growing little by little.

LOA • Self Care • aesthetic🦋

[rotting-stargirl]

Rico Nasty 💨

[sverate]

[sapphling]

the more time you spend in active recovery from any given self destructive behavior or addiction the more you understand the common conception of the "relapse" as defined by a broken "streak" to be, like, so bad for one's own well-being that it would be funny if it weren't resulting in just a lot of misery and death

[the-peoples-puppy]

I told my girlfriend to think of quitting vaping as training her endurance by seeing how long she can run before she gets tired, then doing it again and hoping to go further next time. She said it really helped her.

[scarletsaphire]

This is the stages of change model, with each circle being a part of the process of growth. You'll notice how relapse is not a failing of the model, or a set back, but an active step in continuing to grow and change. Everytime you relapse, you learn something; maybe a certain time of year is difficult for you. Maybe certain people push you back into the habit. Maybe your other coping skills/replacement habits didn't work how you wanted and you need to strengthen them, or develop new ones. Maybe it's not quite as clear cut and you need to spend the time figuring out what exactly went wrong so you can catch it next time. It doesn't matter the exact lesson, but it's part of the process.

[diorfacegallery]

DFG

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

the right people won’t make you feel like you have to be constantly be giving to be worthy of their time/energy

[icaseybaybee]

[sevenincheels]

[pradame]

“You will never feel ready because ready isn’t a feeling, it’s a decision.”

[04k96]

Via

[dearblackwoman]

Drink something warm. Put on a song that feels like a hug. Remind yourself that you have survived every hard day so far. Every single one.

[dearblackwoman]

The right people will find you. Stop twisting yourself into shapes trying to be findable to the wrong ones.

[happinessasthebaddest]

DOMINIQUE 💕

[thevirgodoll]

[resimdekigozyasi]

[p-nkgod]

[dearblackwoman]

Weekend reminder: Rest is not a reward. It's a requirement.

[pigmenting]

something i wish i had realized earlier: you can write poems on the same subject more than once. you can write, paint, draw the same thing over and over if you want to. you can spend your whole life making art about oranges. i think i always felt this pressure to get it right the first time like i couldn’t go back and use that inspiration again. but you can. you can go back and revisit it. you can pick up the conversation again and again if you have more to say.