may i have positivity for an anorexic yuri plisetsky who was(and still is) a trans boy? i understand if your requests are closed and/or you just don't want to do this one <3 i was anorexic then and now and its a pain in the ass, the constant thoughts of lacking self worth and all that junk really gets to me. if you could could you could you fit in some posi vibes for effeminate boys? thank you so much :)
Hey, Yuri! (@sleepyyhanzo)
I’m really sorry you have to deal with something like anorexia. I know that having that is really, really hard.
I want you to know that you absolutely have worth, because everyone has worth just for being a human being. Mental illnesses like anorexia can make you feel like you’re not worth anything, that you’re a waste of space or somehow worse than anyone else. But that is absolutely not true. It’s just a lie that your illness tells you. No one is a waste of space. Everyone deserves to be here, no matter who they are or what their body looks like. You are no exception.
I know it’s hard to believe things like this when society is constantly bombarding us with the opposite message, but I really want to stress that in the long run, things like physical importance aren’t important. Your worth as a human can’t be measured by that, or by what you eat. Your worth as a human is infinite and not conditional. You don’t need to torture yourself, to hurt your body and deprive yourself of things you need, in order to be a good person. Self-care is not selfish, and surviving and taking care of yourself are always noble goals. All bodies are okay. All people need food to survive, and that’s okay too.
If it’s possible for you, it may be a good idea to seek help for this issue (from a therapist, or one isn’t available, even just a trusted friend). I know sometimes people with anorexia feel like they don’t deserve to recover, or aren’t sick enough to recover, but those are lies your illness tells you as well – everyone deserves to live a mentally healthy life, and deserves to recover no matter how sick they are. Recovery is definitely achievable, and it would make me so incredibly happy to see you be able to live life to the fullest! I’m not saying you’ll be able to fix things for yourself instantly, but a few steps in the right direction can go a long way.
Additionally, as a feminine trans guy myself, I know it can be sort of confusing to be effeminate and transmasculine at the same time. But I want you to know with absolute certainty that being effeminate doesn’t invalidate your gender at all! The world is filled with masculine cis boys, feminine cis boys, masculine trans boys, and feminine trans boys – gender is a complicated mix of internal feelings and outward presentation, and any combination of those things is possible and okay! The most important criteria for being male is that you have an internal sense that your gender is “boy” and that being called that is what feels right for you. Boys can be as feminine or as masculine as they want! As long as you feel like a boy, you’re a boy, period.
I really hope things look up for you soon, Yuri! You’re amazing, and I only want good things for you! - Mod Victor