When words meet heartbeats

If we can run, I know we can fly.

[youngheartssgocrazy]

A post after yearssssss

“This is the last letter/poem/song I’ll ever write to you.” How many times have I said that, yet I continue on. 

But you see, I realized I’m not writing to you. I’m writing to the version of you that I knew. I know he’s not here anymore but maybe, just maybe, if I say his name a little louder, if I think about him hard enough, I can see him again. Then maybe I can see the past me again. Then I’ll say my goodbyes, proper goodbyes to them. I have been mourning for them for so long, grief has become a friend. 

They say getting no message is a message itself and maybe it is my fault for denying myself closure back then because I wasn’t ready to accept the fact that you ended us but now, I want it. I am ready to say my eulogy and lay them down to their resting places. Then maybe I’ll be able move on.

But life doesn’t operate that way. Just because I want it, doesn’t mean I get it. After some time you realize you just have to bury them without validation from pretty words, hoping you hear what to want to hear. You just pick the shovel and start digging. And what a better time to do it than before new year. 

[terefah]

examine your intentions. don’t move, why are you here? is your anger self righteous or misdirected? are you holding yourself accountable? what are the consequences of your actions? are your feelings facts, are they a tool for you to win an argument? are your actions consistent with the love you say you have for another? what does love mean to you? is your language mindful of another’s illnesses and traumas? do you respect another’s autonomy and critical thinking skills? are your emotions enriching this conversation or damaging it?

[blackberryshawty]

me @ myself all the time: girl, stop

[scorpioenergiez-deactivated2021]

when water mercurys talk about their emotions and trusts you to listen about them

when earth mercurys start talking about themselves and lets you get to know them better

when air mercurys talk about their new ideas and concepts and rants about their passions and interests

when fire mercurys rant to you about their thoughts and feel comfortable ranting to you about anything

[arte-art]

[little-tunny]

A helpful guide from my Instagram I forgot to post here

guide to small dogs

guide to big dogs

[little-tunny]

Guide to small dog from my Instagram!

guide to big dogs

guide to medium dogs

[little-tunny]

Guide to big dog breeds from my Instagram!

guide to small dogs 

guide to medium dogs

[acutelesbian]

A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life. Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

[fat-thin-skinny]

this fucks me up every single time

[acutelesbian]

I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I’ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.

After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, “is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?” We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.

Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded and they weren’t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.

The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.

The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.

Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.

I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.

[conceitedtrash]

This is so fucking important and I think it’s something I needed right now

[nitabea]

I love this

[have--not-deactivated20160117]

This

[proteinpills]

I’ve always said this. Love is deliberate. Love is a conscious decision.

[realfakeeggs]

The saga of floral fucks continues. 

[inlovesuggest]

a nice idea: i wake up, the love of my life is tangled up in the sheets next to me, the sun is shining, my plants are alive and i know that there’s loads of fresh fruit in our kitchen. life is good.

[the-perfect-aesthetic]

[freebornfox]

What the Signs Need

Aries – “I believe in you.”

Aries are full of energy. They’re bold and impulsive. They seem confident because they always have a response; they’re always quick to act. However, this isn’t always confidence- sometimes it’s just their impulsive nature that forces them to act. Yes, they are children who know no fear, but they desperately need emotional support. Knowing that someone else has confidence in them, that someone is on their team, can push an Aries to become their best person: a fearless leader.

Taurus – “There’s no rush.”

Taurus hate feeling pressured. They need to feel comfortable and fulfilled before they reach any decision and definitely before they act. Having someone who understands their need for security and their slow (omg so slow sometimes) pace actually helps them feel better about making big moves (which kind of freaks them out because they don’t like change)!

Gemini – “You’re not crazy.”

Lets be honest, Gemini placements can inject lots of thoughts and feelings into a person. It creates indecisiveness and mental chaos, which makes a person moody. And people with Gemini placements know this and are sometimes unsteadied by the amount of mercurial energy. Having someone tell them that their need to overanalyze everything is okay and having someone who will listen to their endless thoughts is extremely validating and comforting to them. 

Cancer – “You make a difference.”’

Most Cancers really take on more than they should, and they’ll take on more if it means helping another. They do this because they want to change and influence the world in a caring manner. And because they do this in a caring manner (instead of in a forceful manner (Aries) or strategic manner (Capricorn)), they sometimes doubt their efforts. They doubt that they have any impact on anyone, which just isn’t true. A Cancer’s kindness and ability to provide emotional support and strength to another is unmatched by any other sign, and someone who acknowledges this “hidden” strength and reminds a Cancer of it when they forget, will satisfy a Cancer in a meaningful way. 

 Leo – “Let me take care of you.”

Leos are very loyal and will do a lot for their partners and friends. However, this can not go unnoticed or unreciprocated. Leos need people to show them that they are thankful by returning the favor and then some. Leos want you to exceed their expectations just like they would do for you, and they won’t accept less.

