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[cannibalchicken]

[vanilla-bean-buttercream]

On my hands and knees begging adults to allow children to engage in risk play.

And by risk play I don't mean handing them a gun and playing Russian Roulette.

I mean like climbing trees, getting so sick spinning on the swing they throw up, balancing on the curb, sitting in the mud, walking on slippery surfaces, building half ass ramps to ride their bike over, standing on rocks, or anything that involves a smidgen of confidence and out of the box thinking that could result in injury.

Obviously like watch your kids and such, but when we talk about the fun of being an 80s or 90s kid, it's not just talking about CDs and Walkmans or not having iPads. It's about how kids today were robbed of critical learning and experience skills we were allowed to have.

Playgrounds disappearing, helicopter parents, and sue culture really destroyed a child's development in the United States, and I think it's about time we as adults recognize that, because the kids sure have.

[just7frogsinapeoplesuit]

You know what happens to kids who don't get to take reasonable risks? They never learn how to gauge safety or control their bodies in risky situations.

A kid who never climbs a tree becomes an adult who falls off a ladder because they don't intuitively know to keep 3 points of contact when climbing.

A kid who never skins their knees launching off a swingset becomes an adult who shatters an arm because they never learned how to break a fall.

Kids who are allowed to take risks become safer adults.

[just7frogsinapeoplesuit]

This crossed my dash again, so here's a more thorough list of things risk play is necessary for:

- Developing pain tolerance & an understanding of which types/intensities of pain are "okay" and which need immediate medical attention

- Calibrating the inner ear (sense of balance) and learning how the body reacts to experiencing different things, essential to learning to control the body in unexpected situations

- Developing reflexes and subconscious safety instincts (e.g. protectively throwing up your hands when an object flies toward your face)

- Normalizing getting hurt so the first reaction to an injury is just to treat it (and not to have a fearful emotional meltdown)

- Learning how to treat and heal from injuries (beginnings of self-care)

- Developing appropriate levels of fear around various activities, desensitizing fear around doing harmless things and establishing a fear response for actions that caused an injury. This is key to properly gauging risk in new situations.

Additionally, the reason it's so essential to mess around and get hurt as a kid is not just because it's a critical developmental stage, but also because kids' bodies are growing and naturally resistant to major injuries. A 3rd grader can get launched off a bike onto the pavement and only sustain a few scrapes and bruises that will heal in a few days, while someone who's 30 would likely pull or sprain something (or worse) and take weeks to heal.

If you are someone who grew up not being allowed to take risks it is likely you have a low pain tolerance, fear surrounding physical activities, slow reflexes, and poor judgment. The good thing is that it's never too late to learn! Our brains are very malleable, so if you missed out on this stuff as a kid now is the time to go climb a tree, go on a hike with unstable footing, or join a casual sports team. Just start small and work your way up, since your body won't be as resilient as it was when you were 9 :)

[vanilla-bean-buttercream]

Your additions have tickled my brain in the right way. Thank you for your contribution to the discussion!

[catchymemes]

[bizlybebo]

i feel like being in a fandom long-term has a very specific repetitive cycle that kind of looks like this

[valtsv]

vampires bite your neck because it's sexy but also so you don't see their faces when they're biting you and start laughing hysterically

[valtsv]

person being bitten: *getting really into it, maybe even falling in love a little bit*

the vampire:

[0ruka]

The " A whole new woooooorld " bit played in my head

[0ruka]

[slfcare]

good things to pay attention to more often

the color of trees

clouds and how they look different throughout the day

the different colors the mornings can have. sometimes it's an orange hue and sometimes pink and sometimes it's too misty to tell

pretty color schemes in random places (the trees and your neighbors wooden patio and the color of their car)

the states of the vehicles passing you by, dents and scratches and the different trinkets suspended from their rearview mirrors

the sound of silence

the shadows the lights cast in your home, like how sunset looks different than sunrise, and the shadows the sun casts look different than those of your lamps and candles

pretty details in buildings and houses like certain types of windows or doorknobs or archways

the movement of things in the wind. flags, leaves, flowers, people's hair and coats

[expressions-of-nature]

by Julia Shumlyaeva

[0ruka]

Y dijeron

Con amor no es suficiente

Con amor no detienes el dolor

Por que el dolor es parte de 

Es parte de algo inevitable

Y muchas veces injusto

Como todo lo que toca a veces vivir

Y dijeron

Con amor no es suficiente

Con amor no dejan de sentirlo

Y es verdad

No es eso lo que estoy buscando

Aunque quisiera que sirviera

Pero no tengo más opciones

Y es lo único que llega

Y dijeron

Con amor no es suficiente

Y lo creo

Porque no puedo ignorar toda la historia

Ni todas las batallas

Ni los ataques a media noche

Porque todo vuelve en algún momento

Y dijeron

Con amor no es suficiente

Y sí, yo sé que no

Pero no quiero que lo sientas vacío

No lo digo para que te calles

No lo digo para cumplir con algo

Lo digo porque es lo único que me queda

Algo que te diga "te veo y lo veo"

Algo que te diga "te veo y comprendo"

Y dijeron

Con amor no es suficiente

Y sí, no es suficiente

Pero sí es necesario

Porque parte de él ayuda a seguir avanzando

Parte de el está en las cosas que te gustan o las que quieres conocer

Parte de el está en las personas que están en el camino

De las que acompañan y sostienen

De las que cuidan y pelean

No es suficiente

Pero sí necesario

En un mundo como este

El amor no es suficiente

Pero sí necesario

[0ruka]

Reasons why I have watched a horror movie so far

- An actress edit in which she looked very hot + wanted to know more about that random scene I saw of the trailer

- A song of the movie score I added to my playlist without knowing it belonged there (got it stuck today)

Kinda curious to see what can I add later

[queerdnp]

[thenightgaunt]

Like the guy said. Sometimes the things you need to do to heal might feel silly, but don’t let that stop you.

Heal yourself.

[thesaltofcarthage]

This is so beautiful and affirming. 

[geopsych]

When you’re taking a video of the flowers because the chimes sound nice and a squirrel runs right by your feet

[letsby]

“Made you look!”

[allegedvampire]

Men will literally work at the Evil Scientist Building and help create and start the World Destroying Doomsday Device but then blame a 15 year old when said doomsday device turns them into an Evil Science Experiment

[reactionimagesdaily]

[reactionimagesdaily]

[0ruka]

Pls 😩🙏

[0ruka]

cerrando los ojos y recordando escenas de otros años.

un collage de volantines en el cielo en la tarde

[0ruka]