"I've been examined I was semen, they took a sonogram and saw the image of a demon"
ur local alt trans queer kandi kid dragonfemtboyfailure and all his brain people hiding in fragile mortal flesh
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Most people call me Nebula, you can call me Abel if you're close, or any of my kin names
Transmasc + agender + pangenderspace
He/It/Xe + any space themed neoprounouns or space themed emojiself pronouns. I use eldritch dragon and werewolf vivterms. (Paws instead of hands, talons or claws instead of fingers and nails, scales or fur instead of skin, ect ect)
I'm host of the River of Stars system. Collectively, we go by either River or Droplet for short, and use sol/solar or faun/fauna prns collectively. We're not sure how many people we have specifically, but frequent fronters and prominent members are listed below. We are quoigenic/praesigenic, pluralpunk, and fictive heavy
We have a discord server!!!! Moots please feel free to ask us for the link (we have pluralkit dw)
PJ Masks: Zuri/Lioness, Scorpling and Fennec, Bloodmoon, Trixie the Moon Rabbit
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We have no DNI, but we block liberally. We are anti radqueer, anti proship, pluralpunk, pro endo and pro willo, anti zionist, anti cringe culture, and anti contact for harmful paraphilias. Transandrophobia and transmisogny are both real forms of discrimination. We are radinclus and believe anyone may identify themselves however they wish as long as they are not hurting anyone. Shipcourse is ridiculous and doesn't make any sense so we're not bothering with labels, just know we strongly object to enjoying pedophilic and incestuous ships and lolicon/shotacon content. Please follow your own DNI.
Do not involve us in syscourse, queer discourse, alter/nonhuman discourse, discourse around Hellaverse and its creator, or really any sort of discourse against our will. We do hold stances on these, and discoursers are welcome to interact and follow, but please do not involve us in it.
My only legal diagnosis is autism, but I highly suspect I have some other mental illness/illnesses bouncing around in my head as well. I am not looking for any diagnosis currently for multiple personal reasons.
We switch very quickly and very spontaneously. (Some people have accused us of faking switches in real life for this reason. I don't really get now that means faking but whatever dude)
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You see the gun I have in my profile? That's for Justice Cheese shippers.
i was reading several articles written by random upper-middle-class people about how Kids These Days are too anxious because their parents don't teach them to "deal with discomfort" and coddle them too much, and This Generation uses "trauma" to refer to any mild discomfort and have broadened the words "abuse" and "bullying" too much et cetera
There is a very abundant supply of such articles and a recent one especially annoyed the hell out of me because it (without actually mentioning the idea of disability) repeatedly alluded to accommodating a kid's sensory issues as example of parents being too permissive or failing to teach kids to tolerate discomfort.
That's bullshit because being in tune with your own needs and discomforts sensory wise is so fucking important for being able to adapt and function in the world.
Like, just an example, I got rid of almost every piece of clothing I own that was polyester or a polyester blend and just doing that dramatically improved my life and gave me more ability to cope with stressors, because I figured out that a lot of my sensory issues with clothes came from bad temperature regulation and the scratchy pills that polyester blends make.
"Discomfort tolerance" has never been super helpful as a concept for me. I have no problem tolerating discomfort in the sense of like, not doing anything about the thing that's hurting me. It's just that if I do it for too long, I can't think straight and process what's happening around me and I eventually become so fatigued it feels like I've got a fever, or else become uncontrollably angry.
I think "discomfort curiosity" is way better concept. You feel uncomfortable. What is the feeling like? Where in your body do you feel it? What does your body urge you to do about it? When does it start? What is it responding to? What about that thing makes you feel that way? Feel it...Experiment with it...Dabble in it...Play with it. I say curiosity because curiosity is so closely related to fear and to some extent, disgust. Curiosity is a frontier zone between repulsion and fascination.
Curiosity is an instinct that encourages us toward unfamiliar things, not away from them. It is part of a large landscape of feelings where away-instincts and toward-instincts are blended together.
I think of the difference between curiosity and fear to be like the difference between solitude and loneliness, or like excitement and apprehension. Or, think of exploring an eerie abandoned place, one of the "liminal spaces" the internet speaks of. The place is "eerie" which is closely related to fear, but the "eerieness" shades into becoming a positive stimulus that our instincts are drawn toward. Liminal spaces, for those of us that enjoy them, are "creepy," but they are also "nice" at the same time. And the "creepiness" is part of the "niceness."
And curiosity is sensitivity. It allows for openness and playfulness toward the unknown.
Many humans' relationships with their own urges and instincts are based on domination and punishment. Tyranny over the body by the mind. The goal is to absorb without shock and endure without indulging the urge to seek relief, to reduce your attunement to your body.
But the ability to be "less controlled by" your body's urges is not positive, because your body is providing information about what your needs are. I find that the ability to make reasoned decisions about how and when and why to persist through something painful requires a deeper attunement to the body's instincts, not a greater ability to ignore them.
Stop treating your bodies like they're animals in a cruel experiment to be shocked with electricity until they lay on the floor whimpering in helplessness. It doesn't help.
Also, any article that suggests people are taking bullying too seriously should be launched into the sun because we don't take it nearly seriously enough i think.
hate how I will have a very simple thing (tagging flashing lights is a bare minimum of accessibility) and people crawl outta the fuckin woodworks to tell me how stupid that is like bro
[Image ID: Two Tumblr hashtags which read "like hey guys. people can die from that." and "it isnt stupid people can fucking DIE if you dont tag for it". /End ID]
Tags: please remember epileptics like me. Seizures can kill people at any point and not just from injuries they cause. Literally it’s called sudden unexpected death by epilepsy.
additional tag: disability awareness
the nature center I work at has classrooms of kids and parents with kids coming in all the time, and I am amazed at how adults treat kids and behave around kids.
