noorshirazie]

“Blaming myself is only natural when you offer no answers to soothe my many questions. Sometimes I think I turned you into the very ghost you are now.”

— Noor Shirazie

[alien]

[loveletter2you]

bell hooks, All About Love

[hirxeth]

[drouxerr]

[goodbyeeveryonee-deactivated202]

Hard pill to swallow: not everyone is replaceable and it’s okay to miss or yearn for a type of relationship you had that you haven’t been able to find a substitute for. Different relationships trigger different parts of yourself and wanting those parts to be stimulated again, excited even, isn’t a crime or a symptom of unhealthy attachments. Considering there are few people on this Earth that we genuinely connect with on visceral levels, treating them post-relationship as if their impact on you was worthless and not one of a kind will only disappoint you. It doesn’t allow you to savor or treasure the connection in ways we probably should, nor does it promote healthy attachment or detachment going forward.