I'll be your Dole Whip

MDNI please, your time will be here faster than you think, enjoy your youth. Everyone else, welcome.

[your-dolewhip]

Ok, I feel that there is a need to modify my intro, the last one was apparently confusing.

Anyway,

My age, I know, we all want to know everyone's age, and rightfully so. Because I like this answer still, in Aztec math, I'm 3 bars and 4 dots. I've also lived one year for every square on a chessboard. For The Beatles's fan, I’ve finally reached the age where Paul McCartney asks "if you'll still need me and feed me".

Another very important bit of information that often gets overlooked, I'm married, I have three grown children with families of their own, meaning that I have five grandchildren. What I want you to understand, is that my wife knows about the people that I talk to and flirt with, she has her own people. Another thing that I want you to be aware of is, they are very important to me, and so will you be if we have that magical connection. I love hard, and if you decide to step into my world, then realize later that you can't handle it, you'll utterly destroy my heart.

Everyone is safe here unless you're a dick, and I'm sure you already know if you are. I'd rather you not hang around and ruin the vibe.

MDNI. Please, I beg of you, do not rush growing up, adulthood isn't what it's cracked up to be. Enjoy your youth.

If I liked something, or multiple somethings on your page, it doesn't mean that I want to trade spit or n*ked pictures with you. It may also mean that I liked a post that someone else reblogged, and it had nothing to do with you whatsoever. That also goes for those of you that hate men, but post cool things. Sorry, not sorry 🤷‍♂️.

Let's have a conversation. I might bore you to death, but then again, I might not. There are many interesting things to talk about, and my interests are wide-ranging, so let's see what we can talk about. I will flirt, but not until you are completely and utterly comfortable and accepting of it. It's a natural form of communication.

I am not here to buy your content, be your slave, or be your Sugar Daddy. I have experience being a Daddy, so if you want to discuss, learn, and even teach, I am accepting of that. Please don't make every conversation solely about that.

Don't add me just to get your numbers up, I couldn't care less about your popularity. You add me, you better have at least liked one of my posts, or messaged me. I currently have Anon Asks off, because some people just can't behave, and like to assume bad things about me. Again, they are dicks.

I love music, so please, please share music with me. I also love movies. I love most movies, but seem to watch a lot of movies that are way older than I am. Their productions are truly wonderful.

Are you still with me? I know it's long and drawn out, so I hope you're not too bored reading this. You'll see certain tags on my page, rural, YouTube, farmland, nature, and various other tags including Dd/lg. Under #me , you guessed it, you'll find me. Under #mine , you'll find art, words, whatever that was created by me.

Don't be afraid to strike up a conversation, I don't bite.....well, unless you're into that sort of thing, and this is a judgment free zone.

[your-dolewhip]

Love and its variations

The difference between "loving someone" and "being in love" comes down to intent and emotion: loving someone is a deep, unconditional bond, whereas being in love is a passionate, sometimes fleeting infatuation. Love is an active choice to care for someone's well-being, while "in love" often centers on butterflies, physical chemistry, and how that person makes you feel.

Greek philosophy categorizes these feelings into distinct types:

Eros: Passionate, sexual, or romantic love.

Philia: Deep, trusting friendship.

Storge: Natural, familial love (between parents and children).

Agape: Unconditional, selfless, and universal love for all people.

Pragma: Enduring love built on commitment and duty.

Now, there are also the distinctions between the words that are said:

Love ya: A casual love, more like a like between friends, or distant family.

Love youuu: A very non-commital form of love where you are loved, but kept at a safe distance.

I love you: The one, the real one you're hoping for. It's the "I want to spend all my time with you" love.

How do you tell someone that you love them, like a friend, family, a fleeting love, or a real, deep love?

[your-dolewhip]

When they leave

Caregivers and/or Daddies face abandonment for doing a good job. Adult littles seek us out to help, guide, comfort, and show them that they are worthy of love. What that means is, that if a Caregiver and/or Daddy does their job too well, they eventually will experience abandonment. That adult little will have their wings patched, bruised knees kissed, and hearts mended with a thread made from love, so they can carry on and fly away to find their forever love. That ultimately means abandonment for us. We are truly happy for our adult little's growth, but would rather be blind than see her with another man. It means we are lonely once again.

