Before I Take My Last Final: How Henry Miller and I Became Friends and the Cheesiest Post I Ever Wrote
This morning I met a man named Henry Miller.
I had just paid for gas and a coffee and was preparing to get into my car to run a work errand before studying for my last final, when an older man hollered at me from his vehicle.
Henry had just traveled from Oregon, a mystical state that still has attendees who put gas into your car for you. Henry didn’t know how to work the computerized screens at the gas station and wasn’t really sure how to pay for his gas either. I put gas into Henry’s vehicle while showing him step-by-step how to follow the screen’s instructions.
Shortly, I found out Henry used to live in my home town, three blocks away from where my parents live now. He had a job with the railway which brought him up to Oregon with his wife who died three years ago. Now, he is in Iowa in hopes that he may still know some people here. He got lonely in Oregon on his own. We then parted ways, wishing each other well.
It wasn’t a significant interaction until I arrived at campus an hour later and began to think about how my time at UNI is wrapping up.
Three and a half years ago, I would have never gotten to know Henry Miller. I would have assisted him and then went on my way, intimidated by the huge age gap between us. When I was 18, I didn’t know how to interact with people older than me. I didn’t see the significance in making friends with strangers. I didn’t know how to ask people small questions that open up big doors.
College forced me to interact with people. I needed to confront those who intimidated me, I learned how to visit with professors and how to find wiser, older people for advice. I understood the importance of making your own doctor’s appointments and paying close attention when in their offices. I floundered and got flustered when I had confrontations with peers that my mom couldn’t take care of for me.
UNI has taught me a lot of things. I know more about Shakespeare than I ever wanted to, I know how to set up a stage for musicians like Hoodie Allen, I know how many beers is too many beers, I know that if you’re gonna have a magician perform for Homecoming to make sure he doesn’t set the stage on fire, I’ve read and understood The Sound and The Fury - the most difficult book I’ve ever laid eyes on.
But most importantly, I know how to be interrupted, to talk to people ,and really listen to them.
I still think the education system is sucky and it is ridiculous that I can BS tests and essays and still get Bs. and really going to college for an education is a waste of money but yeah go for the life lessons