I unfortunately stumbled across this blog by chance, I saw this page on an ace positivity instagram page explaining why we still need pride and how there’s still a lot of acephobes in the world. I read some of this blogs comments and posts from OP (Lovely-leabean) thinking that maybe the instagram page was taking what the OP (Lovely-leabean) said out of context, and I wanted to see for myself. Only to find things like this on their page. At first I was frustrated at having my identity so easily erased, called irrelevant, and slandered, just as so many LGBTQ+ people experienced in the past. Especially on pride month to find something like this, it really upset me. Pride month was started by trans women of color who were sex workers, asexuals, bisexuals, lesbians, and gays during the Stone Wall riots. Everyone fought so hard for this community, and made real progress, but not one of us should ever sink into complacency. This blog was my reminder.
There will always be acephobes in the world. I can’t help that, however I can help educate those who chose to understand the other side of things. One of Lovely-Leabean’s arguments, or statements rather, as far as I’m aware, is that asexuals are pedophiles. It’s not only blatantly wrong, but also willfully ignorant. I understand nothing I can say will change this person’s mind, however I’d like to use their page as an example to other people that acephobes still exist in real time. This is also the person that (as far as I’m aware) stole from LGBTQ+ artists, because they were so far in the mindset of hurting asexual people, they also hurt their own people.
So one of the things I’d like to address is the anon comment, “humans are meant to have sex, die”. Firstly, that’s inaccurate. And secondly, I'm not quite sure what they’re trying to say. Are they saying that humans are made to have sex and reproduce? Therefore aces are unnatural, or not real because humans were physically made to reproduce? In which case their statements would also apply to lesbians and gay people, or anyone else whose in a same sex relationship (who all also can’t reproduce). Or are they saying that humans are made to have sex, because it’s pleasurable? Everyone has different levels of pleasure when it comes to sex, because not everyone enjoys things the same. Think of it like cake. Some people love cake to the point they’re having it every other day, and some people can go months without it and be fine. If your response to this metaphor is ‘but everyone likes sex! Sex isn’t cake!’ You’re right! Sex isn’t cake, but the point I made seemed to have gone over your head. Continue to reread it until you understand, if possible reread it from different perspectives. Also, I do believe there’s a lot more to life than sex, and dying.
The second thing I will point out is the fact anon said, ‘aces are disgusting and completely gross’. Please explain how, again I’m not sure what the argument is here other than outright bigotry. Most asexuals are literally doing nothing… how is the lack of sex and exchanging bodily fluids with another person disgusting?
The final thing anon said was, “Like imagine being such a fucking incel”. Those of you who don’t know, incels are ‘members of an online subculture who define themselves as unable to find a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one’. Firstly, I identify as an asexual, and my loving boyfriend supports me and loves me in ways I didn’t expect or thought I’d deserve. So, I’m living proof of an Ace who isn’t an incel. Fun fact, almost all aces aren’t incels. I’m sure there’s one or two out there who are, but the majority of us aren’t. You’re saying that aces (are aros) identify this way because they can’t find a romantic or sexual partner. It’s sort of like saying how lesbians identify as lesbians because they can’t find a man, which we all know to be untrue. It’s the same situation.
And finally the acephobic OP, who says, “Ikr, extremists really got some fucked up ideas”. Which was, perhaps the strangest reply comment I’ve ever seen. It doesn't really match up with what anon said, it’s as if they meant to reply to a different comment but messed up and replied to this one instead. If I fully understood what they were trying to say, I’d be able to discuss this like an adult, however the longer I read this small interaction the less I understand about it in general. So, instead I’ll cover the main point everyone else has already covered. How asexuals are not pedophiles. OP claims to have found ace flags in pedophiles’s blogs and pages, however I’ve yet to see proof. And if there was some, that small minority does not speak for the rest of us! Sort of like how there are pedophilic lesbians online that don’t speak for the entire community. By doing a quick google search I actually found more pedophilic stuff on lesbians than I did asexuals. Which I understand that a very small percent of lesbians are pedophiles, but the fact is pedophiles exist in every community and sexual orientation. If you condemn asexuals for have pedophiles in the community (which I have yet to see in all honesty), you’d also have to do it for every other community and sexualities because they exist everywhere.
If someone would like, I’ve written many papers on asexuality, and have also studied this in depth, so I can give a full length essay on asexuality including why they’re real, and why we need ace allies. Thanks for the read, happy pride month to everyone, and remember to stay safe! I also heard a few bigots are threatening to steal things, (it’s not the straights ™ this time, it’s actually other members of the community we were supposed to be able to rely on). Keep a close eye on your things, and I’ll see you all at pride, I’ll be waving my ace flag proudly with a huge smile on my face, because it’s my first pride!!!! :Dc
Example of my brief search:
Edit: I will say it once more. A majority Lesbians and asexuals are NOT pedophiles. I’m trying to format my argument in a way OP will understand, that’s all.
romaincrisis
janainaart
origamiaround
gummygunk
areudirty
baratheonpilled
prguitarman
jbbartram-illu
andulkaphoto