[your-dolewhip]

These are the only hands you need.

These hands have accomplished a lot in their time, and they have experienced many exciting things. These hands:

*Were too young to do anything when JFK was assassinated.

*Were clasped in prayer when Martin Luther King, and Bobby Kennedy were assassinated.

*Were gripping the chair as we watched the Astronauts walk on the moon in 1969

*Were roping and herding countless head of cattle in drives.

*Were tilling the soil, planting and harvesting crops on the farm so you could eat.

*Were at the State Fair when Elvis died, oh how the women cried.

*Were at IBM when they revolutionized the world with the Personal home Computer (the PC).

*Were there to witness the birth of three beautiful children.

*Were there to comfort two Centurions as they passed from this world to the next.

*have driven Locomotives and semi trucks and trailers carrying 100s of thousands of pounds of hot steel.

*Were beaten, broken, careless at times, but always loving.

So tell me. When you see some young wannabee stud muffin daddy who hasn't experienced life to the fullest showing you his hands, remember these hands that have lived, and tell me, which hands would you rather have giving you comfort and pleasure?

[your-dolewhip]

and

and

I'm fine, really.

[your-dolewhip]

I hope you find someone that loves and cares for you the way I did.

[your-dolewhip]

Best qualities in a woman ?

Thank you so much for this ask. I thougt long and hard on this, and I hope it's what you were looking for.

In my opinion, the best qualities a woman can have are these:

*Intelligence. There are very few things more attractive than an intelligent woman. You don't need to be an "in your face intelligent woman", meaning you don't need to use big words, and push your education onto me. An intelligent woman is one that knows what battles to fight, and what battles to shrug off. It's no different for men. Have a passion.

*Confidence. I have known women that weren't the most attractive, but had that supreme confidence that made them irresistible. That's sexy.

*Personality. I look for someone that compliments me, in that they are my peer, my teammate in life. Someone that's funny yet serious, adjusting to each situation with awesome fluidity.

*Looks. I know entirely way to many people that are hung up on looks. Sure, we all want to be thought of as beautiful, and we want to be with a beautiful person, but what really is that? I'm attracted to women that are short, tall, fat, skinny, dark hair, light hair, light complexions, dark complexions, big chest, little chest....so on and so on. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, and there is beauty everywhere. You just have to believe that you are that person.

I guess it really all just comes down to this, be you, because that's the best person you can be. That's the person I'll fall in love with. Remember, you can be anything you want....except Batman, I'm reserving that for me.

[your-dolewhip]

Favorite rock band?

Oh my gosh, thank you for this ask. I'm going to list a few of my favorites, because my tastes in music are broad.

Number 1 all time favorite are The Beach Boys. I bought my first album in 1974, and it was theirs. I now have over 50 of their albums.

Maná - I love Mexican music, and Maná is top tier in my book. They have been around a long time, and remain a top band for many, many people.

Frank Sinatra - He's not a rock band, but my gosh, his style is ultra cool.

Bruce Springsteen has long been one of my favorites also. Darkness on the Edge of Town, Brilliant Disguise, Candy's Boy, and many other great ballads.

The Beatles, The Rolling Stones, The Byrds.

Volbeat - wow, what a great sound.

I saw Stevie Ray Vaughn twice in concert, and seriously love his music.

I'm sorry, I got to rambling. I tried to answer your question, I hope that I kinda did. Thank you for this ask.

[your-dolewhip]

Stop, look, enjoy, learn.

Take the time to stop and enjoy the beauty all around you, it's everywhere and in everything. Life is too fleeting, so stop and look at that butterfly flitting around, stop and look at that pretty little flower growing out of the crack in the sidewalk. Just imagine the strength it has to be so brave as to grow where it knows it'll get stepped on and abused.

