Some midnight thoughts
The patronus debate. How exhausting it is to hear that two same patronus means obsession, but only on some occasions (*cough* only when you want it to be *cough*).
The patronus is a representation of self, right? The pure, happy side of yourself. When you conjure a patronus, you need to think of a happy moment. Why do people forget that PURE and OBSESSION don't get along? If the patronus is something pure, it can't be obsession.
And it can change once you have eternal love for someone.
Why the hell are we all talking about romantic love? Platonic love is as worthy and as powerful. Nevertheless, why use such a heteronormative concept for the patronus? The gender of those patronus shouldn't even matter, especially not in a fandom that is so against Rowling for being a TERF and using all those stereotypes about genders in the books.
Let's say Tonk's patronus is female. Why would it be female? Isn't one of her main headcanons is that she's nonbinary? What if the goddamn wolf was a male, just like Remus? Would that be shocking? Would that be obsession, too?
Snape's patronus is female, so what? Let's assume it changed to be the same as Lily. What's the problem with it? They don't "match" each other because they're not hetero? Who cares. It shows that Snape's only happiness comes from Lily. I've never understood why it meant obsession to some people.
Maybe Snape's patronus had always been a doe, for all we know. Snape's gender identity is something very interesting. What if he was NOT (shocking) a heterosexual man? The fandom is always very quick to say who's LGBTQ and who's not depending on who they like and who they don't like, but that's for another debate.
What if Snape was a transfeminine? Demigirl? Etc.?
What if Snape hates male energy?
He prefers the company of women, that's canon. Maybe he feels more like himself when surrounded by female energy. That wouldn't be surprising if his patronus would be female then.
What I mean to say is why the fuck does the gender of the patronus matters when it comes to "love or obsession".
I personally don't understand how I think that Snape's patronus being a doe to represent his love for Lily is so sweet, that he never stopped caring for her, but at the same time, some people think it's the absolute nastiest shit they've ever seen.
What if Snape's patronus was a stag? They'd definitely call it creepy. Snape is such a sexual beast!
The problem people have with Snape's patronus is not the patronus itself. It's that it is Snape.
