I’ve never met a so called male feminist who didn’t seem like he was going to rape a bitch. Look at the president of Canada for example, he has a rapey face. Seriously. I also feel that male feminists are generally creepy, manipulative, and boring. I have the same distaste for male feminists that I have for that certain brand of left libertarian (ostensibly part of my own tribe) who seems to only believe in libertarian principles because he wants some sort of deviant behavior he (it’s always a he for some reason) to be sanctioned by law.
I did have a single male feminist friend in university (name changed here to John), he was in the year before mine. We met in my senior year when I had accumulated a fair amount of fame/respect with my professors and with many of my fellow students. I sorta liked John at first because we both played minecraft and had similar ideas about our field, at the time he was dating this cute little asian girl and they had been together for a few years, I also enjoy the company of cute asian girls so I thought we were a natural fit. My girlfriend at the time (a huge tumblr style feminist) could tell that he was a shithead, I thought he was alright, and I tried to integrate John into my friend group. I realized after I met him that he was probably using me for this (it was made especially apparent when he never talked to me again after I finished university and began a long period of unemployment).
After a while I noticed that something was subtly off about him. First he told me about all the women's studies courses he had been taking, I thought this was a joke, he started talking about how much of a feminist he was, I thought this was a joke too, especially if he was talking to me. It was an open secret throughout the course of my education that some of my politics may have been a little bit reactionary. John could really speak the language of feminism well though, when we talked about trannies, abortion, race, rape etc he had all the right politically correct opinions. I remember him apologizing for being white at one point. He told me how many chicks he had fucked, and I was genuinely impressed that the number was (way) higher than mine at the time. John was also adamantly against the concept of children and marriage, had a preoccupation with proving his uniqueness, he would also spend a ton of time shitting on his classmates, especially the men but often the women as well.
There were two events that really started to alienate me from John. The first was how he treated his partner. Now I’m all for treating women like shit; honestly I love it; there was nothing I liked more than making tumblr girl beg for my dick, railing her from behind, grabbing a fistfull of her hair, spanking her, and calling her a dirty slut. But the rest of the time, we cared about each other, tremendously. I would have never said anything to denigrate her to my friends while we were dating. John though, he talked shit about his girlfriend to me constantly, they had been together for over a year, and she was obviously deeply in love with him. He had no intention whatsoever of continuing a relationship with her after he was done school, and was obviously leading her on, he thought this was funny. He only really expressed some ‘remorse’ to me when I pointed out how cruel it was to do this to her. He also tried to justify his shady faggy ways by saying that she was actually ‘sorta a bad person’. At one point John also confided in me that he had cheated on her. I didn’t really care too much at the time, I was shocked a little bit, but I was too caught up in my own depressions, anxieties etc.
There’s a part of my heart that always feels bad for women - especially the cute ones, or the hopeless ones. To a degree I think it’s important to be a gentleman. I don’t know why really, maybe I’ve ‘internalized’ the idea that women are the weaker sex (they really are, in terms of physical strength, musculature, bone density etc). But I don’t think I’ve ever talked shit about a girl I was currently fucking like that. Generally though I can tolerate the despicable actions of my friends - so long as they are loyal; this brings us into my second point.
I finally stopped talking to John when he betrayed my trust. I had had a bad day and I sent him a rather desperate sounding text message about it, hoping that I could confide in him a bit about how shit something had gone. He showed it to the girl who was sitting next to him allegedly he laughed at my suffering. He thought that his girl was his friend, turns out she was pretty sick of him. However she had been my girlfriends room-mate the previous summer, so she told her that this guy was talking shit about her boyfriend, and of course my girlfriend told me. It really disgusted me that he had expected me to hold all his gross secrets but he had taken the first chance he had to betray me for points with a girl? That was the last straw, and for the rest of the year I definitely kept him at more of a distance.
If you’re a female reading this blog post - send me nudes - also don’t date male feminists they will treat you like shit, they will try to ‘liberate’ you sexually, trust me you aren’t really attracted to those greasy looking small dicked faggots anyways. I have met many toxic males but I don’t think I have ever met someone as sly and deceptive as a man pretending to care about women's issues.
If you’re male. I would advise you to stay away from male feminists as well. If there is a ‘brotherhood’ that exists between all men, they have betrayed it. I don’t really believe anyone can act outside of their own self interest - I’m a capitalist. There is real value to males remaining cohesive, if a man has betrayed that cohesion, you have to question what’s in it for him.
Lately I’ve been talking to a very cute Korean girl. I’ve been really digging her vibe, I’m not entirely sure what I want to do with her yet. It seems like we share a set of values, but I don’t really know if we have any of the same interests, it would be really nice to have someone to watch tv with all summer tho.