Virgo – “Let me help you.”

Virgos really are about serving people’s needs and in what way and with what means changes depending on the planet and the house that Virgo is in. However, the need to serve is definitely present, and there is nothing worse than someone who consistently takes from a Virgo and never gives back. Because a Virgo isn’t like Leo, they won’t stop giving, blow up, and cut you off. A Virgo will continue to give even to their own detriment. This is why a Virgo needs someone who not only returns a favor but someone who just starts helping from the very beginning without having to be asked. 

Libra – “You’re beautiful.”

Libras are very indecisive. They easily can get caught up in what people think or feel about them. They constantly are trying to define themselves and figure out who they are by mirroring others. They spend so much time looking at others that they frequently can’t identify their own qualities, which makes them question themselves on every level. To have someone who can definitively tell a Libra they’re beautiful (inside (Libras want to change the world too) and outside (Libras are vain) and be able to explain to them why, takes a huge weight off of their shoulders. For a few seconds, they don’t have to search or mirror because the person in front of them is telling them all they need to hear. (P.S. You will have to elaborate as to why they are beautiful- in what ways, specific examples, etc. They are an air sign haha it comes with further questioning)!

Scorpio – “I won’t leave.”

Scorpios are intense. Even if they come off light because of a misleading Ascendant or some other placement, there is a distinct side to them that is serious, edgy, and somewhat dark. And while most Scorpios enjoy the depth and transformation that comes with their placement, they can also be self conscious about it because they know it doesn’t make them the easiest to deal with, and it can lead to people leaving them, which highlights one of their biggest fears: abandonment. Scorpios thrive to have someone who won’t leave them in their darkest night because they need and expect unwavering loyalty. They also feel relieved knowing that not everyone is scared of (or drowns in) their depths.

Sagittarius – “Be free with me”

Sagittarius loves freedom: freedom of thought, expression, creativity, expansion, knowledge, etc. And they also love people (because they provide endless learning) and love to share their experiences of freedom and knowledge with other people, which can be a problem because people can slow them down. People come with baggage and responsibilities and can lead to becoming attached, which can influence someone to put down roots, which petrifies them. The run-on sentence is necessary to accurately depict their very real fear of this and them running away. But seriously this is why a Sag needs someone who calms that inner fear of being tied down because they know they have found someone to run free with.

Capricorn – “I appreciate all that you do.”

Capricorns show they care in a behind-the-scenes manner. They do it through helping and performing tasks- possibly doing things that are needed instead of wanted. They are consistent providers and supporters, and because they are consistent, their efforts can be overlooked and/or viewed as boring or expected. This is why when a Capricorns finds someone who acknowledges and appreciates their efforts, they are likely to do even more for that person and consider them as really valuable. 

Aquarius – “You’re my best friend.”

People with Aquarius placements go back and forth between their love for being an individual and their fear of being so different that they don’t fit in anywhere. They want a companion but not one who wants to completely merge (because 1. they need to be their own person and 2. scary). They need someone to listen even if they don’t completely understand them (and honestly an Aquarius doesn’t want to be 100% understood anyway). They need someone who doesn’t deny their authenticity and isn’t repelled by their individuality, and who better to do that than a best friend.   

Pisces – “You’re my soulmate.”

More than any other sign, Pisces really have a need to merge with another person. Traditional love isn’t enough for them. They are really looking for that fated connection, their soul mate. They need to know that there may be a billion other people in the world and that no one in that billion could replace them. They don’t need to feel that you chose them but rather that fate, through several lifetimes, chose the both of you for one another

[gentlecuddle]

[jodiefoster]

*yelling at myself with a megaphone* WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU LIKE THIS

[luminatress]

Earth Moon Culture 🌎

Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn

- Showing your love for others by being honest and helpful, even if it means being critical and overbearing.

- Putting loads of pressure on yourself because you never really feel good enough unless you’re productive.

- Hoarding when you feel empty inside.

- Often feeling alone even though you would rather be in solitude.

- Finding solace in nature and traveling.

- Only seeing your worth through your material possessions.

- Having a sarcastic and hilarious sense of humor that people don’t often expect because you’re so serious-natured and apathetic.

- Often forgetting to reply to texts or replying late.

- Relieving your emotions through food and other home comforts.

- Your home environment says a lot about your emotional stability.

- You cannot stand being faced with emotional situations. It’s difficult for you to handle.

[afadthatlastsforever]

Whatever you decide, don’t stay because you are afraid of change, saying goodbye, or ending up alone. There is nothing more harmful to your heart and soul than sharing them with someone not meant for you.

Beau Taplin • T h e  S l o w  P o i s o n  O f  S t a y i n g  P u t  (via afadthatlastsforever)