Not even always the sense of being openly mean to the kids, but in the sense of acting like they must behave rigidly a certain way at all times and that if anything is one minute off schedule or if kids have any unstructured time at all it is the End Of The Fucking World.
So many adults hustling kids from activity to activity, all snippy and harried as though every single thirty minute Scheduled Activity Block is an unmissable appointment and the whole building will blow up if someone is five minutes late to something.
We have these exhibits with animal bones and rocks and pressed flowers and stuff that are clearly placed at child height and the way parents will SNAP at their kids to DON'T TOUCH THAT DON'T TOUCH ANYTHING amazes me.
There is so little tolerance for kids acting silly or just being playful or anything, the adults will act so annoyed and stern and harsh for the littlest things.
In those kids' situation I would be shitting my pants with anxiety all the time, The level of uptightness and intolerance for any little bit of disorder makes me secondhandedly anxious.
hate that guy in videos who’s always yelling at neil. leave him aloooonnnneeee asshat :(((
do you think “don’t disturb wildlife”goes out the window when its a well known troublemaker seal???!!!!!??? is that your excuse for constantly yelling in his face ??!!!!!!!!!!!????? shut up
Here's an idea about why kids are so anxious and depressed all the time...the environments kids are in most of the time are very stressful and don't fulfill their needs for play, rest, proper variety of foods, positive social opportunities, and freedom from fear pain punishment etc
Watched a documentary about abuse and advice one guy said to give children was, "Tell them that if someone is hurting them, to tell someone - and don't just tell one person. Tell as many people as possible, and keep telling as many people as possible until the abuse stops." and i really liked that
Bc so many ppl focus on the idea of telling A Trusted Adult, but even a well-meaning individual can fuck up and let abuse fall through the cracks or not know what to do
Whereas if a child tells LOADS of adults AND other kids, there's far less opportunity for an abuser to do damage control
Consistently telling their story and spreading it around disempowers the abuser to control and coerce the flow of information, or to utilise gaps and weaknesses in systems of reporting or welfare to isolate the child
Just really good advice. Not suprised I don't hear it more often.
Hi everyone. I am a long-time chronic homeless trans woman in my mid-30s. I have serious cognitive disabilities and have never in my life held a paying job for even a short time. It isn't funny or fun to me, UNFORCH.
At the end of the month I'm moving, and after the move I will have levels of medical access that I haven't seen in quite some time. I will be between four and six medications, for my HRT, ADHD, severe agoraphobia, and so on. I will also be pursuing dental work at least to the point of getting me out of pain if not yet able to comfortably eat, physiotherapy, and maybe some of psychotherapy.
Because I am a trans woman with immigration-related legal documentation issues, I have spent years being discriminated against by medical gatekeepers. This will no longer be a problem for me next month, but I am still potentially looking at a medication budget of like $100 a month without even getting into all the service stuff I need.
Due to discrimination as a transitioning teenager I was not able to finish high school and this has compounded a lot of my other life problems. Once I am housing-stable and capable of functioning in the real world (which I don't think will take more than a couple months, tbh) I'm going to be pursuing a university education.
This all sounds like it would be super expensive but fortunately I am soon to be in a country these things are not free, but not particularly expensive either, and I am not expecting intense institutional barriers other than the financial ones of having so many of these expenses adding up. But it is an expense. You understand.
$2000 will put me in a great position to do all of this while $1000 will get the ball rolling and every bit between here and there helps as well.
Please shovel money at me I am not really able to be humble about this right now.
Nothing like scrolling Tumblr and seeing ads of "exfoliating the dark brown skin off" 😅🤣😭 this reminds me that one Chinese commercial about the Black guy getting shoved in the laundry and coming out a white man 🤣
You People Are All Dojng “Art Fight” But I Am Doing “Art Nothing” Which I Invented Myself And Its Basically Where I Dont Draw Anything Because I Dont Want To. #ArtNothing
i think if you showed minecraft or fortnite to a little medieval peasant boy he would probably start writing parodies of church hymns. it’s human nature
imo the way you feel about groups it's fully socially acceptable to hate (like children or polyamorous people, among others) is the canary in the coal mine for underlying bigoted beliefs. if you're only supportive of marginalized groups when it's cool to do so, probably you don't actually care about marginalized groups, you care about other people thinking you care
there are 1 trillion people in the notes of this post saying "yeah! i mean i hate kids but they should have rights!" you hate kids? you mean you hate all members of an oppressed group solely for their membership in this group? right. why do you hate them? because they can't take care of themselves and need help? because they don't understand social norms and can be "annoying" and disrespect boundaries as a result? because they can be messy? because they don't understand things in the same way as you do? that's awesome. how do you feel about disabled people btw
Please share if possible to raise awareness. Sorry if this is off topic.
There is currently extremely deadly flooding in West Africa.
This is in part due to climate change messing up the balance of the dry and rainy seasons.
The floods have a ripple effect and are also causing landslides and other disasters.
People have died, and will continue to do so.
Here are some news Articles:
The Guardian
RFI
The Sun Nigeria
PM News Nigeria
Here are some charities you can donate to to help:
Nigeria: The Borgen Project
Ghana: NADMO
Côte d'ivoire: Disaster Relief
Togo and Benin are also severely affected. Please consider donating if you’re able or helping spread the word.
I have a slightly longer post on my blog that I'll be updating if anyone needs more information.
Thank you for sharing! If you wanted to donate to a cause, consider one of these!
