One of the best ways to build your sexual self confidence is by learning what you like and don’t like. This means being totally honest with yourself and not apologizing for it.
One's sexual confidence and sexuality is rooted in having a better understanding of yourself, getting to know yourself on a more intimate level can help you build a healthier sexual self-esteem.
Before we can share with our partners what we like and what we don't like, it’s important that we get to know ourselves first.
The first relationship starts with self, and if that relationship has issues or challenges, there is a chance that our relationships with others will be affected in one way or another, whether they be platonic or romantic relationships. Those issues can stem from traumas, cultural, religious or social norms and biases, which may or may no longer align with our own views, belief, norms and values.
The first step is to take stock of your feelings.
This requires one to tap into memories, past experiences, and feelings when topics around sexuality come up and learn to process them.
Journaling about your personal experiences with sex, whether it’s about conversations you’ve had or sexual acts you’ve engaged in, can allow you to gain a 360-view of why you may not feel confident while having sex.
However, if doing this becomes too uncomfortable for you, or you are struggling to get to the bottom of it on your own, it might be a good idea to connect with a professional to help you uncover where this lack of confidence is coming from.
At times, people may need support from therapist, counselors or psychologists, and there is no shame or judgement asking for assistance. Addressing the issues, setting boundaries and communicating them in an effective way are areas where professionals can provide guidance.