Enjoy every moment of your life, and if you don't, work towards changing it, be brave, have the strength of a little flower.

[your-dolewhip]

Getting old isn't for the faint at heart romantic.

If I was to offer young adults some advice, it would be, don't get old. Fight it with your last breath.

When you get old, people aren't interested in you. These people didn't see you in your youth, they didn't see that beautiful, vibrant person you were. They don't think of you desiring and wanting to be desired, you're just old. To some, you've always been old. Because of some that grew old but didn't grow up, you get grouped into that creepy old person group, whether you are or not. I'm here to clarify, we're not all creepy old people. We still admire beauty, but we remain respectful because that's how we were raised. We love being adored, but that is an exceedingly rare occurrence for us, because some see us as someone to fawn over them. Growing old, you'll miss getting compliments on how beautiful or handsome you are. You'll miss that a lot.

So, vive la résistance!

In the meantime, why not complement an old folk on their looks, make them feel desirable. It really isn't all about you and your stunning beauty and youth.

[your-dolewhip]

I Hope You Find It

When we said goodbye, I really didn't think it was forever.

I was wrong.

I wander the halls of my heart looking for you.

Am I supposed to hang around and wait forever?

Last words that I said,

But that was nothing but a broken heart talking, darling.

You know it wasn't what I meant,

Call me up, let me know that you got this message that I'm leaving for you.

'Cause I'd hate that you left without hearing the words that I needed you to.

[your-dolewhip]

When love arrives...

Cherish it, worship it, be a part of it. It doesn't happen all the time, and it doesn't happen to everyone.

When love arrives, say: Welcome, make yourself comfortable.

If love leaves, ask her to leave the door open behind her.

Turn off the music, listen to the quiet.

Whisper: Thank you for stopping by.

[your-dolewhip]

Lay your head on my chest....

My favorite thoughts of you, are the ones where you asked to cuddle and lay your head on my chest. I held you, and brushed your hair with my fingers.

[your-dolewhip]

Girls say they want rules but they really don't. They just want someone to care enough to make rules for them.

[your-dolewhip]

Rule number 3

Don't play with people's hearts. It's not a toy, and love isn't a game.

[your-dolewhip]

Remember, that person behind your screen that's making you feel good? They may not be feeling good.

Please remember them.

[your-dolewhip]

So, you want a Daddy?

Here's a quick guide to finding that one and only person that qualifies to be your Caregiver and Daddy.

If they tell you before you ask, that they are a Daddy, um, they probably aren't. The idea of being someone's Daddy is appealing, because many think that it is a sexual thing. It's not. It's actually a security and trust thing. When you, as an adult, regress in to your mental confort age, you don't need some clown taking advantage of, and manipulating you. You are in a very vulnerable state when you are in that place, and you need someone that has your best interests at heart.

Finding a Caregiver and Daddy should be almost treated like a job interview. You definitely don't want to rush it, it shouldn't be a fast process finding the right person. Remember, you as a little actually have all the power here. You hold the key to your heart's door, guard it. Ask, ask, ask and ask a lot of questions. Sure, it may seem like overkill, but if they answer all your questions, and can remain patient, they may make a good Daddy, for it takes a lot of patience and answering questions. You want someone that can be patient with your tantrums, brattiness, and stubbornness. Oh you know that you are.

Remember, this is not based off of being sexual. That doesn't mean that there won't be sexual aspects to your dynamic, but it shouldn't be the main focus. If it is, even for you, you're really not looking for a Dd/lg relationship. You need to figure that out first. Since it's not sexual based, if they are pressuring you to send nudes, have naughty talks and times, they aren't a real Daddy, they're a clown, a manipulator, a perv. Again, that's not to say that after awhile, you don't share intimate times and things, because you can. It just needs to not be what your relationship is based on.

Don't feel bad if you have to fire someone because they weren't who or what they said they were. You, I said it, you are the most important aspect of a relationship, make sure you are safe, respected, and a priority at all times.

Always remember, you and your safety are the priorities.