That loving feeling.
How do I know the difference between when it’s really over and when the discomfort that I’m feeling is an indicator that there’s work to be done.. I tend to lean more towards the decision that it’s just not working anymore, rather than looking deeper into the cause of my emotions/ discomfort. I’m missing that loving, passionate feeling I had in the beginning and I don’t know how to handle this kind of lacking emotion when the relationship has been so consistently “good” and “comfortable”.
“that loving feeling” = “infatuation”
“infatuation” = “to be in a state of unreasonable, short-lived passion”
“fatuous” = “deluded & self-deceiving”
When infatuated, we are literally “out of our minds” and the brain is drenched in hormones and chemicals like endorphins & oxytocin and produces irresistible feelings.
Infatuation is temporary. Yet, “temporary” can range from days to years. The obstacle I’m facing right now is the inevitable let-down when that “loving feeling” seems to be lost.
I’ve come to think that I’m just so in love with the feeling of falling in love. Maybe I’m just not the settling type. But truthfully, infatuation is NOT lasting. Maybe something even better will come if I’m willing to dig deeper levels of this relationship, which is deep under the surface. But the next question is if I even want this relationship to keep going.
