Hie! I just wanted to share this : in my complex there are these guys who have been staring a lot at me. Since four years. Especially, 'main guy' who was my past crush then soon he started to stare at me too- craning his neck, me minding my business then looking up to find him looking at me and it was so intense I immediately look back down.
Then another guy in his friend group called 'secondary guy', even he stares me heck ton. In the absence of main guy, too.
Recently, when I passed by their friend group in which main guy and s.guy was there too, the guys began to hoot. Getting loud. Indication that someone was being teased, but who?
And then I got to know by another person that m.guy is actually morally bankrupt because he'd show off nudes received by a girl to his friends. And would joke about rate of a woman for one night.
The fact that m.guy does stare but he doesn't really linger nor does s.guy but they stare fucking a lot.
And recently bro of s.guy (same age as s.guy and main guy btw) called my name confidently while I was standing to ask for the something near me to be picked. Idk it's surprising because why did he know my name?
what i'm getting about the main guy:
there is overall hesitation - he is finding it difficult to move on completely. rather than diving into, for example, a fully open, romantic connection, his current intentions are focused more so on self-protection and healing his own emotional wounds. he could be deeply interested in you (something about you is very captivating to him), but he is completely emotionally unavailable right now.... his intense staring might be driven by strong underlying feelings, but these internal wounds of his are creating a barrier to taking action. looking at you might trigger a mix of intense attraction and give him a painful reminder of his own emotional wounds or his fear of rejection. he might feel stuck too. like he can't fully move on from you either, but he is simultaneously terrified to move forward.
it seems like he intends to keep interacting with you calmly, keeping his emotions balanced and logical rather than letting them become chaotic or overwhelming. he is using emotional control and a calm exterior to mask or process a painful hurt he is feeling. it looks like he's a man struggling with inner conflict, likely torn between his own desires, a lingering attachment to the past, and a defensive approach to relationships... because i see here strong feelings of guardedness, potential mistrust, or a tendency to withhold his true intentions. his initial fiery passion or impulsiveness he might have shown to you in the past has cooled. and now he may feel burnt out, frustrated, or unable to take the action he wants to, and therefore also feel impatient, aimless, or that the chase has lost its thrill?
so, your connection seems currently burdened by this emotional baggage, his avoidant behaviour + emotional immaturity, and potential dishonesty. rather than offering you genuine emotional vulnerability, his feelings are heavily tied to regret (perhaps of how things have played out in the past up until now), an unwillingness to be completely honest with you or himself, and a desire to protect himself from the reality of the situation. he is likely holding back his true thoughts, dodging direct communication, and when he'd talk with you, he might just be telling you what he thinks you want to hear to avoid a direct confrontation....
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