yourself as love; a male body posi life

a male body positivity blog to bring light to the unseen, enheard, and unreported effects men face with their bodies in society and personal life as seen through me

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remember

just because you’re not a female doesn’t mean you can't take pride in the way you look. just because you're not a female doesn’t mean you can't express emotion. just because you're female doesn't mean you can't seek help for mental illness. just because you’re not female doesn't mean you can't care. its okay to care about how you look. its okay to talk about how you feel. its okay to care.

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#MaleBodyPositivity

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why

forever you will be judged, and forever, you will judge. 

how does it feel? how does it feel when someone is looking at you? are you thinking the same thing? 

why, as a whole, do we judge? to make ourselves feel better? 

or is it to hide our own insecurities?

in society today, we fear what we can’t become, what we limit as unreachable, and we judge those who reach our undoables. we judge those who’ve yet to accomplish markers as good as our own. we judge people for how they look, and for how they sounds. their ideas, their personality. we judge it all.

my answer: to shift the negative attention off of ourselves, to relieve our minds from the inescapable self doubting thoughts. because its much easier to critique someone you can’t change.

instead of thinking about how people need to change to conform to your wants, think of how you can change to except people for their differences, or to not, your choice. 

                                 change has qualities, those for both negative and positive       sides.                       

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plus size; embrace it

from personal experience, being above average in height and weight presents its difficulties. clothes fit weird, are hard to come by, and by the time you do, your fashion sense has already shifted.

where i find comfort: confidence. not fitting the social norms for body expectations can be, well, tough. it can tear at you and lower your confidence and self esteem. i’m here to tell you that confidence speaks for itself. once you establish confidence, the rest of your life begins to follow suit. 

it wasn’t until college that i find my confidence to present myself as the way i am, as me. i wear what i want, i talk how i want, and act so as well. why waste time being the person society wants you to be when you can be the person you want society o remember you as. 

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stop to stop

if you stop treating a beast like a beast, it will likely stop acting like a beast. so if you stop treating gender norms like gender norms, they’ll soon stop being gender norms. they key to stopping is stopping.

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the choice

it is in our genetic code the type of people we like.  genetics play into your sexual preference, gender, and looks more than they decide whether you’re left or right handed. this will not be a body positivity page that puts down people who seek sexual relationships for the preference of body type, because in actuality, that is okay. we are designed with ideals in our mind.

this is a page that encourages support. a page that teaches the differences between not being excepted and not being interested. most people have types, whether they admit it or not, another story. in those types, unfortunately there’s a trend. don’t shame your body because the person you like doesn't share similar feelings. learn to accept that you are different, and you have the control. it’s not wrong to want to change, it is though wrong to change for others. change to be happy, change to be you, the you you've always dreamt of being, and never settle. if you find yourself struggling to change, you don’t want the change enough. argue all you want that you're trying, but the only person who can change you is you, so be the difference you want to see. 

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me, but why

as long as i can remember, i've always been seen as the bigger kid, by family, by friends, and by my mirror. i was a bigger kid.

i struggled. i didn’t want to be the big kid. growing up under the constant mindset and reminders from my peers that my size was different, that my size mad eye stick out, either too tall or overweight up until biology caught up with the rest of them.

throwing up your meals, starving yourself, extreme diets, intense workouts, what was it for? i wanted to fit the scope I was being viewed under.

i wanted to be like the others so badly that i hid myself, from myself. looking back at old pictures, all that is seen is my body, but not me.

looking back resembles a sad story, a story of no self acceptance, no self love, no self respect. looking back is what now keeps me moving forward.

the phrase don't look back rarely resonates with me. looking back is what drives me. looking back is what encourages me to keep making positive advancements in my life.

find what makes you you. glorify it. be confident. take your differences and make them strengths. use your strengths to fix your wrongs, and you soon to will become happy.

this is not intended for petty, for your acceptance, or your apologies. this post is to encourage to set an example. just because the trend line doesn’t match your waist size, just because your shirt says X-Large or XX- Large, just because your smile is crooked, your stomach isn’t flat, or any other insecurity poses as a threat to your well being, doesn't mean you need to change, physically. change your views. refuse to conform to the people of the common place

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reaffirming thoughts

it’s as simple as this: women are the only ones afflicted by body shaming, by eating disorders, by self acceptance issues, by emotion.

if you're reading this, if you're struggling, you are not the only one.

its okay to be in touch with your emotions

it’s okay to let go

it’s okay to not be okay

get help. don't suffer just because society says you should be, a matter of fact, don’t let society dictate anything you decide to do.

you have to learn to be confident enough to accept your flaws.

you have to learn that society will always view you through the lens you are most afraid of being viewed by.

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the difference

body positivity movements can often seem, well, pushy. advocating myself, it’s okay to have a type, yes, but it’s not okay to make someone feel ashamed of their body because of your type or your wants. yes, i get it. we are attracted to certain people, it’s natural instinct, being an asshole isn’t. the difference is you can still associate with people who aren’t your type, conversations don’t have to lead to more than anything than conversations, that’s a personal choice.

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Boys w/ A+ bodies

fat boys

boys with stretch marks

short boys

boys with skin conditions

boys with colorful eyes 😍

boys with brown eyes!!!

boys who are short and scrawny

boys who are short and chubby

boys who are tall! and lanky

boys who are tall and thicc (excuse my language)

really, every boy has an amazing body, it’s so rad watching your guy friends get older and their voices get deeper and their chests get broader and they get haircuts and woaH!!

boys really need more positivity posts cause these guys need to know how handsome they really are 💕

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tbh i feel like any sort of “radicalism” the original body-positive movement represented was lost when it was subsumed into capitalist marketing and became an easy cash grab. the definition of it changed from “women unapologetically asserting their right to exist outside of societal norms and reclaiming the essence of their personhood despite aggressive pressure to self-hate” into “don’t worry! everyone is fuckable by men if they just stay positive!”

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🖕🏼

how to get a beach body: put on a swimsuit and go to the beach

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Making fun of a guy’s dick size is body shaming. You can’t be pro-body positive, yet shame a guy for the size of his dick.

We can’t tread on egg shells when it comes to female body types, but completely disrespect male bodies. That’s not how being pro-body positive